Question regarding lies......

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  1. LongDongWong

    LongDongWong U can call me Mr.Wong

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    If you found out that your S.O. lied to you about their income, what they do for a living and also during the relationship they told you that they owned a couple of houses, but then you also found out they lied about that also.......



    what would you do ? how would you react? would you continue the relationship?
     
  2. quid

    quid I Piss Excellence OT Supporter

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    definatly be done with that one.... lieing about anything is grounds for dismissal
     
  3. Cerridwen

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    How close was this SO?
    I wouldn't stay if I found anything like that out. You don't know who they really are!
     
  4. LongDongWong

    LongDongWong U can call me Mr.Wong

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    say you both were together for 1.5 years........
     
  5. Cerridwen

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    No offense, but how did you NOT know such major things about them for 1.5 years?
     
  6. CrimsonVonDoom

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    you don't bite the hand that feeds you... so to speak.
     
  7. LongDongWong

    LongDongWong U can call me Mr.Wong

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    the other person played it off very well.....
     
  8. LongDongWong

    LongDongWong U can call me Mr.Wong

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    excuse my ignorance but what do you mean by that????
     
  9. Cerridwen

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    I don't have a CLUE what you mean by that?
     
  10. Cerridwen

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    Are you speaking from your own personal experience?
    A friend's POV?
     
  11. MissKitty

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    My ex told me that he has his own business and lived in a house on the water.

    Both were utter bullshit and the relationship was a very nasty one.

    Listen to your gut instinct
     
  12. Epiphany

    Epiphany 78% of all statistics are made up on the spot

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    I guess no matter what I'd be pissed. A lie is a lie.
     
  13. Miss Red

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    I can't believe you're actually asking this. If your self esteem is so low that you would stay together after lying that much, then you deserve anyheartache that they dish out. You should value yourself more. No one deserves to be lied to that much. If someone did that to me I would dump their ass. You deserve better. Lose the horrible SO and get someone who respects you.
     
  14. purplebeast

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    It depends on what the job actually was. If they were lying to be "cool" or impress u for fucking 18 months. I would dump them.

    However, like I said. It depends on the reason. Fresh out of HS I made a living by hooking up people with other people that could provide them with fake ID's, Socials, Green Cards and got paid a referal fee.. I also drove my mom's van packed w/ people across state lines were the laws were more relaxed to get a DL, etc, etc.

    I never told my SO or friends about it (and to this day I havent). It was/is just a subject too delicate to be sharing w/ people that know me in RL. So before u jump the gun. Ask ur self what r the real reasons, why this person lied to you. If they finally told u the truth, maybe its a sign that the fully trust u.
     
  15. IreLynx

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    I assume it means just what it says (ever heard the saying?). You don't bite the hand that feeds you. If someone is helping you out in some way, providing you with something you want or need, then you don't ask questions or do anything that could put that to a stop unless you want to risk losing their help.

    If you bite the hand that feeds you, that hand is likely to stop providing the food.

    In the OP situation I assume that would mean that the SO was providing a good life for the two of them without disclosing income/career info. If the OP doesn't ask questions, the SO is likely to keep providing. If the OP starts to ask where the money's coming from, then the SO is likely to get defensive and/or distrustful enough to possibly stop providing.
     
  16. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    Those are some pretty major offences, IMO. That's not just some petty shit.

    NEXT!!
     
  17. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    Yup.

    There is practically no reason to lie, little white lies I can handle. Anything bigger and its goodbye.

    A compulsive lier like this one sounds like though, no way in hell.
     
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    quid I Piss Excellence OT Supporter

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    thats what i mean... expecially since she was lieing about such major parts of her life, job, income, she may as well lie about her name and age.

    lies like that mean you dont even know the person you were together with, and since you know she lies, why believe anything she says after this point?
     
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    exactly! also, part of that good life could be sex, depending on what the OP was in it for. you don't want to piss off the woman giving you free access to her lady parts. seems to me that if you're with a person for 1.5 years and don't know that person that well, you're either just in it for the sex, or you have a reason not to question things that don't add up. he had to be getting something in return that he was afraid of losing, sex or otherwise.
     
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    Yer, trust go byebye, thus there's no point being in the relationship.
     
  21. LongDongWong

    LongDongWong U can call me Mr.Wong

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    her reasoning (sp?) was she wanted me to be impressed....she knew my ex-gf and my ex had a great job = great income.....her on the other hand has a ok job and she makes half the amount of the ex, but that doesent matter to me, but to her it did......which is why she came up with the lie...:hs:

    she confessed and told me what her real job is.......i dont know how to feel......:ugh: opinions
     
  22. purplebeast

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    Thats stupid. Guys dont care about girls income. She had no reason to lie.
    So the job aint dirty or anything, it just dont pay well?
     
  23. LongDongWong

    LongDongWong U can call me Mr.Wong

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    its a good job in manufacturing just doesnt pay well.......she's still in college...........
     
  24. LongDongWong

    LongDongWong U can call me Mr.Wong

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    i guess she wanted to appear that she was just as successful if not better than my ex-gf......:hsugh:
     
  25. Cerridwen

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    I completely disagree. I want to know what my husband is doing. I think it's ridiculous to not.
    Are you with that person for their money or something else?
     

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