question regarding ex-FWB

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  1. Buck something?

    Buck something? New Member

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    We werent dating, though out of all the girls ive hooked up with, this is the girl I would date.

    Anyways I have some of this girls stuff who I was hooking up with over the summer. Shes coming by to get it tonight/tommorow

    My question is, can I ask her what happened? I'm over it, I dont care, but I am interested to know why so I can prevent it from happening to future relationships.

    What happened: We met in class, hung out, hooked up, this continued till the class was just about over. She started not returning my phone calls/txts/facebook messages, whatever I got the hint fast and cut off communication. We have exchanged maybe 2 messages since summer happened.
     
  2. Arkaybee

    Arkaybee New Member

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    Dooweet. Just ask her, "So I have a question, what happened between us?" If she gives you the :hsugh: then you know she is just looking for some salami. If she gives you the :hs: then you might be able to get the real answer from her.
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    First of all, don't say you are "over it." Denial is so annoying. You wouldn't be making this thread if you were over it nor would you be asking her why it ended no matter if it's for future reference :rolleyes:

    Secondly, why does it matter? Almost always if a FWB stops returning your calls it's because:
    *She's over it/you
    *She's met someone else

    Just accept it and move on. Give her her shit and say bye.
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl: How am I different?
     
  5. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Like the Monopoly guy?
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :mamoru: now back to thread....
     
  7. Dreams2Reality

    Dreams2Reality saywhat

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    Beer's histerical tonight!
     
  8. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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  9. chica&buddies

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    i agree with this only because it's in the context of an FWB.

    :o from a girl who's had a few in her life, i don't really keep track of or care about why things ended with FWBs.

    imo, it seems as though your problem with this girl is that you developed feelings and they weren't reciprocated. you scared her off, and she bolted.

    :dunno:

    i think it's important to get closure on relationships, but imo, FWBs teach you nothing more than what you want sexually from a person :rofl:.
     
  10. ripcurl

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    she met somebody PERIOD
     
  11. Buck something?

    Buck something? New Member

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    So she sent me this message on FB (actually about a month before this thread was made):

    YAY i forgot about those!
    thanks I actually really like 313 too but i dont get many compliments so i pretend like i dont like it haha. next time your having a party give me a jingle and ill stop by 12953687 thanks for reminding me

    Would sending her back this be out of line? I don't think so. any other perspectives?


    subject: claire de lune

    This song gets guys wet
    *link to sheet music*

    Id love to here you play it sometime.





    shes really good at piano:dunno:
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    What are you trying to get? Are you trying to get her to be your fuck buddy again or hoping for a relationship?

    If you are shooting for a relationship you're going about it all wrong.
     
  13. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

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    whats the point? do you want her to be your friend or do you want her to be your girlfriend?
     
  14. ripcurl

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    i like that response alot - it lets her respond and give you a better gauge at what is going on.

    The risk is if it's not the response she was looking for(that matches her intentions), you may not get a response period.
     
  15. Buck something?

    Buck something? New Member

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    either or :dunno:
     
  16. ripcurl

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    Then I think there is nothing wrong with that response. It will definitely give you a good idea of what her intentions are - if any.

    good luck
     
  17. Buck something?

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    Yeah, she tried to play it for me once but didnt know it. I sent

    she said

    Looks like I struck out
     
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  18. dan7532

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    Suggestion: make LOTS of fwbs. Then you won't sweat it when one goes away. Don't beat yourself up trying to figure it out, it's better to just go get more.
     

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