question on "cheating"

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  1. crazy15

    crazy15 New Member

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    ok so when you are dating someone, does that make you two exclusive, as in not allowed to see other people. I'm with a girl, we arent at full on dating, more like "casual" dating, as in 1 step down from dating, but more than friends. So if i messed around with other girls, would you consider that cheating?
     
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    who knows with girls...
     
  3. giapia

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    this is probably something you should bring up with the girl you're seeing, just so that you both know what's up
     
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    Yep. See what both of you want/expect from the relationship at this point in time.
     
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    if it feels wrong, it probably is
     
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    communication
     
  7. Cerridwen

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    :eek3: What an amazing idea! :mamoru:
    IMO if you can't do it in front of your SO, you probably shouldn't be doing it.
     
  8. Phantom Empress

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    The word games of "Dating", "exclusive" Blah blah blah. Just talk about. We're NOT seeing other people, we ARE free to see other people, touching is ok with others above the waist, No touching at all.. Just talk about it. How hard is that concept?
     
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    :bigthumb: very hard on some people... very hard.

    Same with the go ask your doctor thing.
     
  10. bandwagon

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    Make her earn your exclusivity.
     
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    If you live together, you're exclusive.

    If you see her 3-7 days a week, you're BF/GF.

    If you see her 1-2 times a week, you're dating.

    Roughly. You have to make your own rules. Question is ... why do you ask? If you are looking at other women, then she's clearly not "the one."

    For me, cheating is anything you would NOT do in front of your SO.
     
  12. crazy15

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    haha, well we are both young. So i am pretty sure she isnt the "one" that i am going to marry and live my life with. but yeah ill see, i dunno what im doing anymore :/
     
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    you should probably check with her first, just to be safe. but you might also be able to judge it by figuring that if its something that you might be upset at her for doing, you probably shouldn't be.
     
  14. giapia

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    that's a good rule of thumb :bigthumb:
     
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    Personally, nothing is cheating unless you BOTH say/claim exclusivity. I'd let her be the first to talk of anything about a relationship, though. I'm dating, so I am seeing more than one lady, one or two dates usually determines another or not.
     
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    This probably should have been clarified awhile ago. I wouldn't bring it up unless you are actually going to get serious, in which case I'd probably wouldn't be doing it in the first place...
     
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    You go up to the chick you're dating and ask if you're okay to date someone else and let me know how long she puts up with it. I had a glorified booty call for 8 months. We set the ground rules up front that we were exclusive as far as sex went but never said the L word or thought it would grow. If you don't have anything like that in the picture, you need to see how you can find out where you stand with her. If she's serious and you want to date other people or are thinking about it then maybe you don't need to be with her. If she tells you she has been dating others or you know she has, it's another story.
     
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    dating does not make you exclusive, NOTHING makes you exclusive unless you both discuss it.
     
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    what are you afraid shes gonna find out about something? haha nooblet. remember, you have nothing to hide from women
     
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  21. crazy15

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    lol this thread is still alive?

    me and the girl broke up :( but whatever. haha, and its not because of the chat. which we never had.
     
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    judging from your 3 sentence post i would say that it is not cheating but who knows... just talk to her, communication is key. See what you both want :dunno:
     
  23. RoninJinn

    RoninJinn Oh it's just *****girl...

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    Best rule I've ever learned...

    It's not Exclusive until it's been VERBALLY agree'd. I have been in more than a few serious relationships, the first couple of weeks/months of a relationship, is just getting to know and "dating" for me. I never even let "exclusive" cross my mind until the words have been spoken and agree'd upon between both me and the female. You have to SAY it, not assume it.

    (P.S. Some may say this would not work, especially because female's assume things all the time. But the "Well, you never said" excuse is the best defense, and has never failed me)
     

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