Question for the Single Men

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  1. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Ok, so im generally an extremely extroverted person, but recently I've noticed something about myself.

    Im single and can honestly say right now im 'dating' or 'talking' to about 4, maybe 5 girls. Contact has been made with all, whether its kissing, touching, or I've slept with them.

    Now heres the question I rise...

    How often do you see that call/text coming in and go "Ughhhhhhh"? I dont know if recently im sick of the girls in paticular, I dont know if its just ME and just wanting to chill/relax with out the constant worry of girls?

    I dont know what it is. But perfect example...

    This morning I woke up to 4 text messages from 3 different people.

    1 was from Lindsay, a girl I talked to for like 15 mins before I went to bed. Texted me twice saying good morning and some other useless jazz.

    1 was from Samantha saying she was going to the beach and hopes I had a good day at work

    And I had 1 from another girl I semi blew off last night but she texted me this morning re-affirming we had plans for tonight.

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    I was instantly irritated. Am I just being a moody little bitch? Am I just knit picking at shit that doesn't matter?

    The only thought running through my mind is the fact that I DO NOT want a serious relationship and these girls, although they say and play they don't either, all seem 'clingy' in a sense to me. The constant texting, the constant asking of, "are you busy?" etc etc. Its getting to me.


    am I alone on this?

    Essentially what im saying is... how much is too much when you're single? What are you ok with? What bothers you when casually dating a girl?
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    HOLY FUCK FALCONER STYLED POST, Im sorry guys :rofl:
     
  3. ldaggerl

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    Maybe they pulled the whole situation where they will will tell you they don't want a relationship but deep down want one and are hoping you'll turn around. I don't mind it if the girl is texting me a lot but at times I do not want to talk to them and just have my own time.
     
  4. controvert

    controvert OT Supporter

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    Not alone in the slightest bit, in my opinion as a single guy.

    OT might have jaded you a bit, or maybe you've been burned in the past and said "F it, I'm just going to be ::a certain way:::" :dunno:

    I think you'll eventually find one you're never tired of and your state of mind will change from what it is. I don't think you're far off in the casual dating sense, but you shouldn't "have" to put up with something irritating to you if you're just dating them.

    What am I ok with? It's different with everyone, but enjoying someone's company is on the list, more-so than just a date with drinks/fucking.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    See, thats the thing, I dont even want that
     
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    controvert OT Supporter

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    D'oh, amended my post.


    In that case, I wouldn't change what you're doing now by running through a few :o
     
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    XaPU!M Active Member

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    I wouldn't worry about anything man, 95% of women irritate the fuck out of me.

    When I find some within the 5% that don't, I'll date them just to find out they actually do irritate the fuck out of me and I go back to being single.

    I try not to think about why, or what I can do to change it :dunno:
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    First sentence, thank you, makes me feel im not alone.


    And the second point is pretty spot on... it just seems like I can't 'tolerate' a girl after a certain point. Not ALL girls are like that, but jesus, im going for a 80% count here at this point.

    Its why i've been single for a year and before that, I was ALWAYS the relationship type.

    :dunno: I feel like its me at times... but then again, I don't really care how the girls react to it.
     
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    XaPU!M Active Member

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    It used to bother me a bit, I thought there was something I should change so that I wasn't so agitated by women.

    But then I realized that it doesn't actually bother me. And when I watch my friends relationships I cringe. Getting calls every 30 minutes, telling them what you are doing, where you are, who your with, defending that your not doing something they don't like.

    Hanging out at their places and watching them get bitched at about this or that. Having to listen to stories no one gives a fuck about, I don't care how cute those fucking kittens are on youtube!!!

    I like doing what I want, when I want, not having to run it by anyone or check in with anyone. It's relaxing, peaceful, and a lot more enjoyable.

    But even though girls annoy me, I can't get enough of them :hsd:
     
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    im not single but when i was i felt the same. it happens when you're "dating" girls that you know you do not have a REAL interest in.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    :eek3: :bowdown: my nga :h5:

    Thats the issue, as much as I know I get annoyed, as much as I know ill get frustrated, im still out there every day trying to find 'new' girls, even while dealing w/ the ones I have now... its an inevitable fate :rofl:
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I never got annoyed when girls texted me. If I didn't want to hear from them, I wouldn't deal with them. :dunno:
     
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    moody little bitch :mamoru:
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    :rofl: :fawk:
     
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    Not single anymore, but ill chime.

    Partly yes.


    It's called friendly communication, but whatever...


    You say 80% annoy you, so how about only opening lines of communication with the 20%. It's not rocket surgery. :hsugh:
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    Friendly communication isnt every hour on the hour....
     
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    I don't think you're obligated to respond to every text message.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    Oh I dont, believe me :rofl:
     
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    I'm glad i'm just old enough to have missed most of text messaging madness. :o
     
  20. jackjohnson

    jackjohnson simple as something nobody knows OT Supporter

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    That's just the way it is. I don't get girls at all and when I'm single I'm not really talking to anyone. But last year I was talking to 2-3 girls at one time and I was just like :ugh: leave me alone. I started exclusively dating one of them and the whole time I was questioning it and in general was annoyed.

    of course when it all stops you become unhappy and lonely and want the attention back.
     
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    Dreams2Reality saywhat

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    Nigra please.

    As your brother, I'll opt out of my opinion.
     
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    Dreams2Reality saywhat

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    I will say it's in the blood though, bitches annoy me too. It's our Italian and Portuguese son, no patience and tolerance.

    Just punch em' in the baby maker and move on.

    Oh, and get rid of Samantha. I hate that bitch.
     
  23. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    :bowrofl:

    was all serious reading the thread until I got to this post.

    I agree though, I do get irritated with women at times, but I will admit that there are other times where I like that they "care" enough to keep on making contact.

    Bottom line is, I too do not care about that cute kitten on youtube.
     
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    You ppl are juggling girls and are complaining. :ugh:
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    Yeah....


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