SRS Question for the guys

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  1. verdiocchi

    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    Do you guys kiss your moms on the mouth? I'm trying to get a little perspective on this and I'm not sure what's normal (since I'm a chick). Your thoughts? :dunno:
     
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    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    Cheek Only Here...
     
  3. verdiocchi

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    That's kinda what I thought was normal...
     
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    i dunno if its an italian thing, but with my family, anyone we kiss its always like, the very corner of our mouth but 99% cheek. deff don't kiss any of my family on the lips, like, dead on. yuk, lol.
     
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    cheek
     
  7. verdiocchi

    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    Ok so would it be wrong for me to be somewhat bothered if my boyfriend were to kiss his mom on the mouth?
     
  8. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    I would be bothered, if not a little grossed out... but then again what culture is he from? Maybe it is acceptable there.
     
  9. verdiocchi

    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    Yeah for his family it's what's normal. But it still bugs me. I've tried to get over it for several months but every time I see it, it makes me uncomfortable.

    Next question: If you guys were to kiss your mom on the mouth all the time and your gf said it made her uncomfortable and asked if you could just kiss her on the cheek instead, what would you say?
     
  10. verdiocchi

    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    So it's not something you'd be willing to change?
     
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    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    If his kissing is equal to me hugging my mom, then no I would not change it.
     
  12. verdiocchi

    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    It might be equal in his mind, but it's not equal physically. I'm having a hard time with this whole thing because I love his mom and I'm glad they're close but the kissing thing just freaks me out. I feel like that's something guys grow out of when they're younger. Not that they should stop caring about or respecting their moms, but that they should show it in a different way, like hugging or kissing on the cheek.
     
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    unless hes making out with his mom, i don't see why your uncomfortable
     
  14. verdiocchi

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    Cause I can't seem to find any other guy that does this. I've never really seen it before and I think it's just a little too close for comfort. I don't know, I can't really explain it, it just weirds me out a little.
     
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    I don't kiss my Mom at all :dunno:
     
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    Are you jealous of his Mom?
     
  17. verdiocchi

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    Whoa, chill out. I don't expect to change his whole fam or him for that matter. I came here to figure out exactly how to handle it. I'd never really seen a mother and son relate that way and I don't understand it. I know that those are my two options and I'm figuring I'm just going to have to get over it. I just wanted to get some male perspective to see if I have a right to even be weirded out or if that behavior is completely normal.
     
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    This is all I'm even considering doing. But I didn't know if I even had a right to be bothered by it.
     
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    Nope. Cheek. I actually am more often the kissee than the kisser. I can't think of the last time I actually kissed my mom on the cheek.
     
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    When me and my brother were very young (5-6 years) it was normal to kiss mom and dad goodnight and it was an act purely out of love for my parents. I outgrew it completely, i know that Italians even among guys in some cases kisses on the cheek are completely normal, heck even in saudi-arabia stuff like that happens. But even among Italians or Saudi-arabians for an adult/teen son, to kiss the mother full on the mouth, well not only have i never heard of it, i can imagine why this freaks you out. However his mom is not a competitor for you or anything, and if this is an act out of love between them, i would accept that and not intervene, simular like you would see two gay men kissing or two lesbians, its because they share a bond, no one gets hurt in the process even tho it can be freaky/disgusting , its better that they have a bond like that, instead of throwing kitchen knives at eachother. Its not the end of the world, just accept it or leave.
     
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    when i was little, yes. now... nah
     
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    when i was little, yea, now, umm, i havent kissed my mom since i was little. the only person i give and get kisses from right now is my 2 year old son...
     
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    Heh, this kinda feels like an episode of Seinfeld.

    Where did he grow up? Lots of other cultures show much more affection than Americans.
     
  25. verdiocchi

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    He's American. Born and raised in FL. And yeah, it does sound kinda like an episode of Seinfeld, except I'm not going to break up with him over it. I just want to understand it a little better so I'm not as weirded out.
     

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