Question for married guys

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  1. TonyH

    TonyH New Member

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    Guys,
    I've been married 21 years and I have not had sex in the last 4 years, my wife isn't interested. What should I do?
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Umm, have you talked to her about this :ugh:?
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    And why is this a question for married guys :ugh:?
     
  4. fray

    fray New Member

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    why do you think you haven't had sex in 4 years?
     
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    vodkacollins New Member

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    we need more details.

    have you attempted to have sex with her and she has said no for 4 years?

    have you been having other problems at all in those 4 years?
     
  6. MattThom01

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    counseling or divorce.

    When the sex stops, something is usually wrong with the relationship. And if it's been 4 years...well, she is most likely gone emotionally and sticking with you for a roof over her head, financial support, or the kids.

    And yeah, I'm not married, but I'd be worried after a month of no sex, let alone 4 years.
     
  7. TonyH

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    We have not been a couple to talk about sex much.

    After the first few months of her saying no I just stopped asking.
     
  8. fray

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    well, there's your first problem, and i'm going to assume the lack of communication carries over into the rest of your relationship and is causing problems there which you are both just ignoring as well.
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Well seeing as how your amount of details lies in one sentence it's obvious you are both horrible at communicating.

    Please consider marriage counseling. Maybe they can force you guys to open up.
     
  10. Miss Red

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    Why not make a romantic night for her? If that doesn't work, talk with her.
     
  11. fray

    fray New Member

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    sounds like they're past that point...



    based on the huge amount of detail provided.
     
  12. MattThom01

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    LOL, it's been 4 years. They are way beyond a simple fix like that
     
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    chloroform and lube...:hsugh:














    srsly though...you need either a lawyer or a counselor...
     
  14. Miss Red

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    Well, it's just a jolt. Just a way to mix up something stagnant. I am in full agreement with IWYWB that OP and his SO desperately need a counselor. Something good had to have been happening the first 17 years.
     
  15. Miss Red

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    So what are you going to do if you're with a woman that has a baby?
     
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    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    do you have kids?
     
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    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    find someone else, duh. as long as you still love your wife, go out and safely take care of your sexual needs elsewhere. dont go for a hooker its dangerous (getting caught by police, stds etc.) Find a nice girl online or something, just dont get caught and you'll be fine. you can go on being there for your wife with everything she needs and get the sexual aspect that is missing. it mite even allow you to be a better husband, you will feel less like she owes you something or that its somehow your fault.

    this is all still assuming you enjoy being around her and spending time with her.
     
  20. MattThom01

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    Oh yeah. That's smart. Then she'll go do the same thing (if she isn't already) and they'll basically just be friends who are married.

    That would only really be viable if she was fine with him sleeping with other people...any other way is just going to make their problems worse.
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :ugh2: Infidelity FTW :ugh:

    Or they could actually talk about it like adults and not just turn to cheating. But I know you like to sleep with married women, right?

    If they were together for 17 years before this dry spell of sex I think they should be comfortable enough with one another to at least address the issue before they turn to just fucking other people. Or divorce.
     
  22. Viper

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    Assert yourself more.
     
  23. Emfuser

    Emfuser Nuclear Moderator Super Moderator

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    The only correct answer is that you need to seek marital counseling. If you've been married that long and your relationship has faltered that badly, you're going to need the help of professional relationship therapists to determine where the two of you stand and how to proceed.
     
  24. Viper

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    How about giving some practical advice?

    NOBODY seriously takes that advice on a message board. NOBODY. They seek out a message board because they aren't going to go to counselling.

    So, we might as well try to help.
     
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    Emfuser Nuclear Moderator Super Moderator

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    You're a fucking idiot. :ugh:
     

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