question about male orgasm

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  1. Insert

    Insert Active Member

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    Not sure if this is the wrong forum or not, so please feel free to move the thread if necessary.

    Ever since my sex life started I've had this issue where when I am about to cum I lose a certain degree of my hardness. It varies, but usually it's noticeable enough that it bothers me or it has been so bad at times that I'd have to stop (I'm a grower). It only happens when I'm having sex though; everything is fine when I do it myself. My current GF and I are used to it by now and just adjust around it, but obviously if the problem can be fixed I'd love to make it better.
     
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    Maybe you are having anxiety over how big of a load you're gonna blow? Before it happens, are you thinking about how it's going to look or how shes going to think of it?

    I would recommend just relaxing and concentrating all your thoughts on how god damn fine she is and how good its going to feel.

    P.S. Pics of girlfriend

    P.P.S. Pics of your erect shaft so I can make an instruction manual on how it should play out.
     
  3. Insert

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    Definitely not anxiety at all. We're both extremely comfortable around eachother and she swallows almost every time so I never even see it.
     
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    Is it fear of how long you have lasted? If it doesnt happen when you're jacking off, and it happens when you are with her, its definitely a mental thing. If you can pinpoint where it is, or make a special effort to not think of anything besides that moment in time, maybe it will help
     
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    Yea I guess you're right it definitely has to be something mental then. I can't recall thinking about anything besides the fact that when it starts happening I just say fuck to myself in my head. I'll try to keep a clear head or see if I can pinpoint the problem next time it happens.

    Now that I think about it though, it usually happens when I'm not able to last that long and only in certain positions. With her on top I can easily go for an hour with zero problems. When we do doggy or side by side (spooning) that's when it seems to become a problem. Maybe because I can't see her or something?
     
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    Or because doggystyle is hot as fuck and nothing is more sexy than the back side of a girl thus making you bust quicker and think "fuck" whenever you are about to blow soon etc. and your sidekick says I have failed you master and attempts to commit suicide but its too late? :hsughr:
     
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    :rofl:

    Yea maybe that's it.
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    How often do you masturbate?
     
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    Its because you masturbate too often.
     
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    We have sex two days a week and 2-3 times each day. I masturbate maybe once a week if that so I doubt that's it.
     
  11. Abomb

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    the male orgasm is NOT a myth
     
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    Are you wearing condoms?

    Whenever I wear condoms I'm not as hard as I am when I'm bareback... It's the loss of feeling that makes my penis not as hard.
     
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    Nope don't use condoms. Doesn't seem like there's any logical answer for this happening besides it being purely mental.
     
  14. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    I was going to simply say condoms as like most people I don't find it quite the same.

    But now I don't know the answer. Sorry
     
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    if i'm wearing a condom and i dont cum when i get the feeling, i'll go limp shortly afterwards
     
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    Maybe it's because your dick is in her mouth and not her pussy. :dunno:
     
  17. Falconer

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    It's pretty normal dude. That's happened to me before, even when I masturbate. Like I'll be getting pretty close to the point of no return, and I'll stop for a sec (cuz I'm not ready to cum yet), and a bit of pre cum will come out and it will be a little softer. I think it has to do with the natural softening of the penis after orgasm... I think that "process" gets slightly engaged.
     
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    Normally when the body orgasms and cums, the dick then goes soft. I believe this reflex is being triggered slightly when you are "close" to cumming.
     
  19. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    is it a legend?
     
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    you just blew my fucking mind bro :eek3:
     
  21. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    I just blew a fucking loa...

    :o
     

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