SRS pushed into the dating scene..ugh!

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  1. Vixxen

    Vixxen New Member

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    looks like i'll have to start actively dating.this sucks ass!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    i don't even know if i'm ready, but if i procrastinate, i'll NEVER do it. i hate bars, but that's where i usually hook up with people. any other suggestions?

    please don't say the store because i go at least twice a week and haven' met anyone even worthy of my number.(and i say that in the least snootiest way possible)

    is calling people you've brushed off a bad idea? :ugh:
     
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    Sounds like you're looking for people because you're desparate. Dunno.
     
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    umm, no. but thanks for that
     
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    bars/clubs/parties suck for meeting decent people... Why would you ever want to meet someone who has been drinking, and is not being theirself? Find people places that you enjoy going to. You will find those who have the same interests as you.
     
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    If you don't like the club/bar scene maybe you should give the online dating thing a try, other than that you might have to count on friends trying to hook you up with mutual friends or something.
     
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    I bet you haven't even approached every girl you wanted to at the store.

    You're willing to hook up with girls at bars/clubs, yet you rule out a grocery store?

    Are you hoping to meet someone which you could develop a relationship with, or are you wanting to get laid a lot?
     
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    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Depends on who it is and why you brushed them off! Things you have to thing about before you mkae the call!
     
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    i enjoy movies. not a good place to meet unless you want me to scout out the concession lines :hsugh:
     
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    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    You would find a lot of young ones...
     
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    what is the best online dating service?
     
  11. Socrates

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    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Adultfriendfinder.com
     
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    myspace?! yeah i've been on a few dates with people on there







    NEVER EVER AGAIN!!!
     
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    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Myspace has nothing but young people that lie about their age!
     
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    or older ones that lie about their age!

    do you guys usually date older or younger?
     
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    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Older for me. Hate younger women they're all fucking stupid in my books.
     
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    I know how you feel.. I am recently marketable heh..

    however, you think you have it bad.. try dating while deployed.. not going to happen.. lol
     
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    god damnit
     
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    1st of all, you arent pushed into it at all.

    2nd of all, it sounds like you're a bit holier than thou.

    Lastly, the dating 'scene' is everything in life. If you're dating, you're in the scene. Figure out what you really want in a man (not the usual BS platitudes, but what you really want) and then go to places where they tend to accumulate.

    Also, work on yourself. Develop hobbies and activities that take place in social areas. Sooner or later you're bound to meet a match.
     
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    holier than thou??

    yeah, ok. not really sure how you got that impression, but whatev.
    thanks for the advice though
     
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    Meeting through similar hobby is probably best. So besides actually taking up hobbies that require bunch of people to congregate (which is obviously difficult, for eaxmple if your hobby is going to art gallery or watch movie...) and therefore allowing you to meet those other people, the internet is the best bet.

    Meeting people otherwise (say, in grocery stores etc.) tend to lead to short flings unlikely to last: Even if at first it seems like you are compatible and you are attacted to each other physically, it's over after you get to know each other better in a couple weeks and realized you have very different ideals and hobbies etc.
     
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    my schedule is insane so the internet thing is probably my best bet. my only problem is i've met and dated a few people online and umm, it just never got past the 1st date. i think i've just been a bit lazy and i was in a situation that allowed me to be. now i find myself having to be a little more aggressive in that scene and i don't really know where to go.

    eh, maybe i'm just making excuses for myself because it's not something i really want to do. :dunno:
     
  23. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    You're going to have to try to get out and find someone. First impressions last a lifetime! Well, some do.
     
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    Hang out with friends. A huge majority of people meet other people in their social circles. This means parties, going out to clubs/bars together, or just hanging out together.
     
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    that's ok. you're not the first one who's made that mistake.

    thanks, viper ;)
     

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