I am at a point in my life where I have a wonderful girlfriend and great life. I have been talking to Kalypso for awhile and he is a god among men. Everyone here, when Kalypso is right, he is right. So thank you brother This in no way is a call out to anyone, if you are mentioned in this thread, it is a matter of respect and an open question to you, for you to answer. Now onto the post. I have watched all these PUA's, from, to Yail, to Poco, to XaPU!M, to Falconer, to Ware_RU, to Viper, to JohnJohnJohnson, to Sqlee, to myself. We all share something in common. We all came here after a major loss or break up in our lives. We worked hard to get where we are, we wanted to overcome the loss we suffered and never go through the same problems we did again. We read all sorts of books on PUA, how to handle realtionships, how to be real men, and masculine men. We have the views of sexists in women's eyes. Deep down though we are all trying to prevent this previous problem from happening. We may say it's not a fear of ours, but if it wasn't would we be here giving advice to others, going out and making field reports about this all? We sit here day in and day out arguing with the women of the forum, and saying our views are right or that what we have said is very well grounded, but deep down I believe we all hope to never go through what we did that forced us to come here. I know all of this is true about myself. I try so hard to make things work for myself. I took everyone's advice, I went out, I worked hard to polish this whole pick up skill in my mind. How to approach, what to say, how to say it, but deep down, this was all to cover up a deeper insecurity of being hurt. If anyone else shares this same feeling it's fine, if not please explain why you are here and so big on being into this PUA scene. I don't support most of the women in this forum, but I do have a deep respect for Iwishyouwerebeer and demosnat. So these two make a major impact on my opinions as well. I find I am easily if not most of the time looking to Iwishyouwerebeer to better understand women, because she is my female support throughout all this, she explains things from a female's perspective and makes things clear to me. So I want to thank her now. And she knows her job for this thread. Let me get back to the point at hand. I may be one of the most successful people on this forum, but deep down, I'm not here to be part of a PUA culture, I just want to understand women better and to be able to prevent past problems from happening again. Maybe we all on some level are insecure, but we do a good job at hiding it. The PUA's though, we are very strong here, we have a dominance over this forum, people look up to us. From Yail and his success stories, to Poco and his be a genleman idea, to Ware_RU and his life's self improvement quest. To Viper and his enjoy your life and they will come idea, to Falconer's want to make it, Johnjohnjohnson, who is very important to who I am today, and XaPU!M, who I agree to his methods without a doubt, every single one of you, have impacted me in some way and for that I am grateful. The one thing I have been eager to know about all of you though is, is this what you want, do you believe this is the future and are we all headed in the right direction? I think we are, but at the same time we have so many people against us, we don't think like the crowd and that makes people upset. W are Black sheep in this world fighting a battle that we didn't have to so many years ago. Maybe it is the times and we are the beginning of an era. I think it's time to understand and put this forth that we as PUA's or as people who genuinely love women want to become better. To treat women better overall. To make them happy and to be their saviour from this boring world. We support women and want them to be happy, because as males it is our nature to want to make the females of the opposite sex cared for and protected. No matter what the means or the methods. Any one of the people in this thread feel free to disagree with me, you are the ones this thread is written to, the rest are insignificant. Now all of you, that I have mentioned, please understand that the women of the vag will always disagree with you, but deep down, they wish to some extent one of us was part of their lives. I know I have a few females that wish I was part of their lives. The one thing I have learned though, no matter how much you read, it doesn't compare to one night in the actual world seeing things in action. So what the major point I am getting at is, if you are a PUA or into this culture, are you trying to prevent some previous problem from happening again or are you trying to make yourself happy?