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  1. Kirby McSpic

    Kirby McSpic New Member

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    I'm starting this topic to ask for advice for my problem. Whenever I have sex with my GF, I can't seem to come. So far out of the 6-7 times we've had sex, she's come but I haven't. It's frustrating to the point that I stopped in all those occasions, since I didn't see the point. Any one got any pointers as to what I can do? Thanks in Advance. :)
     
  2. Shibboleth

    Shibboleth teh mad Plato skillz

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    Check the vaginarium. Other than that, try relaxing :dunno:
     
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    Kirby McSpic New Member

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    I guess I gotta relax :squint: any thing to take/drink (besides booze & drugs) that'll relax me?
     
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    It all about relaxing.. how old are you?
     
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    Kirby McSpic New Member

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    19, almost 20. Why?
     
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    Just asking, these types of things either occur in druggies or drunks, or in younger men.
    Have you ever successfully ejaculated from intercourse?
     
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    Kirby McSpic New Member

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    No not yet, you think it's a matter of age?
     
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    more than likely a matter of comfort level. :hs:
     
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    Kirby McSpic New Member

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    Well, I had waited about 1 year to have sex with her, so my motivation is there. I dunno about comfort, since i've always tried making her feel comfortable about it. :(
     
  10. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    well i'm sure she's pretty comfy by now. try using her vagina to make your penis feel happy, at least once, so that you can actually orgasm.
     
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    Are you able to get yourself off? You need to be able to make urself come before you can expect others too. (just my opinion)

    An idea, mabey you could try to see if you can relax sexualy is to masterbate infront of each other. It is not only kinky, but it my help reduce the stress level.

    Vein
     
  12. the_wheel_man

    the_wheel_man Now I'm stealing her body and taking it home...

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    I had this problem. I just could not cum, no matter what the situation, how relaxed i was, whatever.

    if you think its not being stressed, etc try this,

    get her to lie on her back, put a pillow or two under her ass (depending on how tall you are) get her to spread her legs (the more spread, the looser it is, so go with what feels good for you) and lift them up, then fuck her like that.
     
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    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

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    do you have any performance issues when masturbating?

    if not, i think you're psyching yourself out. the more times you guys have sex and you don't orgasm, the more pressure you'll place on yourself the next time.

    is it specific to vaginal intercourse or does the same thing happen with oral sex?
     
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    1) No.

    2) Yes, specific to vaginal intercourse. :squint:
     
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    Kirby McSpic New Member

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    I'll try that ty. :x:
     
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    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

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    are you getting anywhere near orgasm when you do it?
     
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    Very, almost to the point where I'm getting ready for it. At that moment, I can't either physically keep going, or I just stop for no apparent reason. :ugh:
     
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    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

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    what happens if she's on top when you're close?
     
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    Kirby McSpic New Member

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    Actually, doggystyle is the only one to get me close so far.
     
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    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

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    hrm... going on the assumption that it's all in your head... what about getting yourself closer to the "goal" each time?

    next time you start to get close, what about pulling out and finishing yourself off on her?
     
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    Agreed......I dunno if I missed it but what is going thru your head during those few moments before when you are "close." Do you starting thinking, oh no no, am I going to come or not? :noes: Then you start worry that you won't, then it will go downhill from there, then frustration kicks in, then it gets worse and worse. Then your :cocked: :(
     
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    :eek3: I never thought about it that way. Very good point you got there. :bigthumb:
     
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    And well, I don't care where I finish off on really, as long as I actually FINISH. :(
     
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    Oh, and there any teas or things like that to help me relax?
     
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    how soon after you guys start going at it, does she come? the reason why i ask is cause, somtimes my gf will come, and then once she comes i subconsciously feel pressure to also come, so im think, come on, come on, finnish up, and when you do that, it actually takes sooooo much longer and i find it hard to come. next time, try your hardest to not even think about coming. also maybe try to hold your gf off, until you come and then finish her off...when you feel like you need to come right that moment, it really makes it tough. wow, i said come a lot
     

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