I'll try to make this as short as possible, but it's a long story. My mom has had over 20 surgeries, from a tumor pressing against her spinal cord to a hernia. This latest surgery was her 3rd time or so for a hernia. She went into the hospital on a thursday like 3 weeks ago, I was in springfield missouri working that day which is about 3 to 3.5 hours away from kansas city. I asked my oldest sister(my only step-sister) to keep me updated on what was going on, so she called me 3 times throughout the day. She then asked if I wanted to follow her to see my mom on friday, I had to remind her I have to work throughout the week and would be at work from like 8am to 4pm or so. Friday rolls around and my step-sister calls me and tells me that mom is in a lot of pain, and doesn't want any vistors, but is doing fine other then that. I tell her ok, and ask a couple more questions, I'm told that she is supposed to get out of the hospital on thursday(a week after the surgery). On Tuesday(2 days before she's suppposed to get out) I give my mom a call and we talk for about an hour about nothing really. However she tells me she really doesn't want vistors, and that she's in a lot of pain, other then that she's fine. As far as I know and have been told she is supposed to get out in 2 days and go to my step-sisters house and stay there for a week or so. Thursday rolled around and I didn't hear anything, and I forgot to call my sister to ask what was going on. I thought if something serious had happened/or something changed I would have gotten a call from my step-sister. The next time I hear anything is on sat. 2 days after she was supposed to get out. My real sister called me and said that mom was still in the hospital and was having problems. At that point my real sister and I make plans to go to the hospital the next day as she's still working on that saturday. I then decide to call my step-sister as she's probably going to the hospital every day since she doesn't have to work, maybe she knows something my real sister and I don't. When I call her, she goes off on me for not going to see her or call her, and basically tells me what a horrible son I am. I then say "you told me she didn't company, and I have called her" She started to say I should have done more and I tell her I'm ripping up carpet at my mom's house, painting the basement while working 40-50 hours a week out in the heat. She says I should be doing that because of the 1500 my mom loaned me to get my transmission fixed in my truck. I start yelling over the phone "I'm sorry I have to work 40-50 hours a week to make endsmeat, I don't have someone who makes 70K a year to support me like you do." This goes on for a while and she says it's not revlant that her husband supports her. While my sister and I are arguing, she brings up things from 5 years ago, and just throwing anything she can in my face. I then tell her she needs to quit acting like my 2nd mom, and she responded that she's not my mom, and I came back with she tries to act like it at times and that's why my real sister and I can't stand her. At the end of the argument I tell her I'm done with her and hang up. My real sister and I go see my mom the next day at the hospital and stay for about an hour, my mom got out a couple days after that. I called my mom on her cell a couple times while she's at my step-sisters house to see how she was doing. Earlier this week my mom went off the pain meds cold turkey, and the pain came back, so she went back into the hospital again. My real sister and I went to see her again and talked with her for over a hour this time. She got out a couple days later and went back to my step-sisters house, and has been there since. The problem is I don't know how to handle this, my mom wants her kids to get along, but I don't see that happening. My step-sister is 11 years older then me, and 9 years older then my real sister, anytime my sister or I make a mistake or anything really my step sister is there to point that out to our mom. sorry for the long story, but if you made it through that and can give advice--thanks.