Since this is probably going to be pretty long, ill get to the premise of the whole thing first. My dad and I barely get along, and I feel like I want nothing to do with him, but I think thats gonna hurt me later. I dont know what to do or how to do it. Ill move on to the backstory now. The first 12 years of my life I lived in a family of four with one older brother. My dad worked his carpentry business, and my mom stayed home. My brother was never good in school, and barely graduated highschool. I was always the smarter and smaller one, and now getting my degree at a university. Growing up I sort of felt like my Dad favored my brother because of his willingness to labor, and his greater strength. Also because I would rather play video games or make a website or write a program than work in the woodshop all day. In 6th grade my parents got a divorce, and my mom moved to a town 3 hours away from our home. From then on I lived at home with my Dad and my brother. When I got into highschool, my brother had gotten kicked out of it, and moved to my Moms place to attend that highschool. So then it was just my dad and I living together, and my mom and brother. This is when we started to really have problems. He was angry because of all the time I spent on the internet, or on the computer. I love working with computers, I love learning new programming languages, new software, or whatever. He would get so mad if I was on the computer during the day, and not outside, that there were many times I had to physically defend my computer. One time he tried smashing it with a hammer, another time he punched it and left a fatty dent on the case. And it wasn't like I was just neglecting the outside world, or having friends or anything like that. I had plenty of friends all through my school years, the problem was that I lived 45 minutes from the closest town. When I went home after school, I was home for good. None of my friends ever would drive out there, it was always me who drove into town to hang out with people...something I couldn't do during the week. So at home I would get on AIM and chat with friends or work on a project or something. Junior year of highschool he did something I will never forgive him for. We got really into it the night before, and when I came home from school the next day, all of my things were in a huge pile on the front porch. And I mean EVERYTHING. My room was entirely white walled and dry. He was still at work, so he had left a note that said "call your mom". So I said fuck that, packed my car, and drove to my moms house. I stayed there for a year, then moved back for the last semester to finish off highschool where i started it, and with all of my friends. Now that I'm in college, my dad and I hardly ever speak. He'll call me if he gets an important letter from my university or whatever, but never just to say hi or "how are you". And its the same with me. I never feel I have a reason to call him, and never wonder what hes doing or how he is. He tells my mom that he feels "left out" of my college experience, and feels like I'm ignoring him...but then when he talks to me hes very short and cold. When I visited him last winter break we got in an argument over me calling him and not leaving a message, and he started comparing me to one of my friends. I told him "Our family is not the same as his family", and he said "Well you're the one making it that way". I drove away and didn't talk to him for a few days. God damn, sorry this is so long. Anyways, I feel like I want nothing to do with him most of the time. I feel like hes never supported anything I was interested in, and tried forcing me to follow the same path as him because he thought it was the only way. I feel that as a parent, he should have cultivated my strengths and supported me...but that instead he cant stand me as I am. But I THINK I should forgive him and try to work things out with him. I think we'll be happier in the future that way. But the problem is that I just dont like him at all. I feel like its just me submitting to him if I try to work it out. I dunno. help me out if you can.