problems with girls(anonymous thread)

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  1. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    No matter what I do I can't seem to have any luck with girls. I just started college and have in the past year or two really tried to work on my appearance, get outside to get tan, been working out, etc. My confidence has increased but yet I still fail to have ever had a girlfriend, never went to one highschool dance, and the list goes on and on. I will admit from time to time I have low self confidence but as a whole it has gotten better in the past few months with school starting.
    Anyways, I notice that no girls will take a notice to me. If I make eye contact with a girl on the street in most instances they look away. I'm not creeping or anything, it just doesn't make sense. I'm a funny guy and all my guy friends know that. Even while at parties girls don't usually act attracted to me even when everyone is drunk. Can you guys and girls explain why this is? What I can change/etc. Would really like to have a girl in my life :hs:
     
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  2. saosko

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    move this post to this vag, we'll help you out.
     
  3. MMJ4mil

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    Read the pdf book without embarassment. After u read this post in here ur thoughts. This book fits u. Believe me I'm a pua
     
  4. trek65

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    link to book :x:
     
  5. MMJ4mil

    MMJ4mil Active Member

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    In fact I recommend all dudes who have a problem talking and meeting women to read this.

    Pm me ur email if anyone wants me to send it to them.
     
  6. Hemps

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    I'm tripping out....you have another thread going where you have a gf of like 4 years??
     
  7. Hemps

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    ya 7 years....huh......

    so wait...do you have a gf or not??
     
  8. Hamsterz!

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    darketernal isn't the one with the problem. she's posting for someone else that wants to remain anonymous hence (anonymous thread) in the title
     
  9. Hemps

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    o ok, that makes sense. i will re-read when i get home, gotta go take an exam :cool:
     
  10. crunchy_black

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    I rely on alcohol to get drunk and do lots of approaching :dunno:
     
  11. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    Confidence. It's all about confidence. Just take control.

    If you aren't blessed with model features - and even if you were - girls aren't necessarily going to approach you. That's your job. Sounds like you aren't opening yourself up to females. You got nothing to lose. Just be confident and approach. It's all about little gestures and body language. Use your eyes to your advantage. Don't put the pussy on a pedestal. Most women, if the sense insecurity or instability, it will just make them feel the same way. Take control. Start by talking random shit to the girls you sit next to in class.
     
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    That's not a good reason for him to believe you...

    Either way reading that book or something similar is OK-- but just one. No more.
     
  13. Yail Bloor

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    one thing right off the bat, if a girl actually is attracted to you she will generally only show it in very subtle indirect ways

    so you can't go around expecting girls to show a lot of attraction. i would even say that many times the more strongly a girl is attracted to you, the more she will force herself to NOT show it

    i think one of the biggest adjustments for young men learning to date is that they do not understand that women typically communicate in indirect and subtle ways

    if a girl likes you, she probably won't approach you directly. but there is a good possibility she will position herself near you so that YOU can approach her (and of course she will have at least some flimsy excuse for being near you - most of the time she will NOT admit she is there solely because of you)

    also learning to recognize when a girl is not interested in you so that you don't waste your time chasing her when it is 100% never going to happen with her

    If she won't answer or return your calls, she isn't interested. Period. Yes, her phone works and she got the message.

    The more you can keep everything simple and relaxed, the better. Do not try to become her friend first with the hopes that something will develop later.

    As the man, it is your job to get her number, plan the date, and invite her on the date. If she is interested in you, she will be more than happy to let you lead the way. If she isn't interested, she will flake out. This is 100% normal as it is impossible for every girl to like you and be compatible with you. But also realize that women will give their phone numbers out for many different reasons and getting the number is not a clear sign of interest in most cases. You have to learn to handle "rejection" and accept it as a normal part of the process. If you let your inner child get wounded each time she flakes out, you are in for a world of hurt.

    Mainly work on your non-verbal communication and learn how to read hers.
     
  14. Yail Bloor

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    oh yeah and without embarrassment is gold and i highly recommend it and david deangelo's double your dating
     
  15. boxer85

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    man, i would tell you one thing...appearence is very important, but you need to be optimist and some kind of a crazy guy! but you should not just act in this way- it is better to enjoy this lifestyle!

    no matter who the girl is- they prefer the same, as men do. if you need a quickie- and you need it- then just act as a porn star. at least you will destroy the fear of words and actions+ nobody will care who you are and what you did- really.

    while you haven't practise this you won't have serious relations or soon will get unsatisfied!

    so try to live free and easy- girls love optimists!
     
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    darketernal is a chick? :eek3:
     
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    To the AP:

    Confidence. Understanding that you aren't a ladies man is one thing, but wanting to change is going to make a difference. I'd ask for a pic, but obviously since its an Anon. thread I wouldnt expect it.

    How is your clothes? Are you wearing things that fit properly? Are you well maintained/groomed (facial hair, hair, etc)? Are you healthy? Do you show that you care for yourself?

    Theres a bunch of guide line questions that we can lead you through, but realistically you have to WANT to be a 'ladies man' in order to get attention from women. Started working out? Are you over weight? Anorexic? Is there something with YOURSELF that YOU aren't happy with?

    Hows your social life? Have a good group of friends? Family?

    If you can answer any of those we can help some more :wavey:
     
  18. MMJ4mil

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    Yea saying I'm a pua is wrong for someone to believe into reading but without embarassment is a great read for the guy who has problems meeting girls and having confidence issues
     
  19. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I was in the exact same situation when I got into college. I started drinking and doing drugs as a way to loosen up. I have to admit it worked to some extent, but only as a temporary solution that came with a whole new set of problems to deal with. Since I cleaned up I've had to learn the healthy way of doing a lot of those same things. The trick to it all? Fall down and get back up.

    If you're anything like me you're thinking too damned much. I can see it in what you wrote about eye contact with random girls. Dude, most people will look away when eyes meet. That's completely normal. The fact that you internalize that is the problem. Next time you see a girl go up and talk to her, ask her out, flirt. That's how you really tell if a girl isn't interested. And if she isn't, move on and try the next girl.

    You think anyone is an expert at anything the first time? You think Einstein came out of the womb walking and talking? No. People learn through trial and error. If you can't get past your own fear to actually try then that's a whole other issue that involves years of therapy.
     

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