Problem with cumming and staying hard

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  1. thegr8tiny

    thegr8tiny New Member

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    Im 22 and I've have had problems with having to get hard and cumming with my girl. When i jerk off im able to keep an erection and eventually cum. But when it comes down to intercourse.....it takes a more effort to get myself up. She gives me great blowjobs but it just doesn't bring me to climax.

    Im hoping all of this is just stress related because i am honest to say i get a lil nervous.

    thanks for any input
     
  2. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    do you watch a lot of porn when you masturbate?
     
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    stop masturbating so much

    take a few days off from jacking off and porn and then fuck your girl.
     
  4. RedVsBlue

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    Really shouldnt be making a difference, especially at his age. :dunno:

    I would say its the stress man, and it probably gets worse as the problem continues. Just stay patient for a while and work through it...try not to think about it so much. It happens from time to time, or even for a good length of time.
     
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    actually i do it regularly at least once a day.
     
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    thanks guys...I appreciate the advice. I feel it also has alot to do with the performance anxiety.
     
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    Stop jerkin it and looking at porn so much

    If you know your going to get laid, don't masterbate for a day or so.

    problem solved :wiggle:
     
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    ya lol stop jerkin if u got a girl. that way ur gona wana do her instead of wankin
     
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    I used to have that problem. I would say it does have a lot to do with the porn and jerkin, but health can also be a factor. I'll tell ya, when I started taking vitamins every day, it made a noticable difference in my "abilities" (harder erections, able to cum more reliably), and improved sex overall. But I've also cut out masterbation for the most part. I still do it sometimes, but it's very rare. What I do more of, actually, is "warm up" to porn while she's at work or whatever, but it's important to not let myself finish ..just warm up a little. This can be difficult at first because you wanna finish so bad. But just get a little revved, and then be all the more "ready to go" when it's time for the real action. Even this, I don't do all that much, but maybe once or twice a week tops. She still has to ask me sometimes "did you cheat?" (refering to getting my rocks off on my own, so I won't have as much steam for her later).

    But basically, if you want to be able to bring it, stop jerking off ..or at least don't let your self finish. Save that love-sauce for your girl as much as you can manage. Also, if you don't take vitamins or anything, it might not be a bad idea to start. These are what made a difference for me, anyway.

    Trust me, if you are healthy and you let your stuff build up for a while, saving it for her rather than your hand, you should end up so horny no amount of performance anxiety will stop you from railing her good.
     
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    i've found this to be true...

    too much jacking off can make you insensative to the feelings of a real woman...

    drop the sock and let go of your cock....

    3-4 days and you will be back on top.
     
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