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  1. Sandecker

    Sandecker New Member

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    me and my gf tried to have sex today for the first time and it just wouldnt work i couldtn fit it in. Shes not very big and im alot taller than her and theres just no where to put it. I think part of it was she was really nervous and couldnt get into it but what should i do :dunno: any help? anyone else have this problem teh first time?
     
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    camrytt Sexual Deviant

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    i wish
     
  3. Sandecker

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    what do you mean you wish?
    it just wouldnt work it was too tight it wont even go in
    maybe if she was less nervous itd be looser :dunno: anyone else ever have this happen?
     
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    any ideas on positions that coudl make it work? her on top was the only one we had some suces with
     
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    um, use lube. i doubt she was wet.
     
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    make her comfortable, and get her really horny and wet...


    or use lube.


    There is no such thing as "wont fit", babies come out of there...vagina's stretch beyond belief (eww, bad porn images comming to mind).
     
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    foreplay foreplay foreplay...
     
  8. Sandecker

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    yeah it was her first time and she kept getting freaked out i think she wasnt relaxed enough she kept drying up
     
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    i just use spit like in the pornos, once there's enough on the head it slides into a dry vag like a hot knife through butter
     
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    i used spermicidal lubed condoms
     
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    lol^^

    Go down on her for a little bit before. That should get her wet enough and more into it.
     
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    ewww. try using somehting wihtouth spermacide, or trying usuing something other than latex.
     
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    you gotta make sure she really really wants to do it and that shes really comfortable and shes going real good. if not, it will prolly hurt. when i de-flowered my gf she said it didnt hurt one bit, we even got some hard punds in the first time with no pain. all depends ont he girl too...fiinger her first for a while, try to work 2 fingers in then go at it
     
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    whats the diff between spermicidal lubed and regular lubed condoms
     
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    spermacide is often irritating.
     
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    bro you gotta make her wet and horny first. You cant just drop your pants and jerk yourself for 30 seconds then expect to go right in her. You gotta get her all into you for a period of time, normally a night works. Then you gotta foreplay and make sure that pussy is wet beyond belief before you go in. It works for me, but maybe your not as good orally as I am ;).
     
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    God help me it got worse
    we went to try it again today and nothing
    i was in a little but like only the head and everything hurt
    she still has her hymen and keeps getting nervous when we do it cuz her friend told her it hurt so much. should i try using lube or something? It seems even when im in theres no where to go its like im hitting a brick wall. Can somebody help me :hsd:
     
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    i need help people this is pathetic
     
  20. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    How much foreplay are you doing?

    If she is that stressed out her body will seize up and you will end up where you are now. She needs to relax
     
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    Seriously, it sounds like you're both way too nervous. Don't make such a big deal out of this. If it happens, it happens, but if not, don't make a big deal out of it. Take it slow, don't rush into things...go with the flow, and only do things that you're both comfortable with.
     
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    yea im cool wiht it its just she gets so nervous that its hard to fit it in besides the fact she has never played with herself only stuff ive done with her so its pretty tight in there and im like a foot taller than her lol
    anymroe advice? i mean we messed around alot before i tried to fit it in but it just seems like once im in theres no where to go i was in with the head and part of it but i couldtn really go anywhere in and she was in pain if i moved fast at all :hs:
     
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    yea we are doing plenty shes just nervous about it hurting i guess :noes:
     
  24. MissKitty

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    Sadly the more she gets nervous the more it will hurt :sad2:
     
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    Ok, the fact that she's never played with herself and you are way taller than her shouldn't really have an effect. I'm really shy about things, I've never 'played' with myself (mental block or something there, just seems wrong to me :o ). My ex-fiance was 6'3" and I am 5' (and he is very...erm...big ;) ). I've only ever been with him, and only ever twice, so I might as well still be a flippin' virgin :rolleyes: I was scared as well, and yes i DID hurt, a lot, but he was really good at the foreplay stuff and he didn't have much problem 'getting in'

    To be perfectly honest, it doesn't sound to me like your gf is ready. She's scared, and I think she thinks you want it, so she wants to give you what you want - but she ISN'T ready. Stop trying for awhile. I was just like her, and if I hadn't been ready with my ex-fiance, I would have frozen up and made things impossible as well. Try just playing around for another week or couple of weeks - or however long it takes her to feel ready. Don't rush her, or you will only make things worse :) Maybe once she really gets used to you playing with her and doing things to her, she'll be more into actually going all the way.

    Do you mind me asking how old you and she are? Just curious, as I was 22 before I ever even let anyone touch me (and that was my fiance at the time). Some girls take longer than others to feel comfortable :)
     

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