SRS Porn Addiction

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  1. Seandq

    Seandq Usertext for Rent

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    Before this post starts I just want to note that if anyone uses any of this to flame me in RtR [as it's my first post here] or outside, I will have you punished as much as possible under the rules.

    Hey, my name's Sean. I'm fourteen years old and I'm addicted to pornography and masturbation.

    Now, before everyone jumps on and screams "HORMONES! PUBERTY!", I'm aware of the added and raging hormones a guy goes through with during puberty.

    I'm rapidly moving through puberty, hair is growing everywhere, voice is deepening, the whole deal. So I'm aware that that makes it much harder.

    The problem is I'm a religious person. I believe deeply in my relationship with Christ and I'm a Catholic. I don't want this crutch to fall on.

    Sure, am I gonna be horny? Absolutely. It comes with life. But I don't want to turn to my own selfish way of dealing with it.

    I want my life of purity to begin now. Any solutions/ideas/help? :ugh: doesn't equal anything but a wasted reply. I'm really looking over the 12 Steps listed over at Sexaholics Anonymous.

    PS: Steps I've taken include installing a porn-blocking filter on my laptop and being asked to have my access to OTAH revoked.
     
  2. Ilied

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    I know you're a religious person. It happens.


    I dont think you ought to sit back and let religion shame you out of a natural reaction.
    Religion works for some people and not for others. For the people it does work for maybe they just need to let the maturbation issue slide. You let other things slide do you not? I am sure there are commandments that you break.

    Simply keep in mind that the bible was written over a thousand years ago and that it was HEAVILY edited by english Kings.

    And really.... Do you not think your minister or even the pope "rubs one out" from time to time.



    As far as the fact that you rub out to porn... well I dont know what the church says but isn't porn just what you can produce in your mind + actual images on paper or computer screen? The difference is you dont have to think about it.
     
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    Yeah, but you're missing the point. Yeah, we all fall. We all sin. In my opinion, we're all saved. I'm not dropping my religion so I can live a life full of guilt and sin. I sin and I break commandments, sure, but I'm not a murderer and I skip Church here and there but I'm not addicted to lying or skipping Church. This is more serious than that.

    But I consider it an addiction that every time I'm horny, I make a beeline to go rub one out. This is not healthy for me. After all, once I stop rubbing them out, I'll start with nocturnal emissions again and my body will regulate.

    Am I aware other people do it? Sure. But I don't care. My problem is personal. With me. I want to cut it out as it's not helping me, it's being detrimental. I consider it an addiction and that's why I posted it here.
     
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    Only cure is getting a girlfriend.
     
  5. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    Masturbation is perfectly normal and healthy. You have an addiction to porn when you are spending $100/day and you tell people you are to "busy" to hangout because you need to go rub one out.

    I remember reading somewhere that Masturbating is healthy because you keep making new fluids. Letting old fluids sit to long can cause cancer down there.

    If all it is like anything else, in Moderation it is perfectly healthy, when you find porn controlling your life (ie. rather wank it then hangout with girls), then you have a problem.
     
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    Thanks for all the responses. However, I think you guys are kinda barking up the wrong tree.

    I'm consumed with Catholic guilt after masturbating and looking at porn. My main issue here is the porn. I still wish to stop masturbating as I believe it's a sin of the flesh. Personal religious belief.

    I think the 12 Steps are the way to go, but as I find this just like any other addiction (a "release" to an extent), I was curious of advice from recovering addicts.

    My mom's recovering (30something years clean from alcohol and drugs) but I don't feel comfortable talking to her about this for certain reasons.
     
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    alcoholics don't hang out in bars. perhaps you should unplug your internets if it is in such conflict with other aspects of your life.
     
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    Thanks.

    I've considered taking that step, and I've found it that if I install the filter and ban myself from OTAH as I've requested from Fazle I'll be getting closer and closer to where I want to be.
     
  9. i killed tupac

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    maybe you are catholic by circumstance not by belief. maybe it is time for you to analyze if you truly believe it. you sound smart and rational and my find many aspects of christianity to be unbelievable .

    why did I go there? well, I will tell you. you need a power greater than yourself that you can turn your will and life (thoughts and actions) over to. for me, when I went through a similar desire to change me behavior, I would change the desktop on my computer to pics that reminded me of my spiritual beliefs

    I got rid of my porn...even the ''soft stuff''...even the old pics, mags, everything. installing a net nanny thing won't work, you can get around those.

    basicly you won't stop until you want to and have a power greater than yourself to deal with this
     
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    oh, and as far as flaming goes, that will not happen

    the fastest way to get permabanned on OT is to violate the rules in R2R, Asylum or Vaginarium :)
     
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    i've been considering that in the past years as i kind of explore my faith. i'm definitely a Christian and that's something I can't define or defend -- I believe it due to my own personal experience as well as through what I've been force fed.

    when it comes to Catholicism, what draws me to it is its tradition and its originality. i've been raised in the faith, i've learned it, and i believe its tenets. i also feel genuine as a Catholic.
     
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    that's what i thought. i just took a leap of faith by mentioning my age as well as the fact i've got this addiction.

    i changed my background a while back to the Eucharist and that was determined a bit sacreligious, but i'll find a better alternative, that's a great idea.
     
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    Um, I can assume it would help to relocate your computer if it's in your room. You're not gonna want to watch Sorority Sluts 4 with your mom sitting behind you.
     
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    It's a laptop so I carry it around the house. Maybe I should set it to sleep at a certain time each night though so I'm not tempted.
     
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    You are never going to be able to stop masturbating. Not going to happen. As for the porn, I don't know how you can go without porn if you aren't having sex either.
     
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    Kinda have to agree. You said you didn't want to masturbate as much, but you don't want wet dreams either. Unless you want to risk pregnancy you're going to have to deal with one or the other. It's a natural phenomenon
     
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    I believe he said he doesn't want to masturbate at all
     
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    Unless he made a typo
     
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    You've mentioned "filters" and "bans from OTAH"...but aren't those just crutches? Shouldn't you work on self-control so that you are at the point where porn IS a mouse click away and you choose not to go to that site.

    The alcoholic who doesn't go to the bar...choooses not to go to the bar. They do not go to the bar and ask the bouncer to never let them in.

    Right?

    Just my $0.02
     
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    You have to decide for yourself when you're gonna stop. Putting obstacles in the way are not gonna stop you from what you wanna do. I was a catholic for 17 yrs be4 I turned Christian. And most ppl I know let masturbation slide, becuz it's not sex. Even though both are sins. I seriously doubt you can completely stop mastubating. Because even if you get rid of all the porn, you can still fantasize can't you? Point is, you won't stop until you truly want to. Ask God for help, He's the only one you're having to deal with because of your guilt as to what you're doing anyway. He's your Father, He made you, don't you think He can help you?
     
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    okay okay...lets clarify exactly whats going on...

    1. you DO NOT have an addiction.... Addiction is defined as a genetically-based biologic disorder. An individual develops progressive preoccupation and/or use of a substance in spite of consequences upon relationships, work or school, financial circumstances, legal circumstances or health.

    There is also some component of denial. If an individual meets these criteria, then you are dealing with addiction. Notice that nowhere in this definition is one looking for daily use, heavy use, blackouts, seizures, or specific medical consequences. There is merely a progression of use in spite of consequences.

    What you decribe sounds less like addiction and more like spiritual confliction..

    2. at 14 you should NOT be watching porn at all..that said...I went the exact same thing...only I didn't have easy access to the internet..it was my brothers nudie mags and scrambled porn on cable...(this was back in the 80s)..

    what you have is alot of time on your hands and too easy access to porn...

    why not volunteer for church functions or get a job get into something that will occupy your time?

    in any case what you have is NOT an addiction and shouldn't be treated like it.
     
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    the same treatment for substance addiction will work for this too
     
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    I'm sorry to say, but I doubt you'll be able to stop masturbating. You might possibly be able to stop looking at porn while you do it, but there is no difference when it comes to Christian dogma. If you masturbate w/o visual aids you'll still sin by having lust in your heart.

    I would use this as an opportunity to truly examine your belief system. In my opinion, and it's perfectly valid for you to disagree, I think it's almost comical to believe that the master of the Universe, the creator of a hundred billion galaxies each with a hundred billion systems, cares whether or not I jack off. I know Christians believe in a personal God, but I just think that viewpoint spawns guilt and shame over things that are perfectly natural. I truly hope you can get past this and see that you're not a bad person for masturbating. Leave the shame and mental self-flagellation back in the middle-ages where they belong.
     
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    At 14 you cannot be responsible for the contract for your internet. With you surfing porn, technically you are causing your parents to break the law by you looking at it under the contract they own with the ISP.

    Alex makes a good point, you need to do something, besides jacking off. Volunteering, even if it isnt at the church, will be something to keep you busy so you dont have the time. Perhaps see what the laws are around child labor in the area you are in and see if you could get a part-part time job after school. Now your time would be taken up and you would have some extra spending cash.

    I do agree with what the others have said, OTAH, even if it can be weak from time to time on the pr0n, is not at fault. If you want to stop looking at it you need to deal with it on your own. Having others take care of the problem for you is not the proper way. Is it your parents fault that you look at porn because they bought you the laptop (assuming) or because they let you get on the internet? How about the neighbor's fault if you are stealing his bandwidth? The porn industry? Nobody is holding a gun to your head and making you look at this, its all you here.

    You say that you cannot discuss this with your mother, how about your priest? How about a different Catholic church if you are worried about it getting back to your parents? You are already on somewhat of the right path by asking for help, but a bunch of people on the internet are probably not the best choice. You need a real person if you want to get through this.

    Now on a different note, you will not be able to stop all of the thoughts, its unhealthy. Even if you are able to stop looking at porn, your imagination will kick in. You have been exposed to it and the images are there, your mind will now just pull them up and use them instead of sexors.jpg when you need a little fun. There are medical treatments that would kill your sex drive, but you will never find a doctor to give them to you at your age. Finding them on your own and taking them would be ill-advised, not to mention illegal.

    Your still developing and the desires will be there, its just a part of life. :hs:

    I do disagree with Alex saying that it is not an addiction. It is, just like someone can get addicted to the internet. A person ends up not learning and/or wanting to deal with real people.
    Anyway, good luck in your quest. :wiggle:
     
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    Hey bro, I know lots of people that feel they are going through the same thing. If you're looking for answers, you might want to check out Bible.com, They have a bible answers » category that contains some pretty cool stuff about masturbation. And remember that the guilt we feel afterward is not of God, and will only drive us further from him, because when we sin, we break fellowship with God, so run back to him immediately, don't think you gotta take some time off and catch him in a good mood or something, heh. As it says in Proverbs 24:16; "for though a righteous man falls seven times, he rises again, but the wicked are brought down in calamity." I hope some of this can help!
     
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