Recently I realize that there might be a different in between men and women playing the role of the victim. In the past relationship, if I did anything wrong, my girl would be the victim that I'm the bad guy and it made me feel so guilty that I wanted to change myself for the better. I thought that would be the same for guys if we play the victim and do the "you did me wrong" attitude. I came to a realization that it is opposite for men because it makes them very unattractive. The women would not feel any sympathy about what she did and think of her man as a "victim". Anybody can confirm this with me? What would be the correct way to behave if it's not attractive to be the victim?