Playing hard to get or just not interested?

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  1. yesitisyellow

    yesitisyellow New Member

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    There is this girl that I have been working on that lives on the same floor as me. We have made out and cuddled for awhile so I decided to step it up last week. It went from touching some boobs to dryhumping to fingering after two nights. The days after she isn't giving me the attention as she was before. She has either been tired or busy, etc. This is where I am now. We talk but it's as if she isn't emotionally into me or giving me attention, in contrast to when she was all over me before. I figured it could be that she really has lost interest or is playing hard to get, forcing me to try harder or so.

    Is there anyway to figure out which of the two is happening?
    If she is "playing hard to get", what would you say that I should do? Try harder or play it right back at her? I was thinking it could be a test to see if I'm really into her or what not, but I really can't read her mind.
     
  2. the ground folds

    the ground folds rest your trigger on my finger

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    just ask her out. problem solved.
     
  3. huntz0r

    huntz0r New Member

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    Sounds like you are going after her too hard. Stop trying for a while and see what happens, odds are she will wonder what happened and wander back.
     
  4. Jacy

    Jacy red lipstick brigade

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    I agree with the second statement
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    She could actually be tired or busy. That does happen from time to time...
     
  6. Spiritus

    Spiritus Active Member

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    Yep play it slow, don't act like she is a lifeline or something. Time will tell.
     
  7. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    You can do whatever you want as long as you don't communicate desperation.
     
  8. yesitisyellow

    yesitisyellow New Member

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    so would you guys say that I should take her out to dinner on Valentines? or would that go against not trying for awhile

    I think i agree with you Yail that I should definietly not have an air of desperation but I can still do whatever I want.
     
  9. Crawling Dead

    Crawling Dead Gz-TeRRoR

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    chances are you just created an awkward situation. she feels awkward having made out with you now and is avoiding you to avoid a awkward conversation, back off a few days then go to her casually. dont act like you are now king shit having fingered her. just act like it was really no big deal to you and she will in turn feel more comfortable about it.
     
  10. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    Its up to you but thats really predictable and boring imo.
     
  11. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    maybe you sucked at the fingering? :dunno:
     
  12. Untow Bo

    Untow Bo New Member

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    I hope you are stayin away from the Valentine's dinner idea. If she's is feeling awkward around you on a normal day, she'll really feel strange being with you on the most romantic day of the year (so says Hallmark and many other corporate entities :p)

    Like the others have said, back off awhile and she if she expresses an interest. She prolly let you cross a boundary a little too soon and now feels the need to restablish it. No biggie, if she is interested in you, she'll come back around. If not, time to find another girl.
     
  13. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    This is a definite possibility.

    If her interest declines immediately following sexual contact, then that's something you need to consider.
     

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