I've been friends with this girl for a little over a year now. She's an incredible friend of mine, on of my best, despite having known her for such a short period of time. I met her extremely randomly and we immediately struck up an amazing conversation and there's been no looking back. One of the first things that she told me about herself was that she had a boyfriend of almost two years (distance relationship, I'm in college). The first time we actually hung out she asked me if I was trying to get with her. I said no, and I really wasn't. I was and still am single but am, as a rule, not interested in girls who have a significant other, even one they don't see regularly. So we developed an incredible friendship almost completely lacking in sexual tension. There was a period of time when we were seeing each other almost constantly, but this has simmered down into a normal, healthy, but still very close friendship. I have felt the entire time extremely lucky to have met her and I think that I value her friendship as much as those with my "best friends". About two weeks ago, she broke up with her boyfriend. Though I had never acted as such, I had personally decided that if she were to become single, that I would be interested, though I would never act on my own to avoid messing up the friendship somehow. Suddenly, after she was single, she wanted to hang out with me all the time. We reverted to seeing each other daily for several hours, much as we had at the beginning of our relationship. At first, I just assumed that she wanted me around to comfort her, but I began to notice that she was flirting with me. More, there was pretty obvious sexual tension between us. I even caught her rubbing her foot against my ankles across tables filled with mutual friends. Last night, I went to her apartment and she confronted me about the whole thing. I told her that I wanted to try a relationship. She's asian, I'm white, and she has a problem with this. It's nothing against white guys, she has just always planned, very intently apparently, to marry an asian guy. Nothing her parents have established or even encouraged, just a general guideline she has set up for herself. So she doesn't want a relationship, but she does like me and she's obviously extremely confused. She was sure, however, that she wanted to experiment physically. We ended up having sex, which was enjoyable though a little painful initially for her, because apparently I was much larger than her previous boyfriend. Afterwards she just seemed really confused. She seems convinced that relationships should be about finding a future spouse and doesn't want to get into something with me because she knows she won't marry me because I'm not chinese. I'm of the completely opposite opinions. I see relationships as a way to enjoy yourself and your SO, and as a way to learn about yourself and what you prefer in a SO, but I guess I was unable to convince her. I left her thinking after a good hour of discussion, and she's made me promise not to talk to her until next monday. What do you think? Did I completely make the wrong decision in agreeing to have sex with her? Have I ruined our friendship? Any chance she'll change her mind? I'm really lost in the whole thing. I'd really like to date her, but more than anything I just want things to be ok between us.