So I have finally decided that I am going to break up with my girlfriend of nearly 2 years. I really care about her but I know it will not work out in the long run and she is absolutely ruining me and my relationships with others with her jealousness, co-dependency and insecurity. I live in Athens and she lives outside of Atlanta so she is about 45 minutes away so it is a quasi-distance kind of thing. Ever since school started back and I moved back to Athens (from her area), she has come and stayed with me for the whole weekend, every weeked. Dictating every minute of my free time on the weekend. So 2 and a half weeks ago, she wrecks her car and consequently has to start working alot more and, in turn, stop coming up every weekend. The past 2 weeks have been great and have really made it clear that I should have ended this sometime ago. We have broke up twice (for a night) and it has always been initiated by me. After the breakups she has had batshit crazy freakouts/crying/screaming and I have felt sorry for her. We get back together, Make-up sex happens, she claims she is going to work on things, and we are ok for another period of time. Another reason I have procrastinated on doing this is because she has had issues with her younger sister getting in trouble, her parents being crazy and divorced, and then this whole car wreck thing has taken a toll on her. During those times, I was the only person she found comfort in. I could not leave her in the midst of all that. How should I do this? Here are things that I have planned out already: -I am going to her side of town to say what I have to say and listen to her response, in person, then retreating back to Athens. -She will inevitably follow me back up here that night or the next day; so I am arranging a safe house to stay at for 2 nights where she can't find me. She is sort of crazy. -No alcohol for a couple of days after: can't let the guard down -I have always maintained that I would stay friends with her but, depending on how she acts, it is looking doubtful. -I am 22 and she is 21. Any tips, advice, or thoughts to help this rough coming week go any easier will be greatly appreciated. My stomach is already in knots.