SRS PE - It is driving me nuts.

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  1. nobusiness

    nobusiness New Member

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    I didn't put this in the Vaginarium for a reason, my problem is purely a mental one. Premature ejaculation is seriously ruining my life. It has been a problem that I thought would go away with time, but every time i have sex (with one exception - right after waking up in the morning) i cannot last more than 30s - 1 minute. I know my girlfriend (2+ years, and my first) is not happy about this (although thankfully she is tolerant - and no, the problem has nothing to do with her - its purely me), but it is really killing me. No matter what I try, i cannot make it go away. I've tried lots of things including numbing agents, etc, and they help a bit but my problem remains. I'm not sure what to do. I realize that I'm putting huge pressure on myself and that this is probably a huge contributor to my problem but I don't know what to do about it. I'm going back to the doctor next week to talk to him about this, but I'm just wondering if and how anyone else has overcome this problem. I really would like to just relax and take it easy like everyone says, but that is far easier than it seems. Ugh, this is killing me...I feel horrible that I am making my girlfriend deal with these problems I'm having. Any words of advice are appreciated (aside from find a new girlfriend...this is something that I am not willing to do). Again, if there are others that suffer/have suffered from this please offer some insight, as any little bit will help.

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    Well until you can hear from the doctor what to do I would take your GF to a sex shop. Get her some toys and you just DON'T TOUCH YOURSELF while playing with her, with the toys. Thay way she can cum too ;) The doctor should be able to help you, how often do you masturbate? Maybe try different positions?
     
  4. nobusiness

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    oh, I do it alot.(masturbation that is) Its much different being alone versus with her. Its like something clicks in my head and then wham, theres no holding back when I'm having sex. As far as making her cum is concerned, I actually prefer oral to sex (right now anyway) so there is no problem with that, I just want to (her too) be able to fuck her much longer and make her cum from sex much more often.
     
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    civicmon got all my game from the streets of california.

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    levitra or viagra don't do anything for PE?
     
  6. darkphetus

    darkphetus OT Supporter

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    Double wrap it then while having sex, think about something else.

    Also, I've found that the older you get the less the problem occurs. Having sex while drunk usually impairs your ability to focus and enjoy sex, making you a dynamo in bed. That's from my own personal experience.

    EDIT: typos
     
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    see, thats the problem, as much as I try, I can't think about anything else. Its as if my mind goes numb to all thought processes at the time. To explain it better, it is as if it's the first time, everytime. (if that makes any sense)

    Alcohol hasn't worked all that well for me in the past, but it can't hurt to try again...heh
     
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    Eris Yes please

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    Double wrapping may work but the friction of two condoms can cause breakage
     
  9. Eris

    Eris Yes please

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    i wouldn't aim for drunken sex....its sloppy and not always ones best work.

    a big part in pleasing others is knowing your body and how it works and what pleases you.

    don't be afraid to experiment and try new things. sex isn't everything ... focus on more foreplay and stimulation that way .. once things are on their way and shes climaxing perhaps you can change it up to sex and both orgasm that way.

    just remember it's not a marathon....

    EDIT: consider teasing .... test yourself and push it to the limit .. if you feel the orgasm coming pull out before it happens ... do a lil foreplay and go back in .... rinse and repeat

    if you've got an understanding partner i'm sure they won't mind all the experiementing ;)
     
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    well...thanks for the help thus far. I just have one question, how many of you guys once had a problem similar to mine and have overcome it?
     
  11. You know what the irony in all this is? Premature Ejaculation is probably an evolutionary benefit. :o
     
  12. I have. If a chick is hot, dude....I'm gonna cum quick. :rofl:
     
  13. Hunter Michaels

    Hunter Michaels The Real American Gigolo

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    that would be my first recommendation. :)
     
  14. Darketernal

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    Well, the location of the ejaculatory reflex has been detected, but medicines to inhibit the sympatic spinal nerves have not been found yet. Therefore what you have to do about it is nothing, absolutely nothing because there simply isn't a solution for it. And all the herbs,tantra,self exploring methods self control bs is utterly worthless. Throw them all away, ejaculation is a reflex which means that you can't control it. Evolutionary ejaculation existed before our consious brain existed, which means is autonomic and CANNOT be controlled (so far yet, but we'll manage :mad:) getting angry, fleeing all provoke the stimulation of the sympatic cords, which could be seen as a seperate brain in your body. Remember the 'chicken running without a head' stories you probably have heard about, it only shows how seperated our volentary along with our involentary mind is , the free will aspect does not apply here, so its basically a waste of your time/money/effort to do something about it.

    Until a Spinal Nerve Ejaculation Inhibitor medicine arrives on the market your screwed, maby if you ejaculate 20 minutes before you engage in having sex with your gf will enlong the experience as in the second time it is said to be less sensetive.
     
  15. It works, but it's also less enjoyable for me. In-fact I'd rather not even bother, but then again I'm a prick. :mamoru:
     
  16. johan

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    So why don't you take care of her in another way first. Bring her off once or twice before you start dipping it. Is that too simple a solution?

    If your PE is purely mental, I think it'll go away once you log more miles under your belt.

    But bring her off a couple of times first.
     
  17. Indagator

    Indagator Twist of Cain

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    From a psychological standpoint, it could be related to a need to release, or let go. I'm just the opposite. I tend to hoard, or hold on to. So, it takes me a while =/. Just a thought :dunno:.
     
  18. This has always been my claim to fame between the sheets. It's not optimal, but it sure works.
     
  19. scaryice

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    I'm sure he does that already, or why would she stick around?
     

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