Looking back at my dating history, it seems like many of the women I've dated have been passive aggressive. I always recognized this type of behavior, but I didn't know it was called "passive aggressive" until just recently (when it was identified to me by this forum. Thanks!). I always referred to it as taking the opposite extreme approach, and tried, unsuccessfully, to explain why it was illogical behavior to my GFs, but now I have a name to go with it (For those of you who might not be familiar with PA behavior, here are a few examples: Say your gf cooks for you, but you honestly don't like something, and so you tell her. Not insulting, not in a hostile manner, but when she asks "how is everything?" you reply with like "everything is good, honey, except I'm not too crazy about what you did with the rice (or whatever)." Alright, a normal person might have their feelings hurt a little, which is natural, but might reply with "alright, what don't you like about it? I won't make it that way next time." A passive agressive person would reply with "fine, I guess I'm never cooking anything for you again" (taking the opposite side to the extreme) Or, a smaller example, say she doesn't call you for a certain period of time in which you would normally have talked on the phone once or twice. A normal person would call you and be like "hey, we haven't talked in a while. Are you busy? I miss talking to you." A passive aggressive person would txt you with "wtf? why don't you ever call me?" Or, if you wanted to go to a party together, but you two couldn't decide where to go afterward, so she goes "fine, I don't want to go to the party at all." That is illogical because she wanted to go to the party in the first place. Why would you let something unrelated change something you want to do? A more logical reply might be "well then let's just come home after the party (because you wanted to go to the party in the first place)". ) Alright, anyway, I've heard that psychologists have recently taken the term "passive aggressive" out of their lexicon or whatever as it doesn't really point to a particular psychological disorder. So anyway, if a gf is passive aggressive should you just give up on her because she's a nutcase (even if not clinically so), or should you try to deal with it? btw, passive aggressive people do NOT like being told that they are passive aggressive And if you point out examples of their passive aggressive behavior? Here we go... edit - upon thinking about this more, is this a common trait in women? Almost every woman I know is like this to some extent.