Passion, Love, Vanity, LDR, and a reality show.

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  1. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    So this is it.

    My girlfriend will probably be on a reality show living in LA with a bunch of other dumb broads who will be doing stupid shit like wearing bikinis in fake pools of blood and wrestling in it, all for the end goal of being the final member left and winning some lead role in a movie...

    ...you all know the story about her leaving without a minute's notice to NYC to pursue her dream of acting. Well, it's been hard for me to deal with as I've let my shit go at school, and I'm still struggling to catch up.

    Well, she hasn't seriously dedicated herself to acting classes or getting involved. Everything she's done in NYC has been a result of her looks. Standing in hollister as a "floor model," trying to get commercial modeling jobs, etc.

    Well, I'm worried about her vanity. She has this huge bubble, thinks she's the hottest shit in the world (she is). But the way she talks about herself sometimes scares me. I know men and women alike drool over her.

    I'm worried though that since her acting is not up to par, and this is a reality show, that they just want her image for a ratings boost. Unfortunately, for as grown up as she is and the shit she's been through, she's extremely naive. She's a very sexual creature too, concerned really with looks and beauty, though at heart she's an amazing girl. Still, her choice to drop out of school, etc. to do this kind of has me worried. She's in a skin selling business, she's now going to be an image.

    I'm afraid that despite her reassurance and the comfortable levels we have established, she ultimately will end up fucking up big time. She's been nothing but loyal and faithful, and I haven't necessarily made this easier on her. But once I even begin to mention how producers will take advantage of anyone for ratings she takes it so personally as if I'm insinuating she'll do anything.

    But that's it. Producers will ask her how comfortable she is with doing something. And her, being in this new position, I feel will be obligated to answer yes to things she necessarily isn't. I can't stand the thought of her selling her self out or spreading herself thin based only on her looks.

    I'm seeing it all fall into place in my head. Her living in NYC for 4 weeks before moving right out to LA to be on some fucking reality show. She would have let this relationship go if she didn't want it the way she does (forever type of thing), but I feel that her naivety just hasn't caught up with her yet. She has no experience in the industry and she's a happy little girl who puts herself out there. I'm afraid it will be too late when she realizes she fucked up and got walked around on (as she had previously in her life).

    I love her with all of my heart, and I know she loves me too, especially for being the one. But it kills me inside to see how shallow her life and outlook seems to be on the outside. I forsee her getting mixed up in shit that isn't okay. I'm not comfortable with her making out with girls on a reality show or going out with a bunch of girls to bars in LA to meet a bunch of scumbags.

    I'm just wondering if I should save myself emotional fucking trouble (something I've only managed to overcome recently to the point where I can eat and study a little bit again, but my emotional devastation as a result of her loss was unhealthily cripping) and just tell her that we should separate, that way she doesn't feel tied down to something she got herself involved with in a previous life. I feel like I should let her go so she can comfortably lez out with the girls she'll be living with and be able to participate in the promiscuous lifestyle of reality tv queens, especially in LA. I just don't see this being a good recipe for a LDR, much less a relationship where we are together physically.

    Should I ride it out and see how it goes, worrying about stupid little shit, or just seriously consider letting it go in a mature manner, ultimately for the best of us? I don't know what to do, but I know I expect the person I'm with to maintain some code of integrity. There's more to everything than superficial surfaces, and though my girl recognizes it, it's like she's spending her time chasing after something hollow and fake.

    Why can't she get involved with the off-broadway acting circuit if she wants to be an actress instead of some stupid fucking reality shit where she'll do anything for a rating? I dunno, her lack of direction scares me. What do I do?
     
  2. Abomb

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    time to raise the black flag.








    why abomb you ask? why would I want to raise the black flag against my girlfriend?

    Well, I am glad you came to abomb. I will now give you your answer in the form of a question:

    Do you really want to view your girlfriend getting tongue fucked in the throat (at a minimum) on public television?

    Also, what channel and time will this show be on? I will have the lotion and kleenex readily available.
     
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  3. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    She also doesn't do well with drinking, and I know if she's in the situation she won't be able to resist peer pressure. She'll be the drunkest one in the bunch. Big recipe for disaster.
     
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    :bowrofl:

    see my above response, it answers all questions.
     
  5. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    Goddammit.
     
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    tough position.

    but I agree with abomb.
     
  7. Abomb

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    There is a very real possibility that all of offtopic will actually get to see your girlfriend cheat on you live during live television. And as much as I feel sorry for you for having an attention whoring wannabe actress of a girlfriend (truly, i sympathize with having to deal with that bs)........ the thought of this offtopic vag first makes my dick epicly hard with anticipation.
     
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    I gotta agree, do you really want to see her making out with guys (and probably getting fucked in the back room cause yes that shit does happen)? Id explain to her that you arent comfortable with it, and that she needs to find some kind of direction in life, or leave her.
     
  9. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    Yeah, I'm done with this shit.

    She can't even talk about it. And "if she doesn't get on it, I crushed her" because I don't like the idea of her selling her fucking body.

    "So baby, what do you think the structure of your day will be like out in LA in your sorority house?"

    "Uhh........"

    Fuck this shit.
     
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    Yea, I've seen quite a few shows on how they do reality tv and sadly most of they they get the people quite liquored up.

    I would say it depends on what you want to do. You can either wait and ride it out and hope that nothing goes wrong and she does what she says she will do, or you decide you don't want to find out and end it. You just have to realize that there is a chance that it will end quite badly.
     
  11. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    Any links or resources I can show her (I know it will be taken the wrong way).

    Even her older sister told her "Emie, if they want you to make out with another girl, you might have to." What kind of fucking support is that? Do something with some SUBSTANCE. And when I explain to her my feelings its me being an asshole. She doesn't fucking see the REALITY behind this.

    I'm about to call her sister (she's married) who lives up around the city and explain to her what the deal is so she can explain it to her sister better than I can.

    She goes "my parents are SOO happy, do you think my parents (dad) wants to see me on TV doing something stupid?"

    She really is a whore on so many levels. I feel that although I haven't been AS STRONG as I should have been with the move and everything, her fucking lack of direction and proven lack of devotion (she says a lot, keeps me on the phone alot) to the relationship speaks for itself. I don't want to be a mega asshole, but I'm really tempted to say "it's me or the fucking reality show. I hope you win so you get a role in the movie." She's way too fucking impressionable. She's immature in the grand scheme of things, I've been immature as far as some of our relationship has gone. I'm just not gonna get that call or find out on national tv.

    It's not totally set in stone and my making a big deal out of it is just digging me a hole, but I really don't know if I want this. I love this woman dearly, in a way that I can't explain. I really can picture everything with her. But what the fuck, her apparent shallow and hollowness scares me. Maybe she really only loved being treated right, enough to boost her self-esteem and confidence, and now she's ready for the next, despite the heavy phrases and words she's thrown at me. Any fucking girl with direction who cared about their relationship wouldn't be doing a gig like this. If you want to act, get involved in a better way. Oh well, at least she'll be on T.V.
     
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    dude fucking dump this broad im going to be jerking off to her on live television for christs sake !
     
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    I can try to find what I saw for you. It was like a mini documentary on tv. They pretty much have open bars wherever they go and are encouraged to drink. The footage they shoot gets edited like crazy so they can make it seem like you did/said something but in reality it was just they edited out half of what you said. And I have seen a few Real Worlds that end up with SO's seeing their girls hooking up with dudes in front of all of america.

    And ask her what reality stars have actually gone on to be movie stars. I don't follow the tabloids very closely, but most just end up doing nudes for maxim and playboy. And slutting themselves out for more tv shows.

    And if she is really that naive and doesn't have the backbone to stand up for herself, she won't make it very far. So many times have people fallen to drugs and the shittiness that goes on in hollywood.
     
  14. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    And the sad thing is she has a great family, a daddy with a bulging wallet. If this doesn't work out for her I see her coming straight back home. Or doing porn.

    But I'm not gonna get the call. If she wanted this she would be doing things of more substance.
     
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    the most recent real world pops into my head. girl went there talking about her boyfriend that she loved desperately and knew she would stay with. a few months in, she abruptly changed her mind, hooked up with a guy, broke up with her ex, and within hours was having sex with the new guy.

    TS, this may not happen to you, but the odds are stacked so far against you, it most likely will. if she shows up saying she has a boyfriend she loves, guess who is the first target to hook up with? it makes for good tv. and if she is in denial that this is how it is...i feel for you.
     
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    Well don't dump her YET!

    I'd see where this goes and stop freaking out so much. You need to be more of a hedonist with flexible morale values if you want to stay with a girl like this. You seem to be the kind of guy that wants to date a "nice girl" though... i mean, you were uncomfortable with slightly degrading sex.

    The smart move for you would be for your to end the relationship, but if I were in your lucky shoes i'd stick around to satisfy my morbid curiosity.
     
  17. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    It will happen.

    Here's a quote from an interview with the producer.

     
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    ps, whats the show called? i have a sick love of reality tv
     
  19. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    Yeah, I want a nice girl, at least one who knows when to act like a nun and when to act like a freak. One with direction, one with a solid goal, one who is focused on not being a sleaze. I know every girl needs bullshit attention, but my girl is so insecure. And her past is so fucked up I wish I hadn't even burdened myself. The fact that she's seriously considering this shit is a slap to my face. It's done.
     
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    Scream Queens.
     
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    hmm, never heard of it, what channel?
     
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    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    Fucking bitch had me convinced, too.

    She just needed a guy to treat her right.

    She truly wants to be treated like shit. I see that now.
     
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    ahh, yes, one of my favorites for trashy reality...

    but back on topic....good luck :( :hug:
     
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    From threads you have made I don't think you would be able to handle her moving. It seems like her decisions have a huge impact on your life in a negative way and for your mental health I think you should jump ship.
     

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