SRS Parents would this offend you?

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  1. Killuminati

    Killuminati New Member

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    Well, I've been talking to this girl at work for a while now. And we were emailing back and forth and I asked her how her children were doing, she has 2 little girls. I said how are your kids doing, wild as usual? I just said it nonchalantly I was not making fun of her kids in anyway.. I did not mean anything by it. Anyway she said to me that she took great offense that I said that.. She said you can make fun of me but don't make fun of my kids. I was like wtf. So she is pissed now thinking I made fun of her kids. Would this offend you?? It made me angry thinking she would even think I would make fun of her kids. (I have reason to believe she is on the rag right now if that makes a difference) What do you guys think would that offend you? :ugh2:
     
  2. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    That's the kind of line you DON'T do over email. You have to be able to convey it as a complete joke, and to do that you need nonverbal cues. So yeah, you kinda done fucked up, son....
     
  3. toeshoes

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    yes, because only one of my children is wild. the other is not. maybe she believes her children are not and for you to say they are is offensive.
     
  4. Killuminati

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    Yeah man she is pissed I think its some bullshit. I meant nothing by it I really like her kids.. Apparently she took it the wrong way.. I tried to explain to her on the phone that I wasn't making fun of her kids. But, she kept saying what did you mean then. I didn't think she would take it that way jeez.
     
  5. Killuminati

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    The reason i said wild as usual was because she has called them hyper before plus whenever I'm on the phone with her they are always screaming and playing around with each other. I do not have any kids. So maybe I would feel different if I was a parent I don't know.
     
  6. Cerridwen

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    :ugh: You insult her children and then blame her anger on her possibly having her period?

    :hsugh: Some parents choose not to accept the fact that their children lack discipline and would take offense to that (please note I am not talking about you specifically). While it may not specifically have been the threadstarter's place to say this, if the children really are out of control why shouldn't someone tactfully say something?

    While I would be taken back at the comment, I would definetly re-evaluate my child and her behavior.
     
  7. Killuminati

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    I was just joking around with her! I meant nothing by it I was not insulting her children! They are not out of control. I thought her being on the rag might cloud her emotions..
     
  8. Cerridwen

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    While you may have meant it as a joke (and it probably would have been taken as a joke had you been face to face) of course she's probably going to be offended about it. Remember that everything is taken at face value online. Women are very sensitive about their children in general, it doesn't have anything to do with whether we are bleeding or not. :squint:

    Just my opinion.
     
  9. Killuminati

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    Lmao, I asked her if it was that time of the month. That may have pissed her off even more! :hs:
     
  10. Killuminati

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    Alright I kinda understand now how that was kind of insensitive I think I better apologize to her face to face tomorrow..
     
  11. mrchina

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    Exactly... jesus, what's wrong with people today?? Stay the heck away from her.
     
  12. SICK GUY

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    sounds like she is way too sensitive. thats not always a bad thing, but in this case, she is probably reading way too far into what you say.
     
  13. PuppyCat

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    Hoily Doodle Wild Child...It is apparent to me that you didn't mean anything bad when you asked...sort of an off-the-cuff question and trying to throw some levity into the situation...Mothers tho, are particularly sensitive when it comes to their kidlets...fact of life. I don't think Aunty Flo has anything to do with it. Not really. Better try to explain your question to her in a diplomatic way next time you to do face-to-face and learn from your gaffe.
    Personally, I think she blew it out of porportion,,,what ever happened to having a slight sense of humor? Live and learn.
     
  14. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    Do you even THINK before you let words spill out of your mouth?? I mean, talk about walking into a salt mine with a bunch of open wounds....:ugh2:

    Like I already said, you have to be careful what you say and when/where/how you say it. Timing, delivery, and medium are EVERYTHING when it comes to stuff like this.
     
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    Well at first I thought it was a combination of two things:
    1) she is way too sensitive
    2) you don't know her as well as you think you do, and you crossed a line that she didn't want crossed.

    Now, seeing your "time of the month" follow up, I'll amend that to:
    1) she's still possibly a little sensitive
    2) you REALLY don't know her as well as you think you do
    3) you're a bit careless and not too delicate with your words.



    Reminds me of the guy (every group had one) who'd call out to the fat kid "HEY FATTY...YOU'RE FAT!!"
    And then when the fat kid got mad and your friends looked at you like you're wierd, you'd stare back and say "WELL, WHAT?? HE IS FAT!!"

    Try being a little more tactful with this woman.
     
  16. Peyomp

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    Buy her kids some Ritalin to make up for your harsh words.
     
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    date with baggage ftl
     
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  19. speeddreamz

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    yeah, #1 dating with kids = bad idea. #2 she may be offended by that because u may be "questioning" her parenting skills. If so, shes probably not the right person for u if you're asking if it would offend us, because it obviously offended her. You're probably not compatible. It would not offend me because i percieve pretty much all children as wild. I was wild my brother was not ,but children are just that way.
     
  20. Arclight

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    :rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:

    While you may have played off the first comment with relative ease as a miunderstanding, this gem ensures that she'll think you're a dick for months to come. Good luck getting her to change her impression of you. You knew you're on shaky ground. Why would you stir shit up even more by saying something like this? :rofl:
     
  21. Killuminati

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    You are pretty much spot on! She pretty much felt that i was questioning her
     
  22. Killuminati

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    You are pretty much spot on! She pretty much felt that i was questioning her parenting skills. Thought she was a bad mother etc. That is what she told me... But I apologized so I think it's all good now. :bigthumb: I told her that her kids were really cool and I think some of her good looks and great personality are rubbing off on them. She seemed to like that! haha
     
  23. DiggityDogg

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    I don't care, her reaction was pretty over the top. Once he apologized and explained that he didn't mean it like that, she should be cool, not making a huge fuss over something so silly.
     
  24. dave steel

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    Killuminati, this girl has "issues". Time to put a few states between you and her.
     
  25. PuppyCat

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