SRS Parents not approving of wedding

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  1. 46&2

    46&2 Self ******

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    Not her's mine.

    Some basic info--


    I'm in my 30's, she is in her 20's. She is from Canada, I from the east coast of the USA.

    We both live in Cali now.

    We get married in three months and this has came out that they are "concerned" about the wedding. (Is she the right one, the money being spent, etc)


    Any advice? :hs:
     
  2. neoamd

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    If you love each other etc blah blah than I wouldn't worry about your family. Family seems a bit insensitive though.

    Do what you want to do.
     
  3. Darketernal

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    Don't allow your family to make you go crazy in the very last minutes so to speak ,even if their concerns were valid i think its too late to turn back now. So stick with your decision and marry her while removing any annoying obstacles in life that may block your path.
     
  4. MattThom01

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    listen to their concerns.
    examine them objectively to see if there is any validity to them.
    If they are not valid, proceed with wedding.
     
  5. 46&2

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    :hug:


    Thanks guys.
     
  6. QueenOfHearts

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    Do be aware parents are only doing what the know how to do, and that is worry about you.
    Just let them know you have control over your life.
     
  7. illmaceyougood

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    It's better that it's your parents not approving, at least you can deal with them.
     
  8. Asses Maximus

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    I'd ask why they have those concerns. It means a lot to have my parents support when I make that decision. Maybe they see something that you dont.
     
  9. 46&2

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    After further examination;

    My Dad's issue is probably due to my Mom leaving him about three years ago. He's still a bit bitter, and kinda "anti"-marriage now.

    This deduced after talking to my sister, best-man, and mother.
     
  10. MissKitty

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    So does your mother approve of the wedding?

    I can understand your dad being standoffish with marriage, so it is a sore spot for him.

    Have you or your fiance given them any reason to doubt the relationship?
     
  11. Hellcat

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    Not sure how your finances are organized, but one thing to remember is the more money you accept from them, the more they will insist on organizing the wedding/controlling the aspects of it.

    But also, be reasonable in that sense too. Like someone else said, women can get really out of control over spending on weddings. It doesn't need to cost anyone 10k to get married, that's just a waste.

    At least try to smooth things over as much as possible to keep things pleasant for the wedding day. It's awful to have family tension at your wedding.
     
  12. Ranna13Tattoo

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    it's your life, not theirs...
     

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