So, as Ive said, I recently (August) told my dad, and he exploded in anger at me...over the time, ive tried to slip him an article here, and take things easy. Well I guess some of the waiting has paid off, James and I went down to their house the 24th, and decided to stay the night, we curled up together in sleeping bags on the floor of what used to be my room. Dad saw the empty sleeping bags while heading to work on christmas, and joked with us after (mom just had new carpet installed the day earlier) "So did you christen the new carpet". Then, the wind up is, I called my sister in Chicago, for a post-christmas chat last night, and she mentioned she spoke to dad earlier and he refered to james as my "partner". So maybe im making some headway. This is an arduous process. but happy none the less.