LGBT Out!

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  1. XPX

    XPX New Member

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    Yes, you heard it here first, I'm oficially out to my best friend, we were talking and he was all :run: about me being 28 years old, single, virgin and thisngs were liek this:

    Him: Do you want me to find you a nice gf?
    Me: Are you sure I want that? :hsugh:
    Him: Want a bisexual girl to fuck around?
    Me: No :o
    Him: What the fuck do you want? I want you to be happy...you want a nice guy......?
    Me: :hsugh: I'm confused but I think so
    Him: :eek3:
    Me: :hs:
    Him: I knew it, it takes a gay to recognise another gay but since you were so much into cars I thought you were just too shy
    Me: I don't know what I want, nobody gets its flowing for me
    Him: Wanna go to a gay bar tomorrow night?
    Me: Baby steps man...baby steps :noes:
    Him: Lets go watch "The covenant"
    Me: Ok

    *2 hours of gay related talk later we get to watch the movie*

    Me: :noes: I definitely want THAT
    Him: I know, me too, lets go to the gay bar! :x:


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    So, I can't go back now, I don't know if I feel better or worse, I'm nervous and happy at the same time, I feel it will haunt me sooner or later but I don't know....please someone tell me it gets easier with time :hs:

    I'm not ready to date or those things, I'm only ready to accept myself and be open about what I like and what I don't.

    *sigh*

    Why?
     
  2. Fate13

    Fate13 New Member

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    I can compeletly understand, fate (yes I see the irony) kinda gave me a push in the right direction and i got lucky... But in all truth there was a good chance that if I had not had such luck I would be in the same boat as u :hs:. BTW it does get easier... well it has for me anyways, and I hope it does for u too. :bigthumb:
     
  3. ExDelayed

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    It does get loads easier. Its going to probably take a bit to sink in (for you, since this was your first) but all is going to be well.

    Strangely, I went to the gay bar before I came out. And on that note, Im going to the bar. There will be menz there. :noes: :naughty:

    EDIT: :bigthumb: The first one is always the hardest. Good job.
     
  4. XPX

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    This happened after years of him sending weird messages and making over the line comments to test me out, until today when I said to myself "This gotta stop, I can't stay silent and avoid the subject anymore"....
     
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    but it is one less thing to worry about, one less topic to dodge and one more person to talk to about almost anything.

    Breathe, rest relax and enjoy the ride.
     
  6. XPX

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    I guess that's true :hs:
     
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    Congrats Wookie,

    Coming out is an incredibly freeing feeling. Yeah it is terrifying to tell the first person, after that it is generally easier.

    I'm proud of you. :kiss:
     
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    NOVAJock Modded & Underrated

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    Wookie,

    It takes an incredible amount of courage and maturity to peak out of the closet for the first time.

    It does get easier, but as you already told your friend....baby steps. Take it slow, take it easy and don't let anyone rush you. It's your time, and your's alone. Nobody elses.

    And just because you're into cars but your attracted to guys doesn't mean anything. You're not alone...believe me....

    I'm proud of you dude.
     
  9. XPX

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    I can't feel the "freeing" yet :hs:

    I know not all gays are the stereotypical queeny guy but it still frightens me about people thinking that about me...I guess I'll have to learn to not care about what people think. Right?

    But hey, when we were waiting to get in the movie (with other 6 friends) he was going through a magazine and he saw a pic of Ricky Martin and pointed it out silently, I said YES! :eek3: and he busted out laughing :rofl:

    That felt great, to let someone know what I like in real life :cool:
     
  10. spiffy_badrock

    spiffy_badrock I'm sorry, if you were right, I'd agree with you.

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    You can DO IT! You can DO IT! You can DO IT! You can DO IT! You can DO IT!

    Congrats man, the first step in a very long journey. Major props for doing it esp. in your situation.
     
  11. XPX

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    Now that I think about it it was a mistake, knowing me I'll have to tell everyone now....it's me, I do shit like that, I have to learn to take things slowly specially if those things can hurt me. However he said that if I have issues at home I can go live with them (but I don't want to live with them since he has a partner, also a friend of mine, and it would be ackward) but what's done is done and I can't take it back....we will see....:hs: I have to take it like a man and take full responsibility if anything happens.
     
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    CoCo ...is a Queer Don!! OT Supporter

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    Congrats :) Glad it was on your terms!
     
  14. Diesel Freak

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    Congrats Wookie! I had a similar experience (friend(s) hounding me about gf's and such). It will get easier, and you should feel better about it soon. Glad to hear that you have somone you can trust and talk to... that's the most important thing. :h5:
     
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    sort of...he provoked it :o

    So far OT-Closet has been great, I can't really say I was all alone since I had a bunch of people ready to help :cool:
     
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    Major props to you on this again...

    2ndly... you dont have to announce to the world that you are gay. I tell people that I feel comfortable with in letting them know that nothing is/has.or will ever change the way I feel about my friends.
     
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    Thanks man, I know its like that but I still have this irrational fear....I guess they call it irrational for a reason :o
     
  18. ManyHamsters

    ManyHamsters There are necessary pursuits... but poetry, beauty

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    Congrats!!!! :big grin:


    I had that :hs: feeling as well for quite a while after telling my best friend. For me, it came from losing that "safe" feeling, because someone finally knew something so intimate about me, that they could use it to hurt me terribly. It also was a sense of loss because I slowly gave up my "straight" acting persona, which I had clung to for so long, it was like a second skin. It slowly does go away imo, with time, and with telling more people, and having them accept the real you.

    Grats again man, that must have been real hard. I am very proud of you too. :)
     
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    THAT'S THE FEELING!!!!!!
    I fear losing the straight image people have about me :eek3:
    You described it very VERY well :eek4:
    scary, lol.
     
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    Why do you have to lose any image? The way I dress, talk, the cars I drive, the work I do, etc had remained completely unchanged with me coming out. Just like when you tell people (and you will have to use this), you are still the same person, nothing has changed, they just know something more about you, they now know the real you.
     
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    [​IMG] The only thing that really changed for me is that I am no longer afraid/unwilling to talk about how I like guys.
     
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    Wow, take some balls to do that mate.

    It's good to hear, and it must feel like an incredible weight off your shoulders?
     
  24. XPX

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    yeah but people create images sometimes, after you tell them you are gay they now see things that they never saw before...they are my friends, I love them and I know they will still love me but....you know, that part scares me.

    I'm the worsy gay ever :o

    I guess that is true :)
     
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    not so much, I thought it would be much better...
    but hey lets give it time, I'm optimistic everything will be fine.:)
     

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