FRK OT FS members, I could use your advice/help with my g/f.

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by TurkeyChicken, Jun 21, 2006.

  1. TurkeyChicken

    TurkeyChicken New Member

    Joined:
    Jun 26, 2003
    Messages:
    42,913
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Albuquerque, NM
    Ok, let me start off by saying that we both lost our virginity to each other a week or two ago. Last night was my birthday so she came over and she brought some Hogtied.com clips she downloaded from teh internets with her.

    She likes watching the videos and stuff and is in to that. I've never really been a fan of it before (prefered just watching regular porn), but last night I tied her up and smacked her around with my belt.

    I'm just trying to get advice on what I should do to turn her on... seeing as how I'm a pretty big n00b with bondage type stuff. I guess I could just watch more of these videos and emulate what they do in real life... but I want to know if there are any tips/tricks you guys have that are good to know.

    I tied her hands together and put them down to her ankles and tied her hands to her ankles and smacked her ass with a belt. then fucked her doggie style and she seemed to like it.
     
  2. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

    Joined:
    Dec 10, 2001
    Messages:
    52,552
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Miramar, FL
    ok.
    Congratulations and welcome to a world of kink!

    First things first. Set up your safeword. Red light or Yellow light work for most beginners, red light = stop entirely, yellow light = slow down/i'm getting uncomfortable where this is going.

    Second when Tieing ALWAYS remebers to check the tied extremities for Circulation. Always ty so that you can slip two fingers in under the rope. Things tend to get tighter with wiggling and certian positions put more pressue on blood vessels so be careful and check for coloring and temperature.

    when you are tying her up, If it's a long and complicated bit of tying, periodically stop to touch her, Grope her, smack her a bit, kiss her. For me, I love that part of the tying process as much as the ties themselves. I like being made immobile but like some rope subs I also liek to fight a bit and give my Top a challenge. talk to her about it and find out EXACTLY what she likes as far as BDSM is concerned as well as to find out what you are comfortable doing to her. You need to know because if you take it to a place she doesn't enjoy, she may react badly and you won't get to play ever again.

    Tease her a lot, tickle torture is SUPER fun. Have her try to escape. blindfold her and have her guess at what you are beating her/touching her with (ie. Run some ice cubes on her body or a feather or a belt etc.)

    there's tons you can do.

    for more rope technique look up "rope bondage tutorial" on google.
     
  3. awlewis

    awlewis New Member

    Joined:
    Jun 28, 2004
    Messages:
    577
    Likes Received:
    0
    if you're uncomfortable just talk it out with her BEFORE you try anything. Take it slow, you'll be a pro in no time.
     
  4. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

    Joined:
    Dec 10, 2001
    Messages:
    52,552
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Miramar, FL
    My big question is: Do you enjoy this type of play? Are you comfortable with what you are doing/may do to her?
     
  5. TurkeyChicken

    TurkeyChicken New Member

    Joined:
    Jun 26, 2003
    Messages:
    42,913
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Albuquerque, NM

    I'm not sure yet, I mean I'm not exactly turned off by it. I've just never really considered it before. I guess the main thing I'm concerned with is knowing what to do and what not to do.

    I'm just a total n00b at this and don't want her to be like :wtf:
     
  6. jab1983

    jab1983 40/40 crew failure with less than 1 week to go...D

    Joined:
    Aug 4, 2002
    Messages:
    7,996
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    corona
    First let me say wow, for a week or two of sex this is a big thing....Unless one of you lied :noes:

    seriously though, congrats. I never got into using actual objects like handcuffs or anything I like how it feels when I use my body and hands. maybe in the near future I'll try other objects:x:
    I do suggest chocking her, holding her down with your hands, slapping her butt and dick slapping her face they are great fun and a great turn on. It's great because you actually feel her skin against yours and I feel like that makes a better sex session.
    I don't think you should just do it without talking about it and seeing how she feels. For example I was talking to a girl who told me that chocking was definitely out of the question because it scared her too much.


    BTW have fun:wavey:
     
  7. BaneBoi

    BaneBoi ƒł٤şħ Ąđđίçŧ

    Joined:
    Nov 14, 2001
    Messages:
    1,347
    Likes Received:
    0
    The safe word is very important if you are new and testing boundaries. Set one, and make sure the sub knows its ALWAYS okay to use it. Better to stop and start again than to have a seriously bad time and shy away from the whole thing.

    Keep a pair of scissors nearby in case something gets too tight and the sub starts to panic or seriously starts to loose circulation. The safety/hospital kind are best (with the curved point) but any sharp kind will do.

    There is tons of info on teh web and probably searchable here in FS. Read up and start playing!

    Dont be shy. Any specifics you have questions on, come ask. We love to talk about this shit here. :)
     
  8. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

    Joined:
    Dec 10, 2001
    Messages:
    52,552
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Miramar, FL
    You guys need to sit down outside the bedroom and talk about what she likes, what you like, what she's comfy with.

    Don't try to impress, let her know you are completely new to this. Nothing is more of a turn off then a Top that PRETENDS to know what he's doing and fucks up the whole situation.

    Oh and Don't let her pull that "suprise me" crap. You are new to this and she (seemingly) isn't. So she needs to let you know UP FRONT what she expects from this type of sexual play.
     
  9. BaneBoi

    BaneBoi ƒł٤şħ Ąđđίçŧ

    Joined:
    Nov 14, 2001
    Messages:
    1,347
    Likes Received:
    0
    qfMFt.
     
  10. TurkeyChicken

    TurkeyChicken New Member

    Joined:
    Jun 26, 2003
    Messages:
    42,913
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Albuquerque, NM

    Well, she's never actually done any of this before either, she just watches bondage videos... so I'm not even sure if she knows exactly what she likes :dunno:

    We talked through it while we were doing it this time and I learned a lot, we'll just have to keep practicing I guess :eek3:
     
  11. BaneBoi

    BaneBoi ƒł٤şħ Ąđđίçŧ

    Joined:
    Nov 14, 2001
    Messages:
    1,347
    Likes Received:
    0
  12. TigreTek

    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Oct 8, 2001
    Messages:
    26,927
    Likes Received:
    3
    if you can, avoid the unrealistic expectation of trying to "live up" to what you see in there.

    just take your time and work your way through things slowly. take inspiration from what you're seeing there, but don't try to emulate it exactly. (at least, not at first) just work with what you're comfortable doing and slowly expand your limits. there are things that PE and i do now that we wouldn't have done 3 years ago. (and we were both freaks back then ;))

    above all, (i know this has been stated before) COMMUNICATE. if you're just going to go with routine stuff that you guys have already done, not too much is required. if you're exploring new things, talk it up. it may impede on the "mood" the first time, but it'll make subsequent explorations that much more enjoyable.

    as for the bondage stuff, please be sure to leave a bit of slack as PE described and constantly check for circulation issues.
     
  13. TigreTek

    TigreTek omega member OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Oct 8, 2001
    Messages:
    26,927
    Likes Received:
    3

    find out what, in specific, turns her on in those videos. play off of that.
     
  14. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

    Joined:
    Dec 10, 2001
    Messages:
    52,552
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Miramar, FL
    Those videos have very advanced ties, some intense stuff that Though is VERY hot to watch, takes years of experience to administer properly. The Tops know what they are doing and the bottoms know to communicate what they are feeling if anything is wrong.

    Take it slow and have fun.
     

Share This Page