OK, I didn't know whether to post this here or in FS, so I'm just goign to go here and hope that a mod will move it if it's too inappropriate. OK, so my new girlfriend is abstaining from sex until she feels ready for it. She's "recommitted" herself, which I think is cool. But she does enjoy giving head. That being said: I always feel like I'm taking too long to finish while she's going down. I don't know whether it's her technique or my mental state, but I'm having a hard time asking her to do different things *during.* What should I do? I have next-to-no experience with this, 'cause all my previous girlfriends HATED oral and made it clear at the beginning of the relationship.