Opinion on cheating on FWB?

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  1. noob.

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    I have a friend I've known for about 4 years and have always liked. We've been FWB for about a year and a half, though it's difficult because I moved and only see him a few times a year. Because we've been friends for a while, most of the people I know, he knows too. We act like we're dating, we talk for hours every day, say I love you (even though he isn't IN love with me, I am in love with him). The last time I went to visit him he had lately been messing around with other girls who I had never met. I didn't want to "get back at him" like he thinks, I didn't even want to do anything with any other guys but I got drunk and things happened. He views as what I did as really bad and unforgivable, since the guys I messed with are friends/acquaintances of his. I guess my question is who is right? I don't think what I did was any worse than what he did. I know the whole idea of FBW is that you can still do stuff with other people, but we're a little more emotionally tied to each other than we should be for this arrangement to work.
     
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    first of all, you both are becoming way too attached. i don't know who's more attached, but the whole relationship sounds pretty fucked up to me.

    second, you fucked up worse. he just messed around with some random sluts. you did it with his friends. it's not the same.
     
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    at first glance i was gonna say you should divorce her. but after reading your post i think ya'll would make a really cute couple. i would recommend that you marry her. just remember, all the good girls get married fast and the rest are just the left over trash. and to answer your question as the man you are always right so i would disregard whatever your future wife is whining about. women tend to whine alot.
     
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    Definitely me. :(

    They weren't random though, one of them he pursued a relationship with while we were still messing around. And they were my friends too, that isn't my fault.
     
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    you.didn't.know.them.personally.so.they're.random.compared.to.the.friends.of.his.that.you.fooled.around.with.
     
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    Uh, did you even read the post?
     
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    :rofl::rofl::rofl:
     
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    :eek3:

    OF COURSE I DID !

    why would I post anything without reading? :ugh:

    That would be pure ignorance/comedy if I posted without reading....
     
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    Nobody's wrong.

    It's friends with benefits.

    It might SEEM like someone is wrong because you both are hurt, but the only wrong thing is the way you handled you guys being FWB.

    Because you weren't. Or at least didn't do it in traditional FWB form.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

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    This is stupid. You're fuck buddies, not boyfriend and girlfriend. You can do whatever the fuck you want with whoever you want, the same way he's already fucking other girls. It's none of his business to get mad at you, and you need to tell him if it bothers him so much to either deal with it or decide if he wants a real monogamous relationship.

    /thread
     
  11. Abomb

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    yah what he said
     
  12. noob.

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    I choose this answer, I like it best.
     
  13. Abomb

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    of course you do. females are always looking for the easy way out. blackice gave you the easy way out so naturally you took it. wow. am i the only person here not surprised? :hsugh:

    path of least resistance for the lose.
     
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    It's the simplest and least dramatic, and BlackIce is pretty dead on.
     
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    loose the Zero and get w/ a hero
     
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    :rofl: I hear stuff like that a lot. It's hard when it's the only person I've loved, sexxed, and he's one of my best friends.
     
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    this situation is fucked up. end of story.

    normally fwb is supposed to be less drama... but talking about your expectations would've been a good idea.
     
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    Why do you talk for hours a day with someone you don't even see but a few times a year? You can't cheat on a true FWB, cheating implies you did something you aren't supposed to be doing. You have got this all messed up. The two of you need to talk about what you really have and what you really want. This all sounds so messy.
     
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    Because, we act like more than FWB. We act more like we're going out, until he finds another girl. And it IS fucked up, but I'm not willing to cut off contact with him.
     
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    Well there's your problem right there. You can't be FWB and have an emotional attachment. This is why this situation bothers you, because you're attached to him and involved at a higher level. You really can't "cheat" on a fuck buddy.
     
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    I'll end your existence.
     
  22. Abomb

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    i was insulting her not you broseph :mamoru:
     
  23. noob.

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    Maybe you shouldn't insult anyone.
     
  24. Viper

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    If you had read the post, you might have picked up on the fact that the threadstarter is female. :hsugh:

    As for the original post, I think it's time to just end this FWB situation. There is no such thing as "cheating" on a FWB. It's just not possible. You are in a relationship if you are accusing each other of cheating, whether you want to admit it or not.

    I'd say to ask yourself if a relationship is what you want, but I think there's too much bullshit and history here for a relationship to ever really work out of it. As long as there are 3 billion other guys on the planet, I will say that it's time to end something like this and move on.
     
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