Only Once a Day

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  1. turbo_babe

    turbo_babe Guest

    Ok so theres one teeny problem that might be occuring. So as posted i'm 21 my boyfriend is 35. The sex that we have is absolutely wonderful. I have a higher than average sex drive where as his is fairly normal. The problem is that we can't have sex more than once a day!! Also we've been intimate for 3 days in a row and he needs a break to "recharge" Is there anything I can do to help his sex drive? I would have it every day if I could but when he's not feelin it he'll go limp.It's happened a couple times already and I dont want him to feel bad about it. Last time it happened he wouldn't stop saying sorry!!!
     
  2. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    viagra. if i were him i'd take it

    if u suggest it you will probably hurt his feelings
     
  3. turbo_babe

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    lol well he keeps it up no problem he just can't get it up again after....I dont want him to use viagra.
     
  4. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    Have him use toys on you till he's ready to go again, or just when he can't keep up? Masturbate for him and put on a show?
     
  5. RedVsBlue

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    You realize he is way past his sexual prime right? Your expectations of alot of sex probably dont help the situation easier. Welcome to dating an older man, either have him use viagra, or take what you get. Then again, maybe he just isnt really turned on by you.

    Sex drive is something to seriously take into consideration during a real relationship, and there is no shame or that making or breaking a relationship. You have to be sexually compatible to be a successful couple along with many other things.
     
  6. turbo_babe

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    Well I know that he is turned on by me theres no doubt about it. Its not affecting anything at all and we are perfectly compatible. I dont demand alot and if he cannot perform I totally ok with cuddling on the couch. This isn't just a sexual relationship. Im just wondering if I spice things up a bit if you think that will help.
     
  7. keleko

    keleko yes, he is

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    I AM NOT! :squint:
     
  8. keleko

    keleko yes, he is

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    wait.......



    that's not me so n/m












    :p
     
  9. turbo_babe

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    lol. Well its funny because my ex who is now 23 had a low sex drive.. I was dissatisfied.. I was with him almost 3 years and not once did I get the big O. Everytime im with my man, he nails it :big grin:
     
  10. keleko

    keleko yes, he is

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    of course

    w/e you do, do NOT make an issue of it

    don't say anything
    don't make faces
    don't hint

    he may think that if he can't (or doesn't want) to give it to you as often as you want it, then you're gonna go look elsewhere and be gone
     
  11. RedVsBlue

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    You sound immature. It doesnt have to be just a sexual relationship for you to need sexual compatibility. I said a REAL relationship...one that has real plans of a future together.

    If he cannot perform do you know what psycological effect you are having on him? I also didnt say anything about your compatibility as people, I am talking about sexually...and there is a big difference...and relationships that dont address this fail quickly.

    Honestly, you are young and he is older. What he is doing with such an immature person like yourself we will never know. But pushing him into more sex when he doesnt want it will likely end in you finding out just what your relationship really is. :hs:
     
  12. turbo_babe

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    oh thats not the case at all. I told him last night if ever wants to try something different or use toys to let me know because I dont want it to get boring (its not boring as of yet ;) ) and I wont make an issue of it..
     
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    So true...

    or he will just get tired of having a little girl around and move on.
     
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    by saying that, you made an issue of it :hs:
     
  15. keleko

    keleko yes, he is

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    :naughty: where ya at anyway? cuz i'd kill to find a girl around your age who wants it more than at least once a day :fawk:
     
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    You know my husband who is the same age of me lost his sex drive when he put on a few pounds after the kiddos were born.. since he has lost it his sex drive has came back..

    or maybe your bf feels like he does not want it daily..
     
  17. lauren

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    do you work? does he work? whats an average day for each of you? i dunno...once a day when you have stuff to do and responsibilities to take care of seems to wear on me.

    i wouldnt push for more. if you need more, re-evaluate the relationship.
     
  18. Falconer

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    Am I the only one that thinks a 21 yr old and a 35 yr old is a weird relationship to begin with? What could you possibly have in common?
     
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    do you think your current self will have anything in common with who you are in ten years?
     
  20. keleko

    keleko yes, he is

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    i'm 36 with a ragin', my drive hasn't slowed down at all - and if it ever does, SHOOT ME

    if i could find a 21yr old hottie who wants to fuck me at LEAST once a day, i would be all over that in a heartbeat
     
  21. turbo_babe

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    Alot of poeple think its strange. But you would only have to meet him to understand. We have alot of stuff in common. Trust me it took me a while to make a decision about "us". And I do not push for more sex. We both work 8-5 jobs. And we have a real relationship. I am actually quite mature for my age. And if things go good for us for the next 4 years we plan on getting married and having 2 children. Whether it happens like that I dont know. But we both love eachother very much. And you know he still gets ID'd for smoked and booze. And its not really that I NEED more. Its just I hear alot about people who do it twice a day every day and I want to try it!!! LOL. But I can see myself with him 5-10-20 years from now. But whatever i'm not really getting much help here. We both know what we want and we are happy.
     
  22. Falconer

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    I didn't mean anything by my age comment, I just have always thought large age gaps were odd. I know a ton of people who date outside their age, and it always gives me a kind of "eww" factor, but to each their own.

    How long have you two been together?
     
  23. turbo_babe

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    I'm not going to make a big deal over it. Its not something to re-evaluate my relationship about. If I dont get it every day im ok with that. im having a hard time here trying to clarify what I posted...
     
  24. turbo_babe

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    we have been together almost a year. We dated for about 5 months but there was alot of stuff going on (with the ex and my parents) so I ended it. We got back together 3-4 months ago. I started to hang out with him again and we missed eachother. This time around i'm a better more ready person than I was then. And Im glad things worked out this way because he is the most amazing guy i've known.
     
  25. Phantom Empress

    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    :dunno: if you are happy, then why compare what others are doing to what you have going? I only get it maybe 2 times week., I'd love more but life gets in the way.
     

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