One common thread I've noticed in all my LTRs

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  1. Falconer

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    The creation of inside jokes/references very early on in the relationship that get referred to early on in the relationship.

    I'm sure this is pretty normal and falls under "building rapport," but it's something I just realized.

    I'm sure the reasoning is something like this:

    - Assuming the joke is funny to both of you, it means you both have the same sense of humor (a requirement for a good relationship).

    - Referring to inside jokes makes people feel happy (keeping her in good emotions or "good feelings")

    - Inside jokes also have a "special" feel to them, ie. you're the only two who understand it. This builds comfort in a similar way as a "conspiracy plotline" from MM.

    - They also refer back to a previous time (the creation of the inside joke) when you were both in good emotions. This causes the joke/reference to bring back those original feelings.


    I've also noticed this in a few cases with females who I was not in an LTR with, but with whom I was on the "same wavelength." This one girl I worked with was married, but we clicked instantly we were on the same wavelength about everything which lead to the creation of many inside jokes/references. In fact, she moved away a year or so ago, but we still email occasionally and our emails are still filled with these references.

    And it's funny... even with my first LTR of 3.5 years, a relationship that ended 4 years ago, when we occasionally talk nowadays, our conversation still refers to these inside jokes/references and it's always a good, happy conversation.





    Note - As I reread this post, I wonder if "inside joke/reference" is the right term to use here. If this sounds completely crazy let me know and I'll try to redefine or give an example of what I'm talking about.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    My best relationships were one's with guys that I shared the same sense of humor with. If they didn't get my humor I had to dump them because it would never ever work out. I absolutely love how many inside jokes my current SO and I have. Every time we bring them up they immediately seem to bring us closer.
     
  3. Falconer

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    Perfect example. I can tell you know exactly what I'm talking about.
     
  4. Hunt

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    This is definitely a trend. I actually introduced my SO to OT, and although it seems really lame, it kind of became one of those stupid inside references that we always talked and laughed about. The daily, retarded happenings of OT always made for a few good laughs.
     
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    Yeah, it's called anchoring.

    A stimulus that generates a certain state response.
     
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    is it bad that my first inside joke with the s/o has to do with a pink haired stripper she caught me in a hotel room with?

    but yea, i've never really noticed it but the inside jokes really are pretty prevalent in the LTR's. odd.
     
  7. Falconer

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    omg is that anchoring? I never thought of an inside joke as anchoring.
     
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    well duh?

    i figured it was part of any good friendship.
     
  9. Midgetized

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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Yeah that kinda stuff always happens when you meat OTers IRL. You already have all these silly inside jokes so there is immediately this comfort zone already established. Even if you end up not having much else in common you can still find stuff to talk and joke about.
     
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  12. Falconer

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    So wait, are OTers like "z0mg, don't Rick Roll me!" or like "hey look, it's Pink Shirt Guy!"

    I think I'd be :rofl:ing.
     
  13. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    :rofl: I was hanging out with an OTer once and he got rick roll texted by another OTer :bowrofl:

    Yeah hanging out with OTers involves lots of :rofl: Random little jokes will just pop up and it's always tons of fun. People I've met from here are soooo much more fun than most of the people I meat in other ways :o
     
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    this is more of an effect than a cause. the cause is you sharing the same type of sense of humor with someone
     
  15. Falconer

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    I caught that one! :rofl::wavey:
     
  16. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    that's how it's always spelled on here :mamoru:

    i wanna meat you if you ever come to FL, i bet you'd be interesting to hang out with :run: :wavey:
     
  17. Falconer

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    Actually one of my uncles just moved to Florida (and bought an E N O R M O U S house out there). I've never been to Florida so I think I might go visit him one of these days. I forgot what city he moved to.

    edit - He moved to Ponte Vedra Beach. Is that far from Tampa?

    edit 2 - 3 hours and 38 min according to google maps. Maybe you should just come to Chicago instead.

    I hear Florida is humid. Humidity and I don't get along very well.
     
  18. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Yeah it's humid but not in the winter. Winter here is FTW :bowdown:

    Never been to chicago, maybe some time :dunno: I already have met 2 chicago OTers :run:

    Lemme know if you end up coming here and maybe I'll come meat you :hyper:
     
  19. Falconer

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    So at meats do people wear nametags that say "Hi, my name is (OT screename)"? :rofl:
     
  20. XaPU!M

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    Any idea what the weather is like in Orlando mid November usually?
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

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    Are you coming to Orlando??? Ooo, meat! Anyway, it's still usually warm here in November, like 70's
     
  22. Midgetized

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    :rofl: No that's way too :greddy: we just introduce ourselves like "hi i'm jen-midgetized"
     
  23. Midgetized

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    I think it's great but since you're from canada you'd prolly think it's hot :p
     
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    so you can say you'll show up and then not be there? :mamoru:
     
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    Yeah I have a week long trade show I have to attend then. I'm praying for it to be warm still because where I live will be just above 0 (I think that's 36 for you Americans :o)
     

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