SRS one big mess, what should i say?

Discussion in 'On Topic' started by AdolfZander, Jun 2, 2005.

  1. AdolfZander

    AdolfZander Guest

    Hello all,

    I'm posting here because I'm having a fair bit of trouble. I'll just put down some preamble first.

    I've liked this girl ever since high school (11th grade). Like her a lot, maybe the only girl in high school who I ever really respected. Anyways, I got off my ass and started to talk to her at the end of grade 11, but then she went away till Sept. (the start of grade 12). Not really anything happened. I think she just avoided me. Now we are in University, we've tossed some emails back and forth. Most of mine just silly and stupid. Just after Christmas, I sent her an email telling her how much I like her. She gets back saying how I caught her off guard, and how she would like to be friends and hang out. Oh well, but I had to respect that in that we've never really hung out, or even seen or talked besides some occasional emails.

    Now about a month ago, I sort of ask her out. She sneaks in telling me she now has a B/F. Again, oh well, I've known of the guy for years, always thought he was a dick. I sent a sort of pissed off letter back. She tells me to chill out, and assures me that that guy is just a friend. (which I always knew)

    Anyways, she'll be off again in a month. I'm pretty sure she wants me to call her, but she's very hard to get a hold of. But she did send a long email of times she'll be in, and told me to keep trying. I don't know why she won't just call me or return my calls? It's about time I called her so she doesn't think I've lost interest in her or something so I'm going to call tonight or tomorrow, or sometime this week. I guess I'm sort of nervous in that I'm a little deaf so I mumble a lot (don't want to look like an idiot), and I'm not sure what to say. Like I would love to get to know her better, but should I ask her if she would like to "hang out" sometime, or should I just call her, ask how things a going and hang up?

    I've been mental for 3+ years over her, and I don't want to be an idiot and screw things up like at the beginning of grade 12. Any suggestions, tips? Sall one big mess.

    JD
     
  2. thepornokid

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    She sounds like a lot of drama. My ex was the same way, in that she put a lot of stress on me and delt me a lot of drama. It already sounds like your in the friends zone, not to mention she already has a bf.

    Flat out ask her why she doesnt ever call you or return your calls. To be honest it already sounds like you lost your chance at getting anything more than friends with her.
     
  3. individual

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    There’s a problem right there man. Stop calling her girls love being felt wanted. If she wanted to talk to you she would call you. Every time her phone rings it probably gives her cheap thrills by just teasing you.

    I had a problem like this back in high school with someone in 9th grade till 12th. At the time I felt she was everything I wanted but it ended up being a huge mess. Still be friends with her though networking is nice, but just don't let it eat at you that you can't be with her. She's probably doing you the favor of not making any unwanted drama.
     
  4. AdolfZander

    AdolfZander Guest

    ah... crap.

    "There’s a problem right there man. Stop calling her girls love being felt wanted. If she wanted to talk to you she would call you. Every time her phone rings it probably gives her cheap thrills by just teasing you."

    Ha, yeah. Well, I've only ever called about 3 times over 2 years. Her parents pick up, and "they don't leave messages". Better phone than emails.

    "Flat out ask her why she doesnt ever call you or return your calls. To be honest it already sounds like you lost your chance at getting anything more than friends with her."

    I will call her on it, but I don't think I need to. She got pretty pissed at me the last time I did. Friends is fine, who knows whats around the bend.

    Thanks
     

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