SRS On-Line dating sites...

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  1. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Does this stuff really work??

    I joined eharmony.com and I've got a bunch of matches but very few of them actually respond back. One did and we talked for a lot for a while but then she posted her pics and I was turned off immediately. I posted mine and I think she liked them but once I saw hers my attitude changed and i think she knew it.

    But now i'm talkin to this other girl who I thought I had more in common but she seems so un-interested...maybe cause she saw my pics:o

    Anyone here have success with these on-line dating sites??? I beginning to think a lot of them are just scams. Although Eharmony is one of the better ones i think...All the people on their commercials are not that great looking either so...it makes me think, where are all these damn women at?
     
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    keleko yes, he is

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    i'm trying yahoo right now
     
  3. michaele36

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    did u try myspace? Myspace is cool. i've met a few girls there but they were turned off by my pictures:wtc:
     
  4. michaele36

    michaele36 New Member

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    how old are you guys that are trying these sites. i'm 17 but i dont go to regular school so its hard for me to meet women so i'm debating wether to try myspace or yahoo.
     
  5. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I've been on Yahoo before too and its terrible. I hate Yahoo. I'm pretty certain Yahoo is definately a scam.


    I've got a profile on myspace ...I haven't really gone on myspace though to look for girls. Mostly everyone's site is all fancy and what not. Mine's not. its not fancy or anything. I haven't done any research either on how to hook it up better

    i'm old(er) too.
    Hittin the bars/clubs has never been a big thing for me.
     
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    Why don't you go to 'regular' school? What kind of school do you go to?
     
  7. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Holy On-Line Nutbars, Batman! I have tried on-line dating (LavaLife, Plenty of Fish, Yahoo, etc) 90% of the men are just looking for sex (who needs to go on-line for that?), of the 10% leftover, there is maybe 1% who are looking for a "normal" (whateverinthehellthatis) relationship. Of the men I have actually met, one was looking for a Mother; one was looking for a woman who looked like Barbie doll and had the IQ of Einstein; another was looking for a "Sugar Momma"; 2 were on the rebound; one was looking for a Mother for his kids;one had no teeth and picked his nose; and the others were just freaks (latex anyone?). I have given up on internet dating. I figure when Cupid is in the mood, it will happen...Cupid doesn't have a timetable. Meanwhile, why get all tangled up in modern technological dating? I have heard of people meeting on line and have had success (my Brother is an example). But, my experience has just been negative. (Maybe I am a nutbar magnet). There are also alot of scammers out there, so those who chose to go the internet dating route, I strongly advise caution.
     
  8. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    For a lot of us 'dating in real life' is extremely hard, the confrontation, the dissapointment, the uphold often way to high expectations and standards we set on other people who are after all 'only human'

    SO you want to date a person on the other side of the world? Good luck in that you have to buy a flight plane ticket to begin with :uh: , look the whole on-line dating thing is just a sham. Shy people will resort to it because its less confrontational then real life, also going 'out' and 'date' doesn't really appeal to many people. Getting drunk and socialize is hard for a lot of people because they simply 'aren't like that'

    So you'll get that all the shy people are sitting behind their computers with HUGE expectations from the other side. Waiting for their partner of their dreams, until the HARSH realisation comes that the whole damn internet is just one BIG lie.

    Unfortunatly i've been there too, this guy richie gave me the advice at the time NOT to believe it , and to find someone within your circle of reach. You need to find REAL love :love: in life, not virtual. The word virtual means FAKE. A make believe world, yeah there might be a real person at the other side of the line, but how are you going to check it? I'll tell you my embarressing story.

    So here i was (like 16) wanting to meet a beautifull model over the internet. :dunno: (embarresing but i'll continue) So i got this picture of this stunning girl, and i believed it. She told me she was a model, and that her parents had died at some car crash and that she inherited all the money from her parents, and now lived with step dad and mom living some luxurious life, driving a fantastic car living a models life.

    OF course it was all a sham, a lie. She lied about her parents dying (i then believed no one would lie over a horrible thing like that( naive ) , i got to see her real picture that of course was not anything like her, in great dissapointment i totally changed the way how i acted towards her.

    I believed it all because i was totally in love with her. The devastation that that woman has put me thru was enough reason to want to have nothing to do or have any relationship with any woman for the rest of my life. I never loved a woman in 'that' way anymore , purely into preventing myself going thru something like that ever again as a form of self protection.

    Now , i see it as a 'good' life lesson. I got a serious beating and was brougth back to reality into facing how ABSURD all my high expectations were. One needs to be able to "PINCH" thru all that what is fake in life. Its no joke to lie about your parents dying, its no joke to play around with someone elses feelings.

    My attitude change was wrong also, it basically meant 'im nice to beautifull woman who have a dreadfull attitude, and im being cruel against society's considered 'ugly' woman who are nice individuals' , in other words I was the MONSTER , who filled with lust and egoism wanted things from life that just aren't there you see.

    What you 'want' and how things 'are for real' are two entirelly different things, that are determined by factors of reality rather then by your will imposed desires. You might as wel smack your head against a wall, its the same painfull realisation that you are chasing a world that doesn't exist.

    It shows that you don't love everyone on a equal basis, and that you are discriminating against many people. It learned me that i never should go into a relationship expecting things to work out just because it conserns me (you know that 'im special feeling' ) that you have, and that a woman can pack her bags and leave any day at any time. And that even the MOST beautifull woman can be a horrible demon in disguise for all you know.

    On-line dating only works, if the people drop the on-line dating and 'actually' meet eachother in real life, and stay together. But if the distance remains? You might as well not be together because oceans or miles of land seperate you.

    So on-line dating, i heard it worked for some people but i advice you to stay out of it. Its also not because 'my one bad experience' is a standard for everyone, its about the factors that lie behind it. Namely you 'cant check it out' what's really going on. If you cant provide some sort of control into checking up on the other person, then you can never see what that person is doing behind your back.

    The advice therefore is.

    -search someone within reach
    -don't expect too much
    -value inner qualities more,then only outer appearances.
    -stay away from on-line dating, reality > virtuality
    -the internet is a lie

    That the internet is a lie is a bit exaggerated, but so far i've only met guys who pretended to be girls on the on-line sites + robots.

    The on-line dating sites are always the same. The guys only want sex with woman, and most of the woman only seem to be lesbian that want sex with other woman, so that doesn't really work out. Also if a genuine girl places her advertisement , it will always include something like 'wanting a relationship , but no sex'

    Its such a big load of crap that i want you to stay away from it as far as possible and only do those things that are 'realistic' + 'substantial'
     
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    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Holy Doodle Batman! WOW! Gee, DE I did not know that you had all of that within you. Holy Crap. I am gonnathink very long and very hard about what you have said. I am speechless.
     
  10. dave steel

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    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    I've tried True.com as well....

    On Eharmony.com the only women I seem to be getting are the ones with children and/or unattractive large women :hs:

    I had a good communication with one lady but she showed me her pic and I don't find her attractive at all. I've been communicating with another one and actually called her but she posted her pic now too and I'm not attracted to her either. I'm not looking for a barbie type girl either. I just want some who I am attracted too, emotional and physically...

    EDIT: i'm also ONLY communicating with women near me. I'm in virginia so women in the surrounding areas (i'll go as far as Maryland) would be ideal. Women in other states I will not pursue because I'm not going to another state just to meet some girl.

    sidenote, local news station ran a news story on online dating stringers. It apparently means its people that string others along with the intention of meeting you but all the while its just so you can keep paying the membership to them. I think this has been happening since the beginning of the net but for some reason this news station seems like they just found out about it.
     
  12. Toasty

    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    Sure. Just treat these online dating sites as a tool for the initial contact. The rest is up to you.

    My advice...

    - use common sense. When something sounds unbelievable (like she tells you she loves you within 2 contacts), it usually is B.S.

    - take it slow. Don't put all your hopes into this too fast. Express your concerns to her at some point, and know that if she's genuine, she has all the fears you have too.

    - encourage other forms of contact. Telephone conversations for a little while, then you both should eventually get to doing video if the distance is an issue. Video, while not quite as good as meeting in person, DOES tell a whole lot about a person. As much as 75% I'd say based on my experience.

    - at some point, discuss if you both see a goal to all of this. Are you doing this for marriage or for just a casual fling?

    Don't rush it....you'll KNOW when it's time you both want to meet in person.

    My current GF, we didn't physically meet till 10 months after our first contact together. We couldn't be happier.
     
  13. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Wow. Thats great...a successful online dater!

    What site did you meet her on? How far apart were you from her??

     
  14. Toasty

    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    Met on Match.com. I first tried it only because I had another friend who had met his GF through it and has now been dating her for over 2 years and are planning marriage.

    Yes it's a very positive thing in my life so far...like I said, it's just a tool to get you started. The rest is up to the 2 of you. You really CAN meet genuine people online, but you have to invest a LOT of time and caution into it. Don't throw common sense away.

    AND if it's a distance issue.... be sure you're BOTH prepared for it. You'd have to essentially put double the effort into the relationship in order to keep each other a part of your daily life.

    Obviously it can get expensive too. But these days with modern conveniences like video, IM, and internet telephony....it helps a LOT. But even still...the trips can add up. I just make a point of saving up for it.
     
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    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    :) Toasty, you are always so sensible.
     

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