On bringing up the status of your "relationship"

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  1. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    What would it mean if one person asked "so... is this a relationship?" (or whatever) and the other person replied "if you want it to be" or "we're whatever you want us to be."

    Is that:

    - high interest? (giving the asker all the power)
    - High interest masked as not caring? (giving the asker the power but pretending like you don't care)
    - Or low interest? (not caring)


    I would think that low interest would be ruled out because wouldn't low interest say "no" to that question?

    Discuss.


    edit - Fixed typo in subject but it doesn't show up in the forum.
     
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  2. chica&buddies

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    :dunno: i would say that's low interest. that person is probably happy where things are and doesn't want to lose what they've got [or make other person upset].

    it would be better if other person responded and said something like, "what do you want us to be?" ... because the interest is higher there, imo.

    i've never had it asked that way, btw... usually it's "sooo are we bf/gf? :o"
     
  3. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

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    medium interest? which might as well be low interest.

    like you said, low interest would just say no, but if you liked someone and wanted to be with them, you would say so, you wouldnt just say "whatever you want"

    and personally, i would want to be on the other end of "whatever you want." i might like being in a relationship with that person, but i would want that person to want to be there with me just as much as i want to be there with them
     
  4. Falconer

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    Same question, same answer :dunno:
     
  5. chica&buddies

    chica&buddies Active Member

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    yeah... if a guy responded by saying "whatever you want," i would have lost a lot of interest in him :rofl: :dunno:

    imo, that doesn't seem genuine or honest, whatsoever.

    :dunno:

    edit: reasons why? he's not investing his feelings into the answer at all. if he had interest, a common response would be to respond by saying how much you care for that person and like being around them. :)
     
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  6. JordanClarkson

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    Depends on tone of voice I guess. She could be just flirting/teasing. :dunno:
     
  7. JordanClarkson

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    that's good. i'm going to use that next time :rofl: (if there is a next time)
     
  8. chica&buddies

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    :rofl:

    :squint: you know what i meant.
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

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    I would have to hear the tone of voice to determine. To me (when I read it) I hear it as someone who is interested but not even close to as interested in the relationship as the other person asking.
     
  10. chica&buddies

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    i totally agree. the tone would show intentions as well.

    :o so would the atmosphere at which the conversation took place.
     

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