Firstly, I have NO problem with people's fantasies, fetishes, or sexual preferences... I am semi-normal in bed and I like being that way, but I'm the last person that would ever tell someone it's wrong for being into what they're into. I have known a guy for over 2 1/2 years, we've been lovers off and on during that time. He hinted a few times that he was into domination and that he liked women with fake tits because he liked the idea of a woman permanently changing herself to please a man. These things were never issues, I just let him know that I'm not into dom and I won't be getting fake tits to please any man. Life went on... Then, last week I get a random email from him. He decided to spill his guts and tell all (why he picked that day, I dunno, but I had already had a horrible day at work and his email didn't help..) He went into this other life he has. He described sex with me as "marriage sex" ( ) and the other women in his life have their roles too. He went into very graphic detail about his favorite things: fisting, watching hardcore porn, orgies, "gigantic fake tits" ( <--his words ), bondage, "pretend rape", and various other demeaning acts towards women in bed. Again, I am NOT one to judge people who are into that stuff. My issue is, WHY THE FUCK DIDN'T HE TELL ME THESE THINGS BEFORE WE EVER HOOKED UP???? I feel that if you are confident in who you are and what you're into, you should be open with the people in your life. If he had told me these things when we first got together, no feelings would have been hurt, I would've wished him luck, and been on my way. I feel lied to and I feel dirty. He said that sex with me wasn't necessarily boring, but mundane :sad: .... He was afraid to tell me because he didn't want me to think he was weird or something. I feel cheated. Like, I was into it when we were together, but he wasn't. His mind was on all the dirty things he could do to me instead of enjoying what we had. Is it wrong for me to be pissed?? I'm tired of being so accepting and letting people that lie into my life. I see it like this: single parents SHOULD (and most do) tell people that they have kids at home. Most of them tell on the first date, so that there aren't any surprises later on. Point being: if there is something in your life that is very important to you, you should be honest with other people about it. ...sorry for the long post, any help?