FRK Okay I never want to hear this again v.rough

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  1. Socrates

    Socrates New Member

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    My last serious relationship, and now this relationship, both girls said "I can't really see you as the rough type." Don't get me wrong, I can get women off with the best of them, and I know she doesn't ALWAYS want rough sex, but it's still good to have.

    Now, the other night, my girlfriend and I had some rough sex. She said it was rough, but I am guessing it wasn't rough enough.

    I thrust hard, I pull her hair (usually for like 2-3 seconds at a time), I scratch her, I spank her (a little), I bite (somewhat --- just on the neck I guess), and all that good stuff. I guess usually when I want her to change positions I just say "roll over on your stomach" or "roll on your back". Should I just move her ass around? It seems like if I try to do that, she might get the awkward "what are you doing" as i'm beginning it.

    I'm pretty confident at regular sex/love making, but I guess I need my porn star inside of me to come out. Can you SEXPERTS post the tricks to good ROUGHHHHH sex? ROUGH! :x:
     
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    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Do you enjoy the rough sex or the dominant role?? Do you enjoy them more than "regular sex"??
     
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    they like to be tossed/flipped etc. be in control of them.
     
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    Jacy red lipstick brigade

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    Don't be afraid to manhandle her. She'll like it if she's the type that likes to be dominated :naughty:
     
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    VulgarTheClown A child and a gun.....go together like apple pie a

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    Manhandling is where its at.

    I pick my girl up and move her, if she has a question she asks it and then we keep going, if she doesn't want to be moved how i moved her we move a different way, not a big deal at all. The mood breaks depending on your reaction to her reaction (of course if she freaks out it kinda kills it)
     
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    The Secretary My domestic skills will rock your socks off!

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    Put her where you want her. If you want her on her back then put her on her back, if you want her on her tummy put her there. If she is into this kind of thing then she will enjoy the hell out of it.

    Edit: I do.
     
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    I think the key is to be comfortable with being dominant.

    And if you are, then do whatever the fuck you want. And if she complains, slap her around. (You know what I mean by that, don't beat her, just teach her.)

    I like it rough sometimes, not always. But if I were to say something like that to my fiance, he'd beat my ass, choke me (playing, of course), slap me, pull my hair, probably spit on me, amongst other things.

    You really need to feel out what you're comfortable with doing. I get the sense that you're not totally comfortable with everything that you "think" she expects.

    For instance by saying

    the (a little) part and the (somewhat---) part lead me to believe that you think you're supposed to be doing that, but you're not sure and you're not totally comfortable with the idea. And the uncomfortable could be because you really don't like it or simply because you're not sure what you're doing.

    If you don't know what you're doing, start with basics. Restraining her, smacking her around. Push your limits, but don't go into that zone where you're not comfortable anymore. And push her. If she doesn't seem to be into it, push a little harder. Try verbal abuse too. Some chicks get off on that more than the physical aspect.
     
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    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    This is why I asked my original quesitons...if the OP doesn't enjoy the dom role or being "agressive" during sex, it's likely that he won't enjoy these suggestions.

    lol my initial response was going to be to: take...don't ask

    With additional suggestions about telling her to shut the fuck up and all that, but then I reconsidered. Perhaps rough sex isn't the same as all that.
     
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    Which is precisely why i reiterated the question at the beginning of my post.

    i've done a lot of freaky shit in my day, but there are still things that freak me out so much that even the thought of them makes me shiver (even though i do write about them sometimes in my stories... probably some sort of freudian thing...)

    people need to understand that being freaky with oneself really isn't something to be forced. it can be nurtured to grow, but if it isn't there from the start, it never really will be there in full.
     
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    I do like it, but I haven't had much rough sex.

    When i'm doing it, i'm too busy thinking "Am I going to hurt her?" or "Does she like this?" to enjoy it. That is something I can get over very fast though.

    The main reason I like it is because I know SHE likes it. That alone turns me on. I'm welcome to any suggestion of any extent.
     
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    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Well what I would do then is at some non-romantic time, set up some sort of safe word and/or hand signal. Don't tell her what you are planning, just tell her if at any time she wants you to stop to say the word or make the hand signal (in case he can't speak). that way, if she's in too much pain, you stop.

    It also makes her wonder what you are planning.

    You can then feel free to discipline her as you see fit.

    At some later date, perhaps order her to do somehting. If she refuses, tell her that's an unacceptable response. Give her a minute to reconsider. If she doesn't...then begin the discipline.

    Again...take - don't ask.

    If she complains, gag her. Put a sock in her mouth and use a neck tie to keep it in place. Don't just give her short bursts of pain...make them last...perhaps use clothes line clips. Unpredictability is the main thing...keep her guessing about what you will do next.

    I'm not suggesting you rape your g/f....but I know a couple of girls that actually have fantasies of rape...so perhaps that's something she wants...I dunno.

    One thing is for sure...don't ever violate that word or sign. When you see it or hear it, stop...immediatly. She should trust you in this regard.

    Hope that helps.
     
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    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    I tend to agree with this. It seems that some people have it and some don't. However, I'd also like to think that those who don't are just repressing this side of their personality and they'll explore it if they feel safe/challenged.
     
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    agreed.


    and referring to your other post... moistened panties are much more effective (and less gag inducing ((and not gag in a good way))) than socks ;)
     
  14. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    good idea...perhaps socks should only be used if she's particularly rebellous.
     

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