to make a long story short, i used to be a fairly outgoing person, shit happened and i was a bit depressed, and now im not very outgoing (unless im drunk), but i have been working on it for a while now (i have had a few people tell me i seem a lot happier and more outgoing) but im my mind its still not enough i have problems trying to impress a girl i am with by not being myself, because i care so much what they think about me, and well i want something to happen between us, and not have her think i am weird or something and not want to start dating, which is a really bad thing so for starters, how do i fix the above problems.. like i said i have been working on it, but i seem to have hit a peak and cant go any further and secondly, soon i will be meeting a girl who i met almost a year ago again, she seemed great when i met her, and told her friend that she "liked me" now im almost certain she said that as a person standpoint and not a relationship stand point.. please dont get this confused with me being in the friend zone.. believe me i know ALL about it. ever since i met this girl way back when, i thought she would be a great girl for me, but i was too shy to get her number, and i havent talked to her since i just want things to work out with this girl, i need it to work out to really get my confidence back, but (in my head anyways) i wont have any confidence untill it happens.. so i am at a standstill in my head im a shy person around people who i like, or who i think am better than i am (ut oh, confidence issues!) but i dont want to be what is a good way to break myself from these bad habits? im a great person to be around if i get to know you, but being shy doesnt let me get to know people very well im sorry for this long ass post, but im really trying to fix myself here, i really want/ need this to work out to really better myself and i hate to admit it, but the only reason i am more outgoing when i am drunk isnt because of what the alcohol does to me, its because i know the people around me know im drunk and i can just be my crazy self and just "blame it" on the alcohol.. and please dont get that comment wrong, i do not have an alcohol problem at all, i dont have to drink to have a good time, i dont need it to make me feel better, i can go for long periods of time without drinking and not even think about it, etc. i know what it is like being "addicted " to something and its not alcohol.. just trying to get that across i just want your guys opinions on things i should try to do to make myself ready to make a great impression on this girl thanks!