Oh man I feel like shit

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  1. Another Loser

    Another Loser New Member

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    I met this girl and we've gone out a few times and I like her more than any female on the planet. And then she writes me this.

    I like you, you're a great guy, but I can't see us as being any more than friends. And it's nothing about you, you're cute, I'm just not feeling anything in the whole attraction range for some reason. I don't exactly know why, but I'm having a hard time being attracted to anyone right now, which is part of the reason I decided to start dating in the first place, to maybe find someone that I could be attracted to. I'm beginning to think that I'm just frigid or something, I'm not sure. But I need to work some things out, so I'm not so sure it's a good idea for you to continue taking me out and buying everything because it's just not fair. If you want to hang out, I'm cool with that, but I just don't want you to think there's more to this than there is.


    Did I fuck up and am just too ugly to be attracted to or is it really something she needs to sort out and I still have a chance?

    Either way I feel like total utter shit.
     
  2. rkf76

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    You know what bro, it could be worse. She could have milked you for all it's worth, knowing you don't have a chance in hell with her. She could have not said anything to you and just stopped returning your calls, etc. But you said she wrote that to you, kinda immature if you ask me, so you aren't losing out on anything. Rejection is a beotch, try to take it in stride and move on to the next, it's her loss.
     
  3. Another Loser

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    It sucks though because I've felt so alive since I met her. We are so alike but at the same time have our opposites and spending time with her is just awesome.

    looks like my evening is gonna be spent with a bottle of whiskey tonight.
     
  4. rkf76

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    I feel you. It sucks when things don't work out the way you want them to with the lady of your choice. Deal with it the best way you know how, just don't beat yourself up about it.
     
  5. rkf76

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    maybe you shouldn't try so hard??

    Girls like challenges, keep that in mind next time.
     
  6. Another Loser

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    Think there is any hope because she'd still like to hang out with me? Is there any chance I might still have if she works out "her problems?"
     
  7. teo

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    she gets points for being honest. :dunno:

    maybe during your dates she was really trying to feel some attraction and now she's come to the conclusion that it's just not there, at least right now. she seems open to hanging out so you know she still enjoys your company - she probably wants to hang around you in a situation with less pressure. continue to hang out with her if you want a chance, but be prepared for the chance that you might not be the guy she ends up choosing for a relationship.
     
  8. PuppyCat

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    I have to give her credit for telling you how she feels, if in fact she is being honest with you. We'll go the honesty route.
    I know she likes you. That much is evident.
    I know she has stuff to work out. Sometimes working out stuff requires being alone, or trying on new people to see if they fit.
    She could have strung you along and asked for the moon, but she was upfront and said "no more".
    I think there is a very, very slim chance of your relationship going anywhere other than hanging out and being buddies. There might come a weak moment and....but it will not last.
    I have never seen your face, so I cannot comment on if you are indeed ugly or cute, but you sound cute and you sound nice and I think you have a big heart. I do not believe that you f%$^d things up either.
    Give her space, be her friend, do not dwell, take time and look around...I'm sure some girl out there will catch your eye ...especially when you least expect it.
    So get out there...look around and have some fun.
    I dare you.
    :)
     
  9. rkf76

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    I wouldn't hang around "hoping" she decides to like you. just move on, anything less will just delay the inevitable and cause you more pain.
     

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