'Number of dates' rule.

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  1. Ivandrago

    Ivandrago I must break you.

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    Do any of you guys actually stick to those rules? If a girl won't get in bed with you after a 5th or 6th date, do you usually break it off, or do you keep at it? Let's say for the sake of example, you're not looking to get into anything serious at this point. How long do you wait before you break it off?
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    nah, i think thats a pretty dumb rule. you have to feel out the relationship/interaction.
     
  4. Savage5point0

    Savage5point0 Im an asshole.

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    Youd have to be a trooper to stick with it for 6 fucking dates. I think 3 is a better number.
     
  5. Two toys

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    it completely depends on the person.
     
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    Vysion New Member

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    Don't limit yourself to dating only 1 woman and you wont have to worry about how long she wants to wait.
     
  7. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    sex by the third date is a good GUIDELINE in my opinion

    obviously situations can vary greatly

    but IN GENERAL, if a woman won't sleep with you by the third date, she isn't going to sleep with you (and obviously there are always exceptions to everything)

    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=3304341
     
  8. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    excellent point
     
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    I usually lose interest within 2 or 3 dates, whether or not we've had sex. :rofl:
     
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    I think its more the thrill of the hunt for me, but I usually feel it out and know when to give up
     
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    i thought i was the only one :hs:
     
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    i won't ever have sex with a guy after 1, 2, 3, or 6 dates. :ugh:

    it doesn't mean i'm not interested in him. if i wasn't interested, i wouldn't continue going out with him. :dunno: if he can't wait, then that's his problem, not mine.
     
  13. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    I don't follow any 'rules' enforced by society. Society is messed up. I do what works for me and the person I am with.
     
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    :werd: & the situation


    With my ex, for example, I think it took about a month for me to feel comfortable with that, and we dated for 3+ years so maybe I'm an exception according to what Yail talked about :mamoru: But I slept with my current SO quick into the relationship, because the timing just felt right and it definitely was :dunno:
     
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    as I pointed out in my thread linked above, the third date could very well be at about the one month mark
     
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    Keep in mind too that many women withhold sex from guys that they really like. I've seen many girls that had reputations for being easy or slutty with random guys, but when they meet that one guy that really causes a strong attraction within them, they withhold sex so they don't come off as easy or slutty.

    If she turns down your sexual advances, but continues to go out on dates with you and has fun each time, she could very well like you a lot.
     
  17. giz

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    I didn't kiss my last gf until the 3rd "date." We didn't sleep together until we had hung out almost every day for 2 weeks.
     
  18. MissKitty

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    When 'dating' my husband, he made me wait. Damn him. He would have held out longer but apparently I have this look and he could only hold off for so long until he fell victim to my advances :rofl:

    Looking back though, I am glad we waited. But then again, we did everything but so we didn't miss out on anything. It was nice to fool around and not automatically have it lead to sex to finish it off. We learned a lot about each other's bodies and what we liked.

    The rude things happened and then we went "Hmm, maybe we should date" not the other way around.

    Sex isn't everything. Sexual attraction and compatibility play a huge part - sex doesn't need to occur for you to sort out those issues
     
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    4th date with no nudity is pretty doubtful

    Id say she has to get in bed with me by the 3rd chance she gets or unless im absolutely blown away head over heals AND she incredibly hot, there probably won't be a 4th. It doesn't 100% have to be sex. A blowjob or a handjob or something would be enough for me see a mutual sexual attraction worth pursuing.
     
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    I never understood that. Were you actually interested to begin with?

    Any girl ive ever bothered to take on an actual date I was interested in, and became more interested in after sex.... unless the sex is awful.
     
  21. Ivandrago

    Ivandrago I must break you.

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    I would not take anyone out on a date unless I was interested in something. Or...I would go out because my friends would set me up and say 'she's a great girl you guys will get along great' :o This is one of those case where i'm losing interested because i'm already bored. :o
     
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    a hand job is the worst thing ever, that is negative poitns
     
  23. NuShooz

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    guys tend to give up very easily, as this thread has shown. It took me about a month before I got my current gf in bed. She told me later on that the guy she dated before me got her in bed within 3 dates...less than a week. The day she slept with him was their last date.
     
  24. Ivandrago

    Ivandrago I must break you.

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    In this case, it has been a bit over 2 months, 6 dates. :o
     
  25. antihero

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    I'm more interested in the effort then the result.

    If you don't want to hop in bed with me after 3 dates, we don't have any sexual chemisty. no harm no foul. best of luck to you. If you want to and decide to hold out on me, you are a pain in the ass, and best of luck to you :wavey:
     

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