now or wait?

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  1. now

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  1. THoC

    THoC New Member

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    ive been talking to this girl that i met online. ive actually never really met a girl through that means but i figured why the hell not.

    i actually started to talk to her during my first break from the recent ex (feb 2009). spoke/text/etc for 2 months. then i got back w. my ex so i broke off the communication, explained to her why and she understood.

    feb this year me and the ex split for good and communication w. this girl opens back up.

    she lives in miami. has a cousin in tampa.

    so 2 weeks ago she visits me for the weekend and stays with me.

    overall we have a lot in common including interests and age. from what i know of her, she is a sweet person.

    now for the negatives:

    * she is already talking about moving to tampa. she masks it with "im tired of miami" and "i miss my cousin". i dont doubt that they may play a part in it but i also feel i do to. which is a BAD choice on her end to want to move here for a guy she met in person once. the thing is, she knows i refuse to commit to a long distance RS.

    * first night we go out she gets drunk. so am i. no biggie. these dudes from jaxville stop by the bar and they have beads on. she calls em over to ask for the beads. this already made me :hsugh: since she is 33. maybe im just weird.
    so they come over and of course want to see her tits for the beads. she asks me if its cool (hell no its not! but im not in a RS with you so do wtf you want). i say "they are not my tits. do what you want".
    she lifts up her shirt and shows her bra only. then pretty much teases the guys until they realize they wont see the whole thing and they leave.
    at this point i dont show it but in my head im :ugh:

    * she shared with me that she was molested as a child. so in bed there is no rough play. im by no means a freak but no holding arms down? no ass smacking? :eek4:

    * she will randomly text me with "i dont know why but im crying", "im feeling really sick right now", etc..


    i feel like at times im a heartless fuck but i have VERY little patience for people who get depressed easily and are always "sick" and complaining about it. im a very happy person in general and do not like being dragged down with shit like that.


    the more i think about it the more i dont want to even continue this situation. sure she is cool and attractive and minus the "rules" when she spent the night it was fun... but one, i know this will go no where. and two, i dont want to hurt her by keeping this going when i know it will end badly. especially if she decides to move here.

    here is my question. she bought a surprise ticket to visit again next weekend (4/15). she was going to spend thur night with me and then all of friday.

    do i just ended it now? or should i wait until after she leaves tampa?

    this would not even be a question had she not already bought the ticket. but she has.... i would offer to pay her back but im sure she will say no. :hsd:
     
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    I say end it now so she doesn't bother to fly up to see you just to get rejected. There is no point in keeping things going.
     
  3. antihero

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    tickets already bought. have a nice weekend and break up after
     
  4. THoC

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    god damn you! why couldnt you agree with first post so im not 50/50 now :squint:

    i should have made this a poll.
     
  5. CorpseStreet

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    If I post my opinion again does that make it 60/30?

    /broad logic
     
  6. THoC

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    :mamoru:
     
  7. CorpseStreet

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    just trying to help
     
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    I would say this, maybe she will do something crazy again and you can use that for a reason to breakup with her when she leaves. :dunno: Then she doesn't feel like the trip was SUPER wasted?
     
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    all i kept picturing is your av saying this and i loled.
     
  10. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    Stage 5 clinger

    ABORT
     
  11. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    GET TO THE CHOPPER!
     
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    how did i know this was coming from you :rofl:
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    end it now. do you really want to be any more involved with this chick, even for one weekend?

    dont pay for the ticket, she can visit her cousin instead of you
     
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    hmmm... thats true. if she can visit her cousin then no harm $ wise i suppose. but if she cannot due to whatever reason then i still feel inclined to offer to pay :hs:
     
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    dude seriously? no. SHE bought the ticket, without asking you first. you, who arent her BF, you are just a guy she has been talking to. its her issue, not yours.

    repeat: HER issue, NOT yours!
     
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    YES MA'AM!!! :hsd:
     
  19. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    Make yourself busy, all weekend.
     
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    seriously though....dont do that overly nice guy thing.
     
  21. THoC

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    as in... dont even tell her not to come and have her arrive to tampa just to ignore her? :nono:
     
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    you got something against "nice" guys?
     
  23. CorpseStreet

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    :werd:
     
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    They tend to get walked all over, which is sad to see to someone who is a good guy.
     
  25. THoC

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    i was just messing with her. but yes, i can agree with that.
     

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