Not the average "gf broke up with me" thread.

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  1. Khlav Kalash

    Khlav Kalash RIP JMJ

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    Or maybe it is. I don't know.

    I was dumped yesterday morning. After 3.5 years. Out of nowhere.

    I'm in shock... or delusional... or in denial... but it seems like it didn't even happen. When she told me, I stared at the wall for about an hour, and then got in bed for 4-5 hours, haven't eaten anything but a yogurt since.

    It feels like she'll just call me or come over (this isn't a wish)... it FEELS like she'll come over and it'll be like it never happened. Like it was a bad dream.

    Has anyone else been like this? Taken DAYS to realize what the hell has happened?

    I don't even feel like I was dumped. I love her more than anything, but I haven't felt any emotion.
     
  2. Khlav Kalash

    Khlav Kalash RIP JMJ

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    Now that I read my own words... maybe I thought if I typed it out instead of replaying it over and over in my head for 30+ hours straight... I thought reading how I feel would spark some emotion.

    But nothing.
     
  3. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    Sounds like denial.

    :hs:

    It'll hit soon.
     
  4. Khlav Kalash

    Khlav Kalash RIP JMJ

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    Yeah. Especially when we both work together at the same time tomorrow.
     
  5. Propaganda

    Propaganda New Member

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    Khlav dude I'm totally in the same boat =/. I dated this girl for 3.5 years and one morning she just walks in and 10 minutes later she ends our relationship. Odd thing is I also live in Portland haha. Just cheer up bro, Its tough I keep on having dreams about her and its been about 1 month. Keep your head up and seek out all your friends they give decent advice and will keep your mind off her.
     
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    LOLOLOLOLOL

    Yeah make sure you look at her, don't blow her off you've gotta look at her straight in the eyes.
     
  7. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    you are a lucky man

    you should be single while you are young

    this is the best thing that could have possibly happened to you, you just don't yet have the perspective to see it that way
     
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    Propaganda New Member

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    This man speaks the TRUTH.
     
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    mattduke New Member

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    Same thing happened to me a couple weeks ago, except it wasn't out of no where when we finally broke up completely, we went through some arguing and "separation" shit for two weeks before it. I am still a little in shock, but it is just now sinking in and sucks.

    Mine was a 5.5 year relationship though.
     
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    this is actually good because then tom at work you will pretend like it hasnt affected you which it hasnt yet. Hopefully you can stand strong when it hits. It's normal and it will come. or maybe it wont?
     
  11. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    :eek3:Dagger
     
  12. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    did you ever get an explanation? if not, do u think it's because of the dancing dinosaur AV?
     
  13. Khlav Kalash

    Khlav Kalash RIP JMJ

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    I've lost 12lbs so far and it hasn't yet been two full days. :down:
     
  14. Khlav Kalash

    Khlav Kalash RIP JMJ

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    I don't want her to cry.
     
  15. maskednegator

    maskednegator Kosmonaut, best we've got...

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    she didn't show you the same courtesy.
     
  16. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    Women cry very frequently, its no big deal.
     
  17. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    :roflwtf:
     
  18. verdiocchi

    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    I feel like I am the exception to almost every generalization you make about women. I have cried...probably twice so far this year. Once when I said goodbye to my sister because I was moving away, and again when at my best friend's wedding.

    That said, my bf knows that if I cry about something, it's a VERY big deal.
     
  19. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    You know I'm right.

    When a man makes it his mission in life to make sure a woman never cries, he is going to lose out.

    Women are emotional, and they enjoy experiencing emotions. The actual emotion itself may not cause happiness, but she still wants to experience it.

    When a woman cries, its not a problem that needs to be fixed. Give her a hug and some acceptance, but don't try to "make it better."
     
  20. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    our country is now filled with masculine, feminist women

    when i make these broad sweeping statements, i'm referring to the women i desire:

    feminine women

    you can't have it both ways, sister

    Good lord, I'm a masculine man, yet I manage to cry once or twice a year.
     
  21. verdiocchi

    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    So because I can be in relationships without crying over stupid things I'm masculine? I don't see how the two are connected. I think it just implies that I am able to think about the situations I am without having to physically express my emotions by crying.

    For the record, no one who actually knows me has ever called or described me as masculine.
     
  22. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    Crying is seen as a sign of weakness.

    One of the biggest masculine characteristics: not showing weakness.

    I believe you become upset enough to cry, but you have been conditioned and/or have conditioned yourself to not show that weakness.

    Anyways this is pointless because in all my interactions with women, I can't remember once time when I was agreed with and she simply thought then said "You know what? You are right."

    Its just not a reality or possibility for today's American woman.

    And of course no one is going to describe you as masculine. Its totally acceptable today for women to be masculine. Its considered "normal."
     
  23. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    You're sort of right.. crying shouldn't be a cue to become some crazy supplicating chode.. it also shouldn't be your cue to become an asshole. You can achieve the same positive effect as an asshole by being nice but high-value, without the negative effect of hurting somebody
     
  24. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    So I think all of this is just a lot of words... my father cried at least as much as my mother and my father was the most masculine guy other people knew, including guys with "masculine" fathers. That said I rlly don't see the point of setting up these roles for people. A guy who cries can have a good or a bad effect, same w a girl.
     
  25. Khlav Kalash

    Khlav Kalash RIP JMJ

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    I'm not going there today to "not cry" or to "cry" in front of her. I'm going there to show which ever emotion comes out.

    I am comfortable enough in my own skin and feel man enough to show my emotions, not hold them back so strangers can judge me how other men think I should be.

    I am a man. I am hurt. If I cry, then I cry.
     

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