Not sure where we are at

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  1. 200sr20

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    So me and this girl started hanging out and told eachother we didn't want a relationship. But now we are together at least everyother day and are very affectionate with eachother when we are together. I know I want a relationship with her and it seems like she wants the same but neither of us will bring it up.
     
  2. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Wow. Tricky situation.
     
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    so bring it up. you changed your mind, maybe she did too. you will know if you ask
     
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    Wait until she brings it up. Never bring it up first with a girl.

    One day she'll say, "Are we bf & gf?", and all you need to reply with is "Yeah, I guess we are."

    Seriously if you bring it up first it will just kill the attraction. Girls always want to feel like their relationships just "happened" and all that bullshit... even though they know full well what they are doing when they are hanging out with a guy everyday and being "affectionate".

    Word of warning though... you have to make a move and escalate the relationship to a sexual level, or else you will get friendzoned.
     
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    :werd: assuming it hasn't already happened
     
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    i completely disagree... way to start off the open communication. ib horrible relationship with same poor communication if that's how it gets started.
     
  8. 200sr20

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    We have been doing this for about 6 weeks and it has reached a sexual level.
     
  9. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    if she wants the relationship why hasn't she mentioned it?
     
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    Sounds like she is comfortable about being FWB assuming by "reached a sexual level" means more then cuddling and holding hands.
     
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    "more" would be an understatment!
     
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    for the same reason he hasnt mentioned it
     
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    You would disagree because you're a woman... When it comes to male/female relationships, what women think they want and what they actually respond to are different things.

    Women are not the best advice givers when it comes to dating and relationships. It is best to get that advice from guys that are successful at getting what they want from women. And guys like that never talk about thier "feelings" with a woman.
     
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    Werd!
     
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    so you made entry? yea it sounds to me like she is perfectly happy with a FWB situation otherwise she would have brought it up...
     
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    and why is that? isn't communication important in a relationship? why is it such a big deal who brings "it" up first?
     
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    Communication is important in later stages of a relationship if you want it to work in the long term.

    However guys walk a fine line early in the relationship when it comes to killing any attraction a woman has of him.

    If you kill that attraction you can say bye-bye to that woman. She'll just go find some loser-biker-thug that her friends and parents hate, to have sex with, because he stimulates her emotions more than the guy who talks about his "feelings" does.
     
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    so if SHE was asking the same advice you would tell her to share her feelings with him?
     
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    anyway a really easy way to figure out her true feelings and intentions would be to start dating other women
     
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    :werd: That will stimulate her emotions and her competitive side and the TS will find out how badly she is into him.
     
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    of course. its always better to be honest and open, and therefore find out how the other person is feeling than be left in the dark wondering

    i see no point in not being honest. if you like someone, let them know. if they dont like you back, you can either choose to stay with the relationship never turning into exactly what you want, or you can move on, knowing that you were not both on the same page

    either way, its better to know and you cant know unless you ask
     
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    if what you say is true, then we can assume she doesn't want a relationship with him

    unless other women wouldn't do what you would do
     
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    why, because she hasnt told him she likes him either?
     
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    :rofl: Been there, done that. Never heard from any of those women ever again. Left feeling like a chump with my heart spilled out on the street.

    A woman always wants a guy to "share his feelings", until he actually does and then she loses interest and attraction in him.
     
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    you meet some fucked up women
     

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