Not sure whats going on v.cheating?

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  1. Skulksonaplane

    Skulksonaplane New Member

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    Ok so I found an email conversation between my g/f of almost 5 years and a co-worker of hers. She has my email pw and I have hers so its not like I keylogged to get in or anything.

    Anyways here is a brief synopsis of what was going down.

    Guy asked if my gf wanted to have a 'rendezvous' and nobody had to know about it.

    Gf replies that she would like to go with guy to bahamas.

    I confronted her about it, she claims to not even know what a rendezvous is, she also doesn't think she did anything wrong.

    basically the situation festers, we get to a point where I tell her that this convo she had with a guy friend at work is unacceptable, she admits that she was 'leading him on'.

    Would OT consider this cheating?

    This bum is 30 (we are both 23) and is a meth head.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Sounds like your girlfriend is a winner....

    Everyone has different ideas of what cheating is. Some might consider what she is doing "emotional cheating," but I don't know if I'd consider it that based on oine email. Did she tell you how long this kind of thing has been going on?
     
  3. Skulksonaplane

    Skulksonaplane New Member

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    is the winner comment sarcasm? (seriously, its hard to tell by reading text lol)

    It was a series of emails back and forth for ~2months

    She also stopped emailing him and started using yahoo msger so I wouldn't be able to see her convos anymore.
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Yes, it was definitely sarcasm. You can think the 30 year old "meth head" is a loser all you want, but your 23 year old girlfriend is the one who has been leading him on for fun (or whatever bullshit reason she has).

    So it was just emails? Did she tell you why she was doing it?

    Edit: The fact that she went to messenger so you didn't see it means there's a WHOLE lot more going on here. I'd be over the relationship. It's doubtful you'll regain trust and your relationship is probably over.
     
  5. Skulksonaplane

    Skulksonaplane New Member

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    I am finding it hard to trust her fully again, and with the whole moving it on to the msger is suspicious because she didn't cut the crap and insists on continuing whatever relationship they have.

    Also on another note she told me that another guy from work asked her for money, and she said no. Then she gets a text message on her phone from this other guy saying "thanks for the money" which could have been sarcasm but it also makes me think wtf.

    Whats also shitty is that I am stuck in a lease with her till april and I am trying to make the best out of the situation before I split for the military.
     
  6. lauren

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    how do you know this if you cant see them?



    she could of just as easily put the emails off the record if hiding them was her goal.
     
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    im sorry. I know I'm a jerk, but :rofl: dump her for being an idiot.
     
  8. Skulksonaplane

    Skulksonaplane New Member

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    I walked in on her using the computer while the window was open
     
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    Skulksonaplane New Member

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    She later admitted that she knew what it ment :hs:
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    The more you update the more it becomes glaringly obvious the relationship is pretty much over.

    When do you leave for service? Whose name is on the lease-both of yours or just one?
     
  11. Skulksonaplane

    Skulksonaplane New Member

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    We are both on the lease, luckily for me I will be hitting boot camp soon after the lease expires.

    Lease expires april, I go for bootcamp ~may-june (not set in stone yet)
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Where are you staying from April until you leave?
     
  13. mtnbike4522

    mtnbike4522 CelicaTech.com

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    your leaving for the military?

    shes gonna leave you 5min after you hop on the plane for basic.
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    He needs to leave her before that.
     
  15. Skulksonaplane

    Skulksonaplane New Member

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    Either with my dad (sux living back at home) or something else, not sure yet
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Ok just curious because if things get really bad (even if you aren't psyched about it) you could always move out early and live with him a while longer. It might not be the greatest, but it's better than living with someone like her.
     
  17. Skulksonaplane

    Skulksonaplane New Member

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    I don't know about that... but it would be optimal.
     
  18. mtnbike4522

    mtnbike4522 CelicaTech.com

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    it happend to me.. and lots of guys i was in basic with. even saw a few marriages fall apart.
     
  19. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    She is a liar and sounds like she is cheating.

    As hard as it can be, dump her.
     
  20. Skulksonaplane

    Skulksonaplane New Member

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    I feel that the relationship is pretty much over, and I think it would be better if I was not in a relationship entering the service because it probably wouldn't work in the end.
     
  21. Skulksonaplane

    Skulksonaplane New Member

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    How do I dump her, keep the peace, and still live with her until the lease is up?
     
  22. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    With 4 months in that apartment that is the biggest issue. If you dump her right now with both of you on the lease you can't obviously kick her out. You can see how she feels about you both staying there til the lease ends....maybe you'll get lucky and she'll say she's going to stay with ______ and it will be much better for you, or like I said before there is always the option of you moving to dad's early.

    The trouble with you both staying there broken up for the next few months is just judging by what she's been doing she's likely to not give a shit about your feelings and continue what she's doing or even invite the guy over.
     
  23. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    That is the issue with living with someone. I honestly don't know...
     
  24. Skulksonaplane

    Skulksonaplane New Member

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    I have a bad feeling that her parents would get involved if I dump her now. So I am between a rock and a hard place with this relationship, I'd almost just let it ride until april and then we move on from there.
     
  25. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    get involved how?
     

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