Not sure what is going on with this 18 year old

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  1. schmitty101

    schmitty101 You might remember me from such films as "Dig your

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    So this girl who is in one of my classes suggested that we hang out. We exchanged numbers on saturday, and today (tuesday) we went out for ice cream. She seemed really into me when we were at school but after hanging out I don't know what she wants from me. She is going away to a university this fall, so I asked if she was looking for a serious relationship and she said "no". So we just ate ice cream and talked for about 45 minutes and got to know each other. Turns out she is completely straight edge. She has never tried any drug or ever drank alcohol. She also loves working with and helping handicapped people. She seems like a very good person.

    I just don't know what she wants from me. I'm not sure if she is sexually active or what. I don't really want anything from her except for fooling around and possibly hanging out. I think she may just want a friendship from me, which honestly, I don't care for. I can't tell what her intentions are and I don't know how to ask her without coming off like a pig.

    How should I proceed from here? I'm 21 years old.
     
  2. D7

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    I think this is your opportunity for some p in the b
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :uh::slap:

    She's literally telling you, "I'm not interested in anything serious, but I think you're cute and might have fun dating you."

    Stop being an awkward moron for once! A girl actually wants to be with you! Ask her out again this week for something light and fun like the ice cream. Talk. Get to know her.
     
  4. ww_Crimson

    ww_Crimson New Member

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    If she's a serious "straight edge" person then she probably doesn't have sex either. You're 21, she's 18. I spent a few months doing that dance and I'll never waste my time on it again.
     
  5. THoC

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    is she REALLY straight edge or just doesnt drink, smoke, etc?

    if she truly is straight edge dont bother unless you dont mind just making out and shit.

    if not, wake the fuck up! she wants no strings attached fun times!
     
  6. Nomad

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    awkward morons need love too :hsd:
     
  7. schmitty101

    schmitty101 You might remember me from such films as "Dig your

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    Will do. What would be a good number of dates to quit if she doesn't put out? Again, I don't want to come off like a pig but I'm not gonna date her all summer for nothing.
     
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  9. THoC

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    no... 2. including the ice cream date.
     
  10. schmitty101

    schmitty101 You might remember me from such films as "Dig your

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    I don't know the extent of her straight edginess. I don't know how to ask her if she is abstinent without sounding like a pig.
     
  11. schmitty101

    schmitty101 You might remember me from such films as "Dig your

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    We MIGHT go see a movie or something on Sunday. So if she doesn't put out then I should just stop seeing her?
     
  12. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    She's 18, not every kid got wasted in highschool.
     
  13. THoC

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    ok im sorry, i was just being sarcastic.

    there is no # that we can give you man. you gotta make that decision on your own.

    does each date progress? for example. kissing, then oral, then.......

    is each date 1, 2, 3, etc.... making out and nothing more?


    what are you looking to do get out of it?
     
  14. schmitty101

    schmitty101 You might remember me from such films as "Dig your

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    Good point. In HS I was surrounded by people who got wasted all the damn time. Sometimes I think that everyone was doing it so when she told me she never has I was like shocked.
     
  15. SATANICXBAPTISM

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    She might want some NSA fun.
    Just because someone is straight-edge doesn't mean they don't have sex.
    Drugs, drinking, smoking is a no, but sex has always been lenient with certain people.
     
  16. Kyoko

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    Straight edge people are fucking insane. ABORT. ABORT.
     
  17. Kinks

    Kinks Sup. OT Supporter

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    just ask her if she wants friendship or is she open to the idea of fooling around. then you've got your answer.

    OT can't help you figure it out, she's the only one who knows what she's up for.
     
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    :werd: :hsugh:
     
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    she's playing hard to get and you're available... reverse this situation
     
  20. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :werd: sXe means no promiscuous sex. Many straight edge people interpret this to mean no sex outside of a committed relationship. So if she honestly isn't looking for a relationship, sex might well be out of the picture.
    Ask her about being straight-edge. Tell her you're curious about it, that you know there are different perspectives on being straight-edge and you wanted to know what it means to her. If she talks about it and doesn't mention sex, simply ask. I've never known a straight edge person who was afraid to talk about their beliefs. :rofl:
    :rolleyes:
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Dude, you can't ever even get girls to talk to you, let alone sleep with you off the bat. You don't know how to make it happen, and now that there is a girl interested in you you can't fuck this up by being an idiot and trying to force sex! :uh:

    No.

    You people are really fucking weird, but maybe that's because you haven't read this guy's thousand past threads and don't realize how desperately this kid needs to not just get laid, but have actual conversations with women first.

    If you don't get laid by the 3rd date, but enjoy the girl's company and like her, I say keep going. ANY first-hand dating skills you can learn along with practicing how to speak to girls will only help you in the long run. So you might not get laid for a month; you already weren't getting laid to begin with.
     
  22. john law

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    Ok, somebody being "straight edge" doesn't mean they are a prude. Wow.

    This girl Lauren wouldn't do drugs or drink...yet she would be down to hook up.

    I don't do drugs, and maybe drink 5-6 times a year max never get drunk...yet I'm down to hook up.

    It is possible to hook up and have fun without drugs and alcohol.
     
  23. antihero

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    just kiss the girl on the next date and report back
     
  24. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :werd:
     
  25. vodkacollins

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    can i bold and dot this multiple times?

    i would understand dropping her if you had no other prospects and you didnt complain about not being able to meet people all the time, but since thats not the case, i think you should take this as a good learning opportunity (that is, of course, as long as you actually like this girl as you continue to get to know her)

    have you ever kissed a girl? have you ever done oral? have you ever had sex?
     

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