Not sure how to respond

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  1. ww_Crimson

    ww_Crimson New Member

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    So if you've been following my past couple threads you probably have an idea of whats going on, if not here's the summary

    I'm interested in a girl in my biology class but she recently got out of a relationship so I didn't try and push anything too far. We casually talk and lightly flirt in class but very little contact with each other, other than that.


    Last night she posted a myspace bulletin pretty late at night, right about the time I got home from work.. it said

    "I just want a guy who cares and shows it" so I replied to her with something like "You must be pretty stressed out over it to be up so late"

    Today she sent me a response saying

    " lol every guy that acts like hes interested but will never acctualy pursue me or starts to and quits...its annoying "

    So basically I'm not sure how I should respond.. phone call.. text message.. myspace reply.. wait till class.. and not exactly sure what I should say. I'd like to get to know her more and ask her out on a date but if things don't work out I'd just be falling right into that category. Any suggestions?
     
  2. HouseLing

    HouseLing When masturbations lost its fun you'r fucking lazy

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    in person > phone call > anything else
     
  3. crazy15

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    ask her out to dinner or a coffee .
     
  4. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    don't give advice if you don't know what you're talking about


    OP: sounds to me like you're the kind of guy who girls see as "a really nice guy" and "a brother". That's not good bro. That's not good at all
     
  5. ww_Crimson

    ww_Crimson New Member

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    I don't know if that's necessarily the case. With some girls, sure, but definitely not all. I really haven't spent much time or effort trying to talk to this girl because she just got out of a relationship.. I dunno, we'll see what happens. I don't really care much either way whether I get friend zoned on this one or not.
     
  6. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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  7. Shadoxity

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    ask her out what have u got to lose?
     
  8. crazy15

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    yea really bad idea to ask her to hang out? ok you're cool :gtfo:
     
  9. MattThom01

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    he has a point regarding asking her out on a real date as opposed to "just hanging out"

    But to be honest, I also think ware is showing signs of being extremely stuck up.

    Offering criticism with no advice isn't going to help anyone.

    To the OP. Ask her out. Go with something like "hey, let's go out this weekend. We'll go bowling or play mini golf".

    Something along those lines.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Ask her out in class. Nowhere else. DO IT!
     
  11. noodle

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    just take a deep breath and talk to her.
     
  12. Cheeks

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    She's saying she wants someone to take charge and follow through with his intentions. Do it.
     
  13. Nitin

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    Listen to this man and just do it!
     
  14. NCS

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    you have nothing to lose by doing it
     
  15. Guz200sx

    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    WHENEVER you see her again...Just go up to her and be like "i got your myspace message and I decided YOU are going to take ME out on the town tonite and show me a good time! So get ready cause I'm kinda hard to please ;-)"

    Then just make sure you have your plans all set up where you want to take her.
     
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    I would wait till you are in class, flirt some more, then mid class, tell her you're going to take her out for a drink, don't ask her, tell her...
     
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    This works too :p
     
  18. Abomb

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    ask her to come with you on a date to *insert some bad ass fun place you can take her that doesnt involve eating or movie*
     
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    Going to ask her to come cosmic bowling with a few friends tomorrow night. Today before class she made it sound like she had a pretty busy weekend planned but cosmic bowling doesn't even start until 11pm, so it'll be interesting to see what she says. Update(s) to come sunday.
     
  20. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I think that is a spectacular idea! Maybe throwing her into a one on one date would be a little nerve-racking considering she is newly single. She'll get to see you with your friends, happy, in your element and hopefully will be more attracted to you while having a good time. Bowling is a great oppurtunity to get touchy as well. When she does something well you congratulate her with pats, hugs, etc.
     
  21. Cheeks

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    Oh, and don't tell her you're doing it in response to her comment; just take charge and go for it.
     
  22. ledzep73

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    :werd: Low pressure environment where everyone is feelin good makes it hard to feel pressured and feel bad. Tell if she wants to bring a friend so she knows more people that would be cool, I'm guessing she has a close girlfriend that makes her feel more comfortable?
     
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    Yeah so I asked her tonight and she said she wants to come but can't because her older cousin is in town who she hasn't seen for a couple of months.

    Normally I'd take this as an excuse / sign of not being interested but I'm pretty confident that it's legit. When I saw her earlier today one of the first things she brought up was how busy she was going to be this weekend with work and having her cousin come visit her.

    Anyways, haven't lost hope yet because she seemed genuinely interested so I guess next week I'll try again.
     
  24. BeHeadR

    BeHeadR Only Slightly Insane

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    She's avoiding you dude - I can just tell you are way too much of a nice guy.
     
  25. fray

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    Don't wait til next week....at least, not next weekend.
     

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