not being able to cum during sex

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  1. cadalaska

    cadalaska Guest

    hi
    when my girlfriend and i have sex, i usually don't bust a nut, and we could be going at it for 15 or 30 minutes, it depends on the mood or time, but i can't seem to bust a nut during sex. i usually wack off the previous night not thinking i'm going to have sex, and then i turn out having sex later that day/night.

    is the masturbation causing me to stay up longer and not cum quicker?
     
  2. WeRdToYoMoThA

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    people using the phrase "bust a nut" shouldnt be having sex :hs:
     
  3. cadalaska

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    ha whats the proper wording for that then?
     
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    orgasm :ugh:
     
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    well, don't masturbate too much.
     
  6. Roughneck

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    Maybe you and her are not "well" together??
     
  7. cadalaska

    cadalaska Guest

    explain?
     
  8. spd18x

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    quit bating and you wont have a problem getting off during sex. besides, sex > bating
     
  9. Diedemus

    Diedemus Google is my HMO

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    15 - 30 minutes isnt long at all, try going for 3 hours and not being able to climax, then complain.
     
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  11. 17x9roh

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    thats what i was thinking 15-30mins is nothing to worry about unless you wanna be quick:ugh:
    gives you time for more postions and see what you and her really like :hsd:
     
  12. hayte997

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    Is she ugly?
     
  13. -=Likwid=-

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    try to restrain yourself for masterbation for a week or so, you'll notice a difference :)
     
  14. Dalius

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    are you using condoms? if so, make sure they aren't uber thick ones...i had a problem like that before, but i switched to thinner condoms and it worked :)
     
  15. Freeze Time

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    Durex ultra-thin are the way to go, add a little astroglide or KY to really get it slippery and you should have no problem. BTW.. there are guys out there who would kill someone to be able to last 15 minutes in bed. Its more of a blessing than a curse.

    However, stress, how tired you are, how horny you are, recent sexual activity will also factor in how long you last.

    Also try asking her what SHE likes, and tell her to express herself, its weird at first, but once you know youre doing something for her, it becomes more rewarding for yourself and voila you can get off too. :bigthumb:
     
  16. Roughneck

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    Maybe she is.... well..... doesn't wrap around you real well. Or your guys chemistry is just not there. I have had this happen where there just wasn't enough chemistry with a few girls and all I can say is that I do not have any issues with other girls.
     
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    Repost PENCIL DICK

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    I'm pretty sure you're only 16 and having sex. So shut up.
     
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    im 18 and not having sex.
     
  19. 6SpeedTA95

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    :rofl: @ "whats the proper wording" geeeeeez unfreakin believable. WTF is the matter with you people. Quit wackin' off so damn much that might help. Maybe you just have good stamina? I tend to go a while before I have an orgasm.
     
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    Because you're too pussy hurt about the break-up :o
     
  21. aznh2oman

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    ejactulating

    :wiggle:
     
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    It's the condoms. Try the pull out method.
     
  23. Shelby500

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    it might be the position you are trying, or that you are new to sex. when i first had sex i couldnt orgasm from sex, she had to jack me off at the end.

    don't give up and trying many positions, after a while you'll get good at moving your hips and have control and eventually orgasm.
     
  24. nailcrazy

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    be happy your the take forever guy and not the minute man :hsd:


    Personally whacking has no affects on me anytime. It's all mental and i think it is with alot of people.

    If she lays there like a dead fish and has no emotions/feelings and just isn't into things then i could see the problem. Now im sure this isn't the case but now it has become more of a "self induced pressure" situation with yourself. Your now thinking "god i need to cum, why can't i cum" instead of just letting things go and not concentrating on it.

    I know with myself if the distraction of "don't cum yet" is going through my mind it tends to be over fairly quik. Doesnt matter if its the 1st or 3rd time around. But the time's when we are in a hurry to be somewhere it always ends in me just not being able to finish.


    I'd say its a mental thing or she's a total bore in bed and you need to spice things up more. Less silent time and thinking about the "problem".
     
  25. hottkickznike

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    i had the same probs till i started i started hitting raw
     

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