No webcam love for the deployed boyfriend?? :sad:

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  1. Coco Monkey

    Coco Monkey OT Supporter

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    Okay, so just in case you guy didn't know, I've been in Baghdad now since Jan. I met this girl about 4 months prior, and we fell madly in love with each other. She's a great girl, everything about her is what i want in my life. I plan on buying a ring when i get back.

    SO far, for the last 9 1/2 months, we've had a pretty good channel of communication. I have internet at my disposal most of the time, and phones are always up. We miss each other badly as one can imagine. There's just one thing thats bugging the hell outa me.

    All the rest of the guys im here with, their wives, gf's, whatever send them pictures all the time. Webcams are the THING to do at night now. My roommate, his girlfriend gets naked and goes buck wild for him ALMOST everynight. Other guys in my company, that's all they talk about now. "Yeah, last night my wife and I webcamed for a good 4 hours. She busted out the vibe." "Girlfriend was naked and touching herself for me, I watched it all, it was awesome!" and so on and so forth. MY girlfriend, refuses to do any of that. The most risky thing she'll do is send me pictures of like her in her business clothes, or maybe her bend over wearing some blue jeans. :squint:

    Being deployed is difficult enough, let alone the sexual frustration that comes with it. When i try to ask the gf to do MORE for me, she always comes back with the usual, "i dont feel sexy", or "my ass is huge, i dont want to take a picture of it". Gimme a break, im not showing them to my whole company, and we've slept together i dont know how many times, so its nothing new.

    Any one have any suggestions on what i should or COULD do?? I only have about 3 months left in this shit hole, so im thinking i should just tough it out at this point. If she hasnt done it at this point, what makes me think she'll change now?? I would rather beat off to pics of her then just some fucking porn. She doesnt understand that i guess... :(







    CLIFFS: Ive been in Iraq for 9 months, and gf wont get sexy for me on webcam or send sexy pictures.
     
  2. R.Kelly

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    shes prob not doing it bc she is afraid you will show everyone.

    Which most guys would.
     
  3. Coco Monkey

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    she knows i wouldnt tho. thats the thing. besides, i dont want other horny soldiers beatin off thinking of my girl. I want to beat off to my girlfriend.
     
  4. Brando

    Brando wanna be :broly: and :bike: crew.

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    Maybe she doesn't trust you enough? Hard to build a stronger relationship over the internet.
     
  5. rkf76

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    Well bro, it's only 3 more months then you get to tax that ass live and in person!!! I know it sucks for you, but you've dealt with it this long, a few more months ain't gonna break you. Don't make an issue out of it, just let it ride.
     
  6. lauren

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    thats sweet. :hs:

    um...i dunno. it took a while for me to send my LD pics...and they was after we had been dating for two years in the same town.

    maybe shes shy, or feels silly doing it. i felt so out of place...like, im ok attractive and all but i dont pull off 'sexy' or whatnot well....so doing things like that just made me feel foolish.

    probably self esteam related with a little trust issues thrown in for good measure.
     
  7. Another Loser

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    By complaining that you asked her to do more and are angry that she doesn't you are just being selfish. "I want this but she won't give it to me."
     
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    erm.. i would not push it.. she is pretty smart not to send your nude photos.. I would never give my hubby any.. just for the simple fact that it might fall in to the wrong hands.. or if you guys do break up (i hope it dosent happen.. not saying it will) alot of assholes post it on the internet .. (EXP OT)
     
  9. RedVsBlue

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    Sounds like you want her to do it because the other guys do it....not to see her.

    Either way, if she is uncomfortable with it, then get over it. If you are SOOOO in love with her, that after only seeing her for 4 months and then spending 9 months away from her you now plan to buy a ring, then why expect her to do something she is uncomfortable with?

    Just let all that sexual frustration build up, and screw like rabbits when you get back.
     
  10. Coco Monkey

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    i guess you're right. you and red vs. blue make valid points.

    i'll just shut up and buy my time. thanks for the reality check guys.
     
  11. JordanClarkson

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    Start out with phone sex, maybe she'd get more comfortable about it
     
  12. Yail Bloor

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    That's a huge red flag in my opinion. Was she at all shy about sex before you left?
     
  13. antihero

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    shes gotten fat! :noes: im just messing with you... some girls are just like that. While i would be disapointed that shes not up for a little sexy fun, it's no big deal really, as long as she otherwise has a good attitude towards sex.
     
  14. Two toys

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    ill webcam for you.
     
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    thats hawt....:ugh:
     
  16. Cerridwen

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    huge red flag? They only knew each other for 4 months prior to him being deployed! Sorry, but I wouldn't neccesarily trust you with naked pictures either. Like someone else said, it IS hard to build a relationship over the internet, you may think you know someone but do you really?
    I say don't push it. It's only 3 months.
    Good luck and THANK YOU for serving/defending our country!
     
  17. Cerridwen

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    :squint: can't that get him kicked out of the military? (don't ask, don't tell)?
     
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    ha ha ha ha :) I was gonna say something :)
     
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    what if you get her a gift certificate to victorias secret or some other similar store and tell her to pick out what she feels sexy in. then take pictures of that. it's not nude but it'll probably be better than blue jeans. :dunno:
     
  20. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Her mosa? ITS MY MOSA!!!
    In her defense it is really difficult to take pictures of yourself. I am currently in and LDR, well sort of, and my SO wants pics and things like that. It takes a few hours, when nobody is home, then you end up taking like 30 and only sending like 10. Plus you two haven't known each other for that long really. I knew my SO for about a year before I sent him pics. My ex husband was a marine, and all I sent for him was a talking picture frame, and other random care packages. You know? Like miss me when you are over there, the sex shouldn't be your main concern?? I dunno, that is how I felt with him at least. I sent him porn all the time, lol, I didn't even think of sending pics at that point.
     
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    being in the military i can certainly sympathize with your situation, but yeah im gonna go with dont worry about it
     
  22. Coco Monkey

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    thank you all for your responses. I actually emailed her telling her that i wasnt going to force the issue of pictures or webcams anymore and appologized for me being pushy. she sent me back a reply this morning, and i'll share with you all. basicly yea, she's not comfortable doing that kinda stuff in front of a camera. this is what she wrote to me after i explained that i took care of my sexual frustration myself and ect. :hs:

    her email: Secondly, I am glad that you handled your sexual frustrations. I figured you were going to take care of that sooner than the following morning. I was acutally saying the other day that I am experiencing sexual frustrations and how badly I cant wait for you to come home. I know that you are a very sexual person, and I think that it is great and one of the many things i love about you. I think that our mutual sexual attraction is such a valuable part of our relationship. I am willing to be somewhat adventurous(i know that may sound far fetched), but it is just not my style to express that to you over the internet from my end. You know I even hate posing for the camera. It is a side of me that I just dont know how to express unless physically with you. I dont know what my problem is with it. I am not mad at you for pushing me, but i assure you it is just something I am not comfortable with and it has nothing to do you with you personally and I hope you know that. You know I would do anything in my power to satify you, but i cannot make myself do things i am uncomfortable with. It does mean a lot to me that you respect my feelings.





    soooooooo, i guess all's well once more. thanks to everyone who responded! :wavey:
     
  23. Yail Bloor

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    Only 4 months? One of the first things he said was they "fell madly in love." If she isn't comfortable with it by now, I doubt she ever will be.

    But after reading what she emailed him, I can see how she could be uncomfortable with the webcam thing.
     
  24. RedVsBlue

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    I think when you get home, you are going to get the best thank you ever for serving your country. And then you are going to get that "thank you" over and over and over again. :rofl: Just dont make any babies unless you are ready for that, i hear that happens alot.

    My friend worked at fedex and he did the rout that goes to Ft Cambell (101st Airborn)...right before the troops would be deployed, and right before they got back, they would litterally get MASSIVE shipments of BC and condoms.
     
  25. XGaSpAcHo

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    glad to hear all is well. make sure you get plenty of rest before you go home because you'll need it :naughty:

    oh and thank you for what you're doing for our country. :bowdown:
     

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