Ok, so I am currently seperated from my husband. We tried to work it all out after the first situation and basically all of that turned to shit. During this time that I was trying to salvage my marriage and get back on the right path I was sharing all of my ups and downs with a close friend of mine (for about 7 years now) and he wasn't very sympathetic. Now, I'm not asking for a pity party by any means. I can handle myself rather well in any sort of stressful situation, but his lack of 'sympathy' if you will, started transforming into rather hateful attacks on my intelligence. I am by far a stupid woman. Well, after my husband left for the second time my friend seemed to become a little friendlier (once he found out via a mutual friend). During his 'black period' I quit talking with him, seeing as how 90% of our conversations are through email that wasn't a difficult task. Fast forward to today. My husband and I had a clash, not too terribly ugly but I feel I handled myself well and was quite proud because in the middle of this argument we had actually achieved something. Go figure, an argument with a positive ending. Well, I shared my news with my friend. The intent was to discuss what I had accomplished with very, very little emphasis on my future ex husband. It was something for me to be proud of (by the way, we were arguing over my sons school tuition and whether we should remove him from private school for a year while we deal with the divorce or not. I said we should seeing as how I am paying for it, and he disagreed, we came to a common ground). My friend sends me 3 (yes three) different emails in return focused only on how he feels that my husband is somehow walking on me and how I am somehow being stupid over things. Only in a vicious manner and quite honestly it stung. I've never said such mean things to another person, especially a friend. I don't understand how he could possibly call me a friend and be so cruel. On purpose. The only thought that keeps crossing my mind is why does he care about how my ex may or may not be treating me if he feels I am so stupid? Is there something I am missing here? Any thoughts on this irrational behavior? I'd greatly appreciate it. **Just to put into picture his life, he's married, but currently getting a divorce and lives about 200 miles away from me but plans on returning to St. Louis once his divorce is finalized (to help his mom, or so he claims).