New GF.. Can't make her come :/

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  1. No-Logic

    No-Logic Jus' Pimp'ing

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    Hey all,

    I am in a fairly new relationship, been together about a month, maybe a little more. We have only had sex 3 times so far. So far I have not been able to make her come via sex..

    With my past ex girlfriends I have never had a problem. Infact, totally the opposite. I have both my past 2 gf's chasing me, sending me dirty messages etc, asking for me to come back, asking for sex... some are very rude :o

    I am told (being honest and serious here) that I have a rather good sized... and I am told I am very good at using it.

    I just don't know what to do with her, or where I am going wrong. My past gf's have been very experimental and open sexually. This one is very innocent and inexperienced..

    I have not come during sex with her yet, as I want her to come first..and then some..before I.

    Any ideas? I don't want to make her feel bad, but at the same time I am starting to feel a bit bad myself for not being able to please her like I want to..

    Thanks.. :sadwavey:
     
  2. laracroft

    laracroft teh croft

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    You can't make her come with oral sex, or with vaginal sex?
     
  3. No-Logic

    No-Logic Jus' Pimp'ing

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    vaginal

    we havn't done oral yet. I couldn't make her come with my fingers either.. which is very weird for me.
     
  4. WeRdToYoMoThA

    WeRdToYoMoThA Girlies on Standby, Waiting to say Hi

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    i couldnt do it after a year and a half :eek3:
     
  5. Zemo

    Zemo n00b of the year

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    Take it slow, she needs to relax more. And really, sex without orgasm isn't bad. Try some new moves....most women find it hard to have a vaginal orgasm anyways. try direct motion type manipulation of the clit. Try oral, and use your fingers focusing on the clit, not the vaginal canal or g-spot. take it slow, let her relax, and it's just fine to not orgasm.
     
  6. Godspeed

    Godspeed New Member

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    perhaps she's still a little nervous and cant fully relax?
     
  7. No-Logic

    No-Logic Jus' Pimp'ing

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    I was thinking it could be nerves. She did say the first time to take it gentle as shes not expierenced (which i love..) This girl is really special to me, and I want to make sure everythings ok.

    I've asked her what feels good etc. during it.. and she's said it all feels good. Last night she seemed to like something I was doing..but after 5 mins or that she kinda got over it and we stopped shortly after.

    The second time, I noticed a diff. in breating and she kinda said "thats it.."..and really started to react, but whatever I was doing I must of lost and it didn't lead anywhere..
     
  8. No-Logic

    No-Logic Jus' Pimp'ing

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    Oh, also, last night she put a cushion under her lower back. IF that gives any clues :) Maybe she asked her friends or something..
     
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    Zemo n00b of the year

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    you need more direct clitoral stimulation....pillow under the back = arched back = downward angled clit = she needs the direct stimulation from your pubic bone or base of the penis.
     
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    No-Logic Jus' Pimp'ing

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    Whats the best way to do that during sex? Other positions etc?
     
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    Zemo n00b of the year

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    Missionary works well, if you know how to work it. Ride higher (might be a bit uncomfy for Jimmy), or when your all the way, in, grind with your pelvis a bit. or, let her be on top and control/find out what she likes. Her on top, then laying down on you works well too, lets her figure the best way to hit it.
     
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    No-Logic Jus' Pimp'ing

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    The first time she was on top, and she has refused to do it since then. I've asked her to ride me a couple of times... Few good ideas though
     
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    Zemo n00b of the year

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    Sounds like the main thing is that she just needs to relax. Learn to enjoy the feelings, and not supress them, which is what most girls do when inexperienced. Just give her time, and do everything in your power to make sure she's relaxed and comfortable.
     
  14. No-Logic

    No-Logic Jus' Pimp'ing

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    girls are so complex

    :noes:
     
  15. Mogizide

    Mogizide You want antidote, I got the poison.

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    Don't forget that good sex is 90% mental.. If you create an atmosphere where all she can think about is you and what you can do for/to her then her mind will make her bust one quicker then you could ever do to her with your own body.. Things like building anticipation, speaking to her gently (but firmly) in the tone she likes, and paying attention to her fantasies can trigger a woman's own personal sexual euphoria.

    Being involved on a spiritual level coupled with the physical pleasure you can provide will totally knock her socks off guaranteed... and soon you she'll be cumming so often that it may sometimes break your own concentration...:o
     
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    Zemo n00b of the year

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    Word to that. emotional involvment is a plus. Spiritual involvment is a MEGA plus. Tantric Buddhism.....good stuff.
     
  17. Women are weird

    I've had woman who would beg me for sex and obsse over me because they said that I was the only guy that was able to make them cum then again I had allot of woman who complained to me about not being able to make them cum I honestly believe that size and techniques don't get women off as much as how one makes them feel dose kind of like...anyone who can make a woman feel secure and talk romance to them etc etc will make them cum more so then someone with a huge 12 incher or someone that is a professional pussy eater.

    Woman want to be romanced they love it when their B/Fs tell them how pretty they are or when their B/F-s smell them and tell them how good they smell write them love poems, stuff like that.


    Tell your G/F that she's beautiful look her in the eyes and say it in a serious way stroke stroke her hair ( always look deep into her eyes )

    I think shes just nervous give it some time and try those techniques
     
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  18. No-Logic

    No-Logic Jus' Pimp'ing

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    Cheers for the words all.

    I kissed her a lot etc during it, and we had candles and stuff. She actually went to put the candles on (in her room..), maybe thats what she was thinking. I always make sure she feels comfortable and everything... I guess I'll have to go work on this :)
     
  19. I Pwn Noobs

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    dude you suck at teh sex
     
  20. audrey

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    I can't come vaginally either not all women. That doesn't mean that I don't like sex.

    Lick the clit... lick the clit!
     
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    I agree! The hornier she is the better everything feels.
     
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    change your technique, experiment, try different patterns tempos and pressures. the same thing for one woman wont necessarily work for the next.

    also, she's inexperienced. talk to her about it. maybe she's never had an orgasm at all. my girlfriend had one (maybe two) before me. but if you pay attention to what they're doing you can likely adapt and figure their pleasure zones out. take your time, dont beat urself up about it.
     
  23. BiffHenderson

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    As others have said, it's probably a comfort level. Also, maybe she doesn't know what works best for her yet.

    Next time, see if you can read her without asking her what feels good. I wonder if you asking her, makes her nervous. Good luck.
     
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    how old is she?
     
  25. Smoked

    Smoked $5.50? Man fuck the avatar...how about you just sh

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    get her drunk
     

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